Signs to look for when you think your boyfriend is gay
83There are many signs to think of that your boyfriend is a gay, but dont get wild of what you are thinking because it is not that easy. There are many guys who are acting like girls, wear pink stuff or chat with macho men, but in reality they are not gay. To make sure lets find it in this article.
- Some say that a guy is gay if Dressing more feminine
- Looking at other men in a different way
- Holding his hands different
- Changes his clothes
- Stealing your makeup
- Paints the walls pink/purple
- Or if when hes with men he hugs them or acts slightly different
Here is a cool signs to think about contributed by: Sarah Kivi
Tell tale signs of a gay boyfriend are easy to over look at first. I had a relationship with an attractive, intelligent, well dressed guy for about 3 months. I ended it because I was convinced that he was more interested in my brother than in me. A few weeks later, he came out of the closet. All the flashing neon signs were clear as crystal after I had the advantage of hind sight. It may sound cliche, but these were some things I noticed.
1) It takes him longer to do his 1" hair than it takes me to blow dry and flat iron my shoulder length hair. 2) He noticed a slightly different shade of lipstick and asked if I had just added a gloss or if it was a new shade. 3) He critiques clothes like your girlfriends. Meaning, he would never say "You look fat in those jeans", but may suggest "Those jeans are hugging all the wrong places tonight girl". 4) He's obsessed with his appearance. Daily trips to the gym, a medicine cabinet full of hair product, face cream, face masks, three kinds of cologne and a drawer full of dry cleaning receipts. 5) He compliments things that most men don't notice (i.e. a slightly different hair style, a pedicure or manicure from a new nail salon).I asked him a few times if he was gay or ever thought he might be and he denied it every time. He never got upset or really defensive, but maybe that's why I didn't believe him. You know in your heart if something is a little off, but your man may not be ready to admit to himself or the public that he is gay yet. If you have a lot of feelings for him, it's best to end it immediately. A romantic relationship with a man who likes men is never going to last and you should try to minimize the damage.
Here is another wild signs for your to find out to our boyfriend contributed by: crunkish.com
Being in a relationship is not easy. It is also very unpredictable. One day, you are having the greatest moment of your life with your partner and the next day, you are crying your eyes out. One day, you desperately want to spend the rest of your life with your partner and the next day, you may find your things all packed up out on the sidewalk. Yes, being in a relationship is very difficult. It is much more difficult if you think that your partner is also having affections for the same sex. It may even be the hardest challenge that any couple could deal with.
Figuring out whether your loved one is gay or not is a very tricky business. There are as many types of gayness as there are many gay guys in the world. Some homosexuals want their sexual orientation be known to the whole world. Others are still hiding inside their dark closet, trying to avoid being caught. These men act like ordinary men that you can hardly imagine what their true sexuality is.
If you think your boyfriend is gay, watch out for signs. Most gay people share things that are unique or, at least, distinct to them. You have to remember, however, that these signs are a bit stereotypical. These are not absolute. If you see these signs on your boyfriend, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is gay or bisexual. Not seeing these signs doesn’t mean that he is not, either. Again, playing detective is a tricky business. But hey, give it a shot. Here are the top 10 signs that your boyfriend belongs to the fabulous federation.
10. The Bathroom Rituals
Pay attention to his grooming habits. Notice how he meticulously does his hair. Try to find out how he chose the grooming products he owns. An average guy doesn’t care about what brand or what type of products he uses. Is he particularly interested in top designer shoes and other accessories? Another warning sign is the time he spends inside the bathroom. If he takes longer than you do, that may be a sign that he is playing for the other team.
9. The Diva Fanaticism
People always consider gay guys to be fans of many divas. If your boyfriend likes listening to divas such as Whitney Houston, Mariah Carey, Celine Dion, Barbra Streisand and (God forbid) Cher, then he might be one flaming gay man. Have you ever seen your boyfriend listening to any of these divas’ records? Or worse, have you ever heard him singing any of their songs? And if he indeed sings their songs, does he do it in falsetto? If your answer is yes, then that could be a sign.
8. The Beauty Pageant Obsession
For some reason, gay guys love watching beauty pageants as far as stereotypes are concerned. These events are a celebration of beauty and glamor that many gay people really value. Of course, your boyfriend won’t let his fascination to beauty pageant be known but if you really want to know, here’s a quick tip. While talking about another topic, ask this question out of the blue: Oh by the way, who was the 1999 Miss Universe? If he is able to give you an answer, be scared girl. Be very scared. Gay people also love awards shows such as the Oscars, the Golden Globe, Emmy, Grammy and many others.
7. The Shifty Eyes
Another excellent way to know if your boyfriend is gay is by simply observing his eyes. Yep, it’s all in the eyes. The next time you two are walking in a mall or around a local park with numerous people, notice how his eyes move. Some gay people let their eyes wander and jump from one guy to another. Notice how he shifts his vision when a hot man passes by. If his eyes are shifty when he is around men, he might be gay.
6. The Urinal Dilemma
A closeted gay man also feels uncomfortable and uneasy around straight guy friends as he tries hard not to make his concealed sexuality to show. In a public men’s room, a closeted gay man is also uncomfortable using any empty urinal when other straight men are using the ones near his. Often, instead of using the urinals, he would go inside the cubicle and just pee into the toilet bowl.
5. The Oprah Quotes
Gay men, whether out or closeted, are inspired by many gay people who have proven their worth in history. There is just pure pride and sense of accomplishment that many gay guys feel when someone gay is able to achieve something. This can be evident by his in-depth knowledge on these things. Can’t he go five minutes without quoting Oscar Wilde? Does he keep on stressing out that Alexander the Great was gay and that he was in love with his best friend? Does he always talk about how Oprah did something? OK, Oprah is not gay but many gay people love her.
4. The X-Men Factor
Do you play video games with your boyfriend? If so, you’ll be glad that there is also a way of knowing if he is guy just by looking at his character choices. Many gay men would pick a female character in a game on a versus mode. For example, in X-Men, Storm is a gay man’s favorite. It is not sure whether there is a psychological explanation for this but it is a trend. If your boyfriend chooses a male character, it doesn’t mean that you’re safe. Cyclops is also often a gay man’s pick because, well, he is extremely hot. And he abhors Jean Grey for that.
3. The Fashion Compliments
Your boyfriend might be gay if he gives you too much compliments in a very unmanly way. For example, instead of saying “You look beautiful,” he goes “I like the way your top matches the tan-ness of your skin and oh, your boots are so fetch.” If you hear that from your boyfriend, don’t feel glad. You might just have a gay partner.
2. The Downright Gay-bashing
Gay people hiding inside the closet are usually very vocal about their distaste and hatred for gay men. While it seems a little counterintuitive, there is a reason why they do it. Because they don’t want to be caught or be suspected that they are members of the third sex, they would cover their true identity by blatantly expressing their rage against gay men. They also tend to overdo this; thus, they become harsh gay-bashers. If your boyfriend is like that, then he might be gay. As one adage goes, the greatest homophobe is homosexual.
1. The Beautiful Strangers
Check out his Myspace page. One of the most definitive signs that your boyfriend is gay is that there are some male strangers in his Myspace list of friends or contacts. If you have never seen these men or you don’t know whether they are your boyfriend’s friends in person, they might just had their communication online. An average straight guy won’t view, much less add to his list of contacts, a man he doesn’t know personally. It’s not just Myspace, browse through his Facebook or Friendster page and see if you can find some. Or worse, research and try to find out if he has accounts in gay networking sites. You can also check your browser’s history to see if he has visited any gay adult site on the web.
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The truth is, you don’t need all these signs to know whether your partner is gay or not. What you should do is sit down and talk to him about it. Make him feel that it is all right and that you understand. Finding out if your boyfriend is gay needs a little observation and a lot of honesty.
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I enjoyed it, but isn't it hard to find out which urinal your boyfriend uses?
Well, if I ever get a boyfriend, I guess I won't need to look for signs he is a gay - I would know this for sure :D
Be careful in the bedroom if you have suspicions, gay guys are most often lending their STD's to straight women because of their closet behavior. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks, this was helpful because I had my suspicions and it was great to have a laugh about it.
Haha I love this! I was waiting for Celine Dion to pop up somewhere :)
this is hilarious
Aw man, I was hoping for more subtle things! Liking Barbra Streisand seems too easy :)
My friend caught her bf online entering a gay chatroom and shifting his name and entering into a conversation with a guy. They broke up. Now she's happily married. :)
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Wow. what a comprehensive hub, All that you have written is absolutely right. I was so naive that I had no idea, until the time comes that he confessed. All these signs had been there but I never thought that it was a flashing sign that he is a member of the third sex. I don't know how to react or what to feel at first but we've decided to keep it a secret and to still keep our friendship.
these fucking gay men needs to be burnt with some thing real fucking hot i just hate the fact that they leave the use of a woman to go play in something that as in a whole lot of shit fucking nasty if i found out that my man is fuckin a man he would not like to know how i would end that story so he better not show no signs not even to have his little finger hanging off when he is doing any thing he better not play that shit cause i am one fucking mad black woman dont fuck no man and i wont fuck u up i hate u you fucking batty men but god loves you
lol! What a wrap. This is so funny. But yes, absolutely this is possibly true. Great hub. :)
Better groomed, looking good, tidier, noticing when you have had that new hair cut. So long as he's still good in the bed room, who cares if he's gay. Isn't he what every woman wants as her dream man? LOL
I agree with petexanh. You can go shopping together, share hair products, where's the problem?
I like gay guys. For a friend of course. If they are involved in a sexual relationship with a woman, then what are they thinking? It certainly cannot be sexually exciting for them.
It's best to be honest in cases like this, and just because someone is different, it does not mean that person is bad. I think tolerance is a good thing, and people who are straight should just thank God that they are, because I am not so sure that gay guys can even help the way they are. They all talk and act funny, I can pick one out right away. Can they help that? I don't think so!
Funny, good article! Something else to watch for, maybe:
Before my step brother came out of the closet he had a girlfriend. I suspected for years before that he was gay for a number of reasons and at first I thought I had been wrong when he introduced his girlfriend. That is until he kissed her in front of all of us. He looked at the family first to see that we were watching then he kissed her, it looked as if he were performing for a stage audition. Trying to make it seem like a passionate kiss. Then he looked up at the rest of us again. It was subtle enough that when I commented on it to another family member after the happy couple left, the rest of the family had not noticed. I could tell though. So, does he make a point to be affectionate around friends or family? That might be another sign. Couldn't help but comment on this one.
My step brother is a very nice man though, so don't anyone go bashing him! He's a great guy and deserves to be happy. I am glad he finally came out so he can start being himself.
Funny! And a lot of truth. My ex was a total woman basher. He HATED them. We could be watching TV and if a woman made a joke at a man's expense he would freak out. He'd get IRATE and yell "What a BITCH!" UMMMMMM, it's in the script. She's kind of SUPPOSED to say it, dude.I am a total fag hag and I love my gay friends. So, when one of my friends had just come out, (even though we all knew anyway) he was calling, a lot, for support. One day he called and I wasn't home, but my boyfriend initiated a conversation. The conversation involved my boyfriend asking "what sex was like with a man". Also, "if I were to try it, it would be with..." Straight men don't think about if they were to do it who their partner of choice would be for the event. I was suspicious but, this contirmed it for me!
I'm glad you didn't include guys wearing lingerie as a sign of being gay. I'm straight; wearing panties, bras, and nylons under my mens clothes and my girlfriend loves it. We even go shopping together for lingerie and have matching sets. There are guys out there who just want to express their softer "feminine" side and not be gay.
I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is lol
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What an intresting hub, and I too am glad that you did not include males wearing lingerie as gay. My mate enjoys wearing woman's panties, and I must say I really it, too.
Some of these are ridiculous. You can have a straight guy who likes to dress to impress. You can have a military guy who just doesnt like gay men at all but love women this is ridiculous
Maybe I'm wrong but I am pretty sure my now ex-boyfriend is gay. You decide ...
1) He spends a lot of time at two gay coffee houses, a lot of time, ie several times a week, even after work and on weekends, especially on weekends
2) He recently admitted to watching a video featuring gay sex and and he likes films featuring gay themes (ie Brokeback Mountain and Milk)
3) He likes to wear gay and/or lesbian promotional t-shirts
4) He doesn't like to kiss ... in a year of dating, he never french kissed me ... and no sex ... we could lie naked next to eachother and nothing would happen because he "felt weird"
5) He is obsessed with decorating his condo, from wall hangings to placemats
6) He likes to change up his hair ... he shaved his head ie "bald by choice" and before that, he dyed his hair
7) He talks about lesbians a lot
8) When we were dating, he really liked to walk behind gay couples holding hands
9) He likes to go to gay pride parades ... not just once to see what it was all about but every year
10) He is in his late 40s and never married - supposedly there were "issues" with all the previous girlfriends and relationships didn't last long ... I heard from one of his friends that he went years without dating
11) His closest friends are a group of (unattractive) women that he does girl-like things with, ie day spas, movies, dinner ... he never goes out with the guys and rarely with mixed groups
12) He frequently mentions the time he dressed as a woman, makeup and all
13) He often goes to poetry readings
14) In spite of my getting plenty of male attention elsewhere, the only compliments I ever got from him were about my pants, my hair, my manicure, never about me looking great or being attractive to him
15) Without any probing on my part, he was always saying "I'm not gay ..." or "I'm not attracted to men."
hey I think I know about 40 gay men,(based on your Hub, all have some slightly effeminiate thing about them, none are gay, or are they, do you really think, you can pick um if they don't want you to.
I know of one gayman, that doesn't have any non macho tendencies, Why do you think people are gay I don't get it write a hub on Why
you could always just ask....
but how to ask you bf if he is a gay?
gayboyfriend
Very creative
Oh boy, I wouldn't be so mad if my bf cheats on me with a guy instead? But then again....
hmmm...That just gives me an idea
A great hub to read, this could help me figure out if my bf is gay! hahahahaa... Thanks for this very informative tips keep going!
gayboyfriend
Great information. I'll have to put some of your suggestions into practice.
This one made me laugh out loud - especially the photo right under the headline! And I'm with LondonGirl - ASK. You're only responsible for your own truth, not his...
Interesting the spectrum of reaction here. You'd think that somebody rearranged someone's furniture without asking or something!
I found this article interesting and rather funny. According to your signs of gayness. I wouldn't be Picked as a gay man ever.
So if your boyfried looks after his appearance he is gay?
Most women I know would assume that of their husband/long term boyfriend started looking after his appearance they were having a straight affair.
I guess you need to look at a lot of little signs all pointing the same way.
Watch out for cultural differences. Here in the UK a man showering too often may be suspect.
hahaha so stereotypical but still funny
i love gay men as friends but recently had a boyfriend who was a closet case and that wasn't so fun. 8 mos together, unprotected sex to try to conceive and then to learn that...very difficult. i have no problem with someones sexual orientation i do however have a problem with deception and lies. i thought this was hysterical but in no way fit any description of my boyfriend except of course the homophobia....where we both came from i wasn't surprised at his response but didn't know it was to hide himself. look out girls....i always thought i was saavy as i have alot of gay male friends and that gaydar that i thought i received from my friends lol must have been turned off.
i am inlove with a guy,recently his baby mama just found out he's gay.she told me about her suspisions and i confronted him about it, of cours he denied it
before all this came out.he'd say im not his type,we shud just be friends ....
than suddenly,, he has a picture of us in his doorway were everybody can see, introduses me as his girlfriend..spends all our free time together, ..it has been going on for six months,, he wud ask me to spend nigts at his place, bt nometter how i try nothing happens,he spends most of the nigt planning his outfit for the next day,
my conclusion is that he is infact gay and he's using me to cover up..
i just this article and i dont know what to think my boyfriend just came back from Toronto he when with his gay friend from work .i he didnt tell me cause he said i was not going to take well cause i dont like the fact they are friends he says nothing happen but i dont know the night i found out i was calling all night long and my bf phone was of and this gay lover was not pick up his phone .he just got back this monday and is over between us but i can not let it go cause i want him to admit that his gay that he had sex with a man . he get really hangry with i try to talk to him about it . i dont know what u guys think did my x had sex with his gay friend
sometimes if i notice a woman changes her hairstyle i will tell her the new look is nice
i do it to be polite , not because im gay
I have a problem with one of these.
I play chun lei in streetfighter.
The reason i am expert in chun lei is not because i "connect" with her fashion sense. The reason is 1. she has the strongest moves against the opponents i usually play against.
2. I usually fight with my male friends and it humiliates them even more when they get beaten by a girl character.lol.
I also play lara croft and spend hours doing puzzles while looking at her butt! Does that make me gay? NO!
The bet way i can think to find out if your boyfriend is gay is if his skin is always glowing AND he hangs around too much with other guys who also have glowing strange skin.
Very well said!
Do you have facebook account?
ill be coming to cebu
I don't have anything against the gay community (no I am not part of it, I am going out with a girl) but I don't think it should matter if ur gay because really all guys r the same gay people just act differnently I still think they should be treated with respect and in some way I can kinda understand how hard it is to come out of the closet cause alot of people think that gay people r weird and that they're freaks (again no I am not gay. But this was an interesting article
Your boyfriend can be gay and not a flamer. Terrible guide. I dated a girl for nine months, did none of these things, I hate beauty pageants and fashion. Gay is who you like, not who you are. My current boyfriend is just like me. People don't believe us when we say we're gay.
Again. Terrible guide.
As a man who has pride in his appearance I find this list extremely offensive. It's basically saying if your man is remotely conscious of how he looks, he's a flamer. Sorry not all men are scuzzy imbeciles who are willing to work in order to pay for your clothes and meals.
This post is jokes. it describes alot of my straight-guy friends (that im sure of their heterosexuality)...its funny cuz this test proves that they're just "super gay-er" than I am. lol.
My fag-hag told me many times that I fail at being gay. I lack sense of fashion, do not obsess in the mirror and certainly don't watch award shows. lol. She became paranoid about her own bf, thinking he was more effeminate than I was and that i knew more about cars than him.
I told her, it all comes down to the basics...sex. If he can't get a hard-on without u stimulating or there's just no excitement or initiative to screw, he's gay.
As for the shifty-eyes description you made is a good indicator but let me tell you, as a closeted gay man, you learn over the years that when you see a hot guy, you quickly turn away cuz a split-second longer you look, you blow your cover. The only time I check-out is when I'm wearing sunglasses. I've also learned to catch at the corner of my eye other suspecting friends who check if I'm checking out guys. Very sneaky lol.
You got me on the video games part. As a kid I remember my favourite character when street fighter 2 came out in the arcades was Chun-Li (the only female character in the game). I kicked some serious straight-butt with her!
Anyways, don't get all hyped up with gay stereotypes, though this might work on catching some closeted-gay men, the masculine or craftier ones would be undetectable according to this test.
Good article though!
LMAO
interesting hub. about the only thing listed I believe is very vocal anti gay comments" Ive had three friends of the years that were so anti gay it wasnt funny till they came out of the closet.
and just a note ladys from a straight guy perspective. if you go snooping thru their online history, youve pretty killed your relationship, whether you find anything or not.
unless of course you dont mind a guy digging thru your purse or cell phone to check up on you.
I had a friend that gave those kind of compliments, spent three hours on his hair, and clothes. talked slightly feminie and was straight as an arrow. while another friend, wore jeans, tshirts, worked construction, drank beer and listned to country and was gay.
dating and Marriage are about taking chances and trust. you take a chance and trust it works out. some do some dont. but if you start out by digging around youve just killed any trust your partner may have had in you. no matter what your digging uncovered.
I am an attractive woman dating a very attractive man. He does not check out women but, when an attractive guy walks by he watches his every move. He is 47 and mostly checks out guys in their 20s.
A93,
i knew i was not gay but after your - gay things list i am really sure of it more .. although oi have noticed that i DO notice changes in my wifes hair but NOT make up- or if she has a new Bra on.... bit alot of that is touch based...
*hehe*
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does this really still happen, in this day and age. this is sad and shows that society has still not moved on from last century. sexuality should be taught in schools early on and their must be the support their for young gay men early on
You mention so valid observations but mostly sterotypes. I would think the most important sign that a woman is with a closeted gay man comes down to sex and major emotional issues rather than hair products. For example, what about a situation where said guy and woman are together a lot and as inseparable as best friends - but yet he can barely bring himself to touch her. He trusts her, spends time with her family, shares interests and many good times but when it comes to the bedroom: NOTHING. Stays in the relationship for a year when at that point the woman is at her breaking point and has every right to approach this problem because it's a major issue and block in the relationship. Guy disappears.
Said guy has a history of ending relationships like this after spending a long period of time with a woman and never even maintains a friendship with them. Said guy is in his 40s, never married and is depressed - he alludes to being "confused" and "uncomfortable" in his environment. Said guy never has a good day and is always in a "bad place." That was a year in my life. And though he never came out to me - I feel confident that I was with a closet case.
I will add that yes, he only used Bumble and Bumble products on his air, wore designer clothes, like decorating and occasionally I noticed a little eyeliner...but it really was the sexual issues and emotional turmoil that made me believe he is probably gay.
I was with a gay man for almost 2 years...and my life was a wreck the whole time we were together....it was the worst experience of my life ...the head games...the lies.. it left a scar on me....ladies...if you have any wierd gut feeling about your guy....dont overlook it....or disregard it...always follow your instinct...I wish i would have.
why are gay people associated with Celine DIon?? My brothers love her records, and they're not gay. Must have been a hell of a nightmare discovering your man loves lollipos.. nice hub
why are gay people associated with Celine DIon?? My brothers love her records, and they're not gay. Must have been a hell of a nightmare discovering your man loves lollipos.. nice hub
Oh God :S I think Im on the turn :S:S:S:S arghhh !
"Stealing your make up"?
What depressing stereotypes.
lol, you have to be joking. I hope you are joking. You have kissed a lot of girls growing up, are probally still atracted to them.
If your boyfried needs a little prostate stimutation then good for him. Stick your finger in his anus from time to time, and hope that thats all he needs. If not be prepared to venture. lol, I do like storm, and your suposidly stright boyfriends.
Be careful. I am gay, but I don't do any of those things. I don't like divas, I don't compliment women on their new hairstyle and such..i don't use designer stuff, and I don't stare at other men. I am not in the closet, everyone close to me knows I'm gay. My sister did not believe me the first time I told her about my sexality. I think that many people think being gay means acting like the opposite sex, but this is not true. There are many homosexual men out there that do not look or act any different then your normal straight man, like me for example. I HATE Shopping. I simply do not car what I wear as long as it's proper. Although to be honest I have visited gay adult porn sites before. And do research everyones at least 10% gay. I almost turned my straight friend gay but I decided to stay just friends, but I had the choice. And I've also dated girls because at one time I was attracted to girls back in high school. So it does not matter if your bf does not show any of there signs. He might still feel attracted to men or be confused. I hate being this kind of gay because it is hard to find a partner. I don't like feminine guys. And when there is a straight acting gay guy out there, there's no way to tell. I am single for now and planning to stay that way until I find someone like me. Which might take a while :(
above is an article to be able to tell wehther a guy is on the DL/in the closet
hope that helps
http://www.dlgaze.com/members/how_to_tell.html
above is an article to be able to tell wehther a guy is on the DL/in the closet
hope that helps
Very interesting - all true, I'd assume, except for the Storm thing.
Because, really - I'd rather see a catfight of epic proportions (or a Kill Bill-esque ass-whupping, if you will) than a couple of muscle-bound greasers duking it out.
Re #6: Ladies, definitely watch your boyfriends' behavior in the men's room. How exactly to do that is something that you will have to figure out for yourselves.
If being a fan of celine dion makes me gay. I don't want to be straight. This woman has an amazing voice. Why would I ignore her? People love being appreciated for their talents.
I've got one that I notice a lot. As a single straight guy, I've picked up on certain patterns in public places whether I'm eating at a sushi bar or watching a movie in a theatre alone. Whenever couples sit near me, I could tell you that almost 90% of the time, the guy will sit next to me instead of his woman. I either take this as a sign of insecurity or closet homosexuality on the guy's part.
For the longest time I had been trying to fight the whole gay thing, resist yelling at women who don't have a CLUE about hair styles or checking out a dude... but I did not really have a chance
You see, I had a really close friend in middle school who outed himself the day before I was going to move. We had been spending our final hours together, since we would not see eachother again. well anyway he pushes me against his bedroom wall and I was like "WTF" and he goes and kisses me full on the mouth
Dam I never felt such a rush before that moment, my eyes rolled back, face flushed, weak kneed, he held me up and friggn frenched me for like a minute (I had a feeling this was not his first time). sure I pushed at him half heartedly, but I was just lost in the sensation
Well even though I was on cloud nine, I also was totally wigging out and confused. I tried to fight my new feelings during puberty in a new state, but all I could think of was how dam good that kiss was
hi im gay from iran.im a socilogy expert, most of my studies relate sex , there are some true points in ths hub but be careful , they are not exactly and absuletly true and answering, althouh cultural factors will act significant role but there are some worldwide signs to know whethre a guy is a gay or not , and remember that maybe it belongs to gene(s) mostly , the best place to study gays is chatrooms of the gays i have spent a lot of time in those rooms, studying gay people, im going to write my comments here for you,
1- other family members brothers sisters father mother uncles aunts and ... pay attention to them if there are gays
2- feelings they have when there is a challenging situation
3- the way they act if there is a conflict with other men
4- the way they do sex in the bed with a woman (sometimes happens )
5- the distant they keep speaking to men
6- direction of eye they look at the men
7- their body style physicallay
8- the style of walking
remember just like other people they act socially normal cause u will be able to see some signs when they are in contact with a man they love and then most of the time it is difficult to decide a man is a gay some small points u may use as detectives may misslead you most straight people may show these small signs without any 3rd sex drives, and i think it is easyier for exaample in the usa to understand for sure , i know my points need clarification , later ill write on them 1 bye 1
I'm not gay and I like Mariah Carey. I don't own any of her music, but it sounds nice on the radio.
this article is extremely stereo-typical of the gay men "indicators"...I am not even a gay guy but i am wondering about someone and (wrongly) expected useful tips. gay people are pretty much everywhere, but i can understand why some men stay closeted when people who pretend to be "tolerant" are really just reinforcing some of the things others don't wanna be associated with. you're probably a really good person, but you should re-think the way you look at others
i have been noticing this phenomena alot lately and i feel bad for both parties involved. denial delusion psychosis all of these mental states can create a perfect storm. here's the latest case i witnessed: the guy is conservative and religious so his mom is verrry important to him and she has been caught telling at least one of her sons that he will no longer have her financial support if he's not married in one year! i am now convinced that the poor guy can't come out of the closet because he has to make his mom happy and have a family. the worse part is the girlfriend is in love but has no clue and is always depressed. (they don't have much sex either) wild!
this is really offending to me as a gay teenager , i am sick of people acting as if every gay is some kind of queen
THIS IS SO SAD FOR ME..I WISH THERE WAS MORE DETAILS..DATED A GUY FOR OVER A YEAR NOW..HE WAS MOLESTED BY A GUY AS A YOUNG BOY...WHILE IN FOSTER CARE..EVERYTHING SEEMED GREAT&I HADN'T BEEN THIS HAPPY IN YEARS..THEN RECENTLY HE STARTED ACTING DIFFERENT&EVERYTIME I TRY TO BRING UP ANYTHING ABOUT HIS ACTIONS HE BECOMES INTLOERABLE&BLAMES ME FOR THINGS..He writes music&STARTED TAKING MUSIC CLASSES..A FEW WEEKS AGO HIS MUSIC TEACHER CALLED HIM&THE CALL WAS VERY SUSPICIOUS&HE ACTED VAGUE~HE MADE SURE TO SAY HE WAS OUT WITH ME&MENTIONED MY NAME AFTR THE TEACHER ASKED IF HE CUD HANG OUT THAT NIGHT..NOW HE'S SHOWING SIGNS HEZ CHEATED ON ME BY STARTING ARGUMENTS OVER PAST STUFF&USING ONE INCIDENT TO SAY IT'S ME WHO'S DONE SOMETHING WRONG~My problem is I FEEL IN MY HEART NOT JUST MY GUT THAT HE HAS SLEPT WITH THIS MAN AS A PROMISE THAT THIS TEACHER HAS CONNECTS IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY&WHEN WE FIRST MET HE WAS ALWAYS GAY BASHING ON HIS FACEBOOK STATUS UNTIL I TOLD HIM HE WAS SOUNDING LIKE A GAY BASHER&ITS NOT KOOL..IM DEVASTATED CAS I WANT TO CONFRONT HIM..He always seems deep & DARK & NEVER REALY TALKS..I KNOW HEZ FIGHTING DEMONS ABOUT SOMETHING BECAUSE NOTHING ELSE MAKES SINCE~MY QUESTION IS IF A MAN HAS BEEN MOLESTED AS A CHILD~WAT ARE THE CHANCES HE HAS DEEP DESIRES TO BE WITH A MAN EVEN THO IT WAS A TRAGIC EXPERIENCE FOR HIM..
wow! This is such a homophobic report!
Wow,apparently Women have to look out for Guys who care about them and about how they look, if that's the case, the woman's lot is a poor one indeed. On the other hand, gay guys must have it great, getting to pick from all the guys how like to compliment their partners and know that sometimes looking nice isn't such a horrible thing. Also, I know a couple of really quite masculine gay guys, I'd pay money to see them listening to 'Diva' music or watching Oprah, let alone knowing WHO Oscar Wilde is.
I think my boyfriend is gay. I know it's wrong to judge someone but after i read all these signs...it's so him. What should I do now?
Seriously, this is the stupidest thing I have ever read. Stereotypes are not an indication of someones so called 'gayness' but more so an indication of your bigotry and stupidity.
The only gay thing is this list.
I am all you describe, beautiful life caring for mine and my girlfriend's beauty. I am certainly not gay just very happy
i can agree with alot of this exept the storm part. Tiger Woods favorite XMan is Storm because she's black. And We ALL know he's straight
This is absolutely ridiculous ! My cousin married twice, has 5 children, has a countless number of misstresses that I've met with him (he likes to brag on how beautifull they are..) And he wears only expensive brands and very trendy clothes, especially shoes( maybe because his rich and a high profile) needless to talk about the bathroom , when getting ready to go out he spends twice as much time getting ready as his wife !! He hates even the word gay! He takes really good care of his skin(masks and stuff) etc.. So I double dare you to say that he's even slightly, tiny,winy bit or even close to the thaught of being gay! So really it's just lame and cruel to profile men this way neither the gay or straight even though you've mentioned it but still it is Stupid considering that you've put you're brains into the subject!! In the end I say COULD YOU TELL ME HOW CAN MEN FIND OUT IF THEIR GFs ARE LESBIANS?
lol
This article is bullshit. only feminine gays act like that.
there are plenty of gays who are just like other straights
as there are straights that are more feminine
There are a few in there that are right on key, like the jeans are hugging in all the wrong places comment, but most of the rest are absurd.
You get a lot of guys that are very metro these days and they are totally straight, and you get a lot of guys that are flannel wearing macho no hair product guys that are gay. Some of those are blatant stereotypes, while they can sometimes be signs, most are not.
I know a lot of straight men who are very comfortable with gay men cause they know who they are and aren't afraid of it.
Real signs your bf is gay:
1) Nude pix of men or porn on phone or comp
2) you catch him making out with other men
3) He watches Gossip Girl and enjoys it(even I can't do that)
4) He has a collection of sex toys he hasnt used on you.
Truth is you just have to be honest with ppl, if you suspect ask them don't beat around the bush. If you can't be straight up (pardon the pun) with him, you have no business dating anyone gay or straight.
what if he has a lot of under age male friend? does it fallow that he is a gay?
so here's the thing, i started reading this and intially i laughed. But towards the end actaully find it kinda offensive. I'm a gay man and some of these stereotypes....key word there people...were slightly offensive. Also this article makes it seem like we're the bad guys. When they're just afraid to tell the truth to a society that although professes otherwise is still too judgemental and irrational when it comes to sexuality. So if your having doubts about ur man and needing to search online for tips....well it stands for itself doesn't it.
Or you can him if he is gay. If he says yes, he's gay. Now stop writing offensive material.
ask*
he can want you to peg him and not be gay... by the way... or Bi the way... the media and an effort to be politically correct is distorting the truth of sexuality. Freud believed in Innate bisexuality. he believed that sexuality could change in response to trama or life events and wasnt locked in... he went on to say it was most likely heavily influenced by culture and upbringing.
maybe there is some genetic component, SOME of the time... but if you do some research you will note that for as much as the gay rights groups love to say "Born this way" we still havent isolated a specific "gay" gene. i believe they should have equal rights either way but we shouldn't distort science or miss lead the public.
Im with chase...this is bullshit... i love woman in a sexual way but i also notice her hair style and the color of her nails... im add my eyes move to a lot of places and colorful nails tend to attract my attention. but as far as looking at men in the mall... do you look at other girls?
this article is not only homophobic but sexist as well. you seem to also need people to act like children for you to believe them
"I asked him a few times if he was gay or ever thought he might be and he denied it every time. He never got upset or really defensive, but maybe that's why I didn't believe him. "
one a mature adult doesnt need to get upset over a false accusation...
two: most of your ways to tell are based on our cultures perception of masculine vs feminine...these things are not male and female... they are fricking learned behaviors. if you read an article about brain differences on some website or in the ny times... go find the original study...most of the time you will find that the sample size was too small and there are other flaws that make it not scientifically valid. you will also find studies that discreet differences being innate...its far from conclusive at this time but until it is...if you truly believe "normal" men dont behave a certain way you are a sexist pig until proven beyond doubt otherwise. not to mention if you have a vag i dont think you would take kindly to me telling you that your normal activity is cooking my dinner and raising my children.
/end rant
I have known a guy for 30 years. We were romantically involved in our twenties, and have reconnected. His girlfriend left him and he has cancer. I am married, but my marriage is on the rocks and we have talked about being together again. When he was diagnosed, he asked me to spend as much time with him as possible. I did. We went everywhere together, the beach, the woods, picnics. I started to fall for him again. He did for me too, and told me he loved me. But...he never made a move on me. He held my hand once in awhile and would flirt but never, ever put a move on me. This went on for six months. I was with him through chemo and radiation, the mood swings, the nastiness, and the good days as well. I thought it was strange because whe were together before he was very much into sex and intimacy. He never obsessed over things either. His house is over immaculate and he fusses if there is dust on the table and will clean to the point of being annoying. When his former girlfriend left him, he got a male roomate who lives in his basement. I have had suspicions of more than a friendship between the two. My friend will complain about how he fixed his roomate dinner and he did not eat it. He seems all up in this guys business. We spent at least one day on the weekend together. Sometimes one night during the week. We got very close, then, he told me that our relationship was immoral and he didn't want me to come over. We haven't spoke since. Could my suspicions be correct? Is he gay? I would still love him and be his best friend if so, but I believe he led me on. I was going to stay by his side and support him with his fight with cancer, which he seems to be battling quite well. He just doesn't want me anymore. There is no closure to this. Why did he want me there in the first place?
This whole article is so retarded...I don't even...
This is ridiculous.
A lot of these are over the top.
Especially the video game character one.
"He may choose a girl! OH WAIT! He may choose a guy!"
Uhhh.. yeah.
Not funny in the slightest.
Not every gay guy can just be pegged like this. And people should be free to do as they choose, regardless of stupid orientation based stereotypes.
Ugh.
This article is rather funny actually I hope women dont act believe this is the way to spot a gay man and the whole apperance and grooming thing is nuts in the 70,s men wore glitter tight pants and went to Discos in the 80's men wore eye liner big hair and other types of make up I guess all of them were gay right??? In regards to music since when did music have a gender better yet look at who owns major record labels they are men along with the producers and male songwriters the point is music is universal. And video games really??? lol that was funny because storm is pretty much a Diva but who notices that stuff she can also fly and is super quick and controls the weather sounds like a wise choice if you want to kick some butt but basically this article is offensive to all men because it
Puts us all in a box that isnt fair I would like someone to post an aricle about lesbians because for some reason people pretend they dont exist.
Not an accurate article. Lot's of assumptions that are not necessarily true at least most or even half of the time.
this is just rude because non of those things describe me and I AM GAY and still in the closet
This is a disgusting article. It stereotypes and it portrays all gay men as pansies and "flamers". The author of this article should be ashamed of herself.
The comments are just as disgusting. Gay men lending their STDs to straight women? There just as many straight men lending their STDs to straight women. Maybe straight women should take charge of their sex life and start making their mate wear CONDOMS, or telling them to get an STD test.
This is gross, all of the rednecks and hillbillies in the comments need to be sterilized, so that you can't raise any small minded children like yourselves.
O.o what a load of s*** u guys dont know much. true there are gay in denial but most of what u said to identify them can apply to Stright guys.
Start using your head, if u dont like how ur boyfriend is acting talk to him about it. Jesus its like rocket science with u girls.
Yeah, this is a bunch of stereotypes. I live in Austin, and there is a huge gay population here. Not a single one I know dresses fancy or is overly manicured. They have jean shorts and flip flops on and hairy chests just like the rest of us. There may be a few stereotypes around, but more often than not, they're just dudes. If your BF spends more time primping in the morning than you, maybe he's just a pansy. Here's how you tell is he's gay: He has a hickey on the BACK of his neck -or- He has a skidmark in the FRONT of his underwear.
I'm a very gay guy and 23, but know what?? The only thing on there that applies to me my checking out other guys at shopping centres; I listen to hard-core british rap aka grime, i don't listen to any feminine singers or even rappers, infact I just got introduced to niki minag didn't know she existed; I hate bright colours; I've seen a beauty peargent once; I shave once in months; i don't like perfume only bath shampoo and after shave; I wasn't using lotions or anything to cream my body for nearly 8 years, just couldn't be bothered doing all that; I Don't give a damn bout clean shirts or bottoms as long as they don't smell terribly or have a disturbing stain; I watched Oprah a number of times when I was little cos my mom always wanted to point out certain stories to me, but I couldn't be bothered when i got to a certain age; I don't feel uncomfortable around ma mates; I dunno who's Oscar wilde; Females esspecially my mom complain I don't notice any changes in their appearances, I actually do, but not in the way your ex-man does; I hate drama or pettiness and gossip as much and honesty is an important virtue to me; I got nothing on gay people but I don't like them girl-boys; I want to rip them apart behind closed doors but it ends there; I love sports; Watching and Playing Football; Basketball; Rugby; Wrestling; Snooker; I feel too much at home when I do them and I don't like the Grammys or them awards shows and shit; I like baggy or saggy clothes; the stealing your make-up bit it don't understand; I don't hug my mates, we shake hands with a pat on the back, that's how we do it. Does that make me Straight? No. I love boys; I admire; Fantasize; get obsessed sometimes about the guys I fancy, and yet by nature i'm more masculine than most straight guys I've met in fact, I dominate my mates..i'm the boss; in control, so you fail, you'll only make girlfriends paranoid and lose their guys because If I ever caught my girl friend stalking or searching me or my stuff in that kind of suspicion; dang! i dump her bum but i'd give her the fuck of her life before I do.
Some of your observations apply to most girl-boys them, but not to Straight gay guys like us or Tops. Safe.
Im a closet homosexual with my brother Terry, we have keept it reasonably quiet for many years but i've had 2/3 X's some how find out and leave almost strait away, I suppose it put's them off thir sausage, so to speak.
Women tend to just know, 97% of my male friends have no clue about me or my brother.
How's your luck!
I'm 15 and still in the closet. The only thing I can think of that I do is gay bash. I checkout girls so I can cover up the fact that I'm gay
huh! i hate this.. im v v v sad .. because, i dont know my bestfriend make me a gay , when i were 14yrs Old.. Now i Hate him alot.. but now i like boys..:-( what i have to do?
This article is a joke, right? Just because someone's into looking good, or is a little effeminate doesn't mean that they're automatically gay. I'm like that, a little on the girly side, and I'm straight as an arrow. My girlfriend's actually pretty masculine and we joke all the time about how "I'm the chick" and "she's the dude." I'm not gay, she's not a lesbian, we're very happy together.
Plus, the thing about the urinal? No man stands next to another man in the urinal. That's the rules.
the only way to tell if someone is a homosexual is if they only have sexual attraction to their same gender. It saddens one to think you people view homosexuality as some sort of disease that can be diagnosed with this list of proposed symptoms. Perhaps your boyfriend quotes oscar wilde because of his genuis? not his sexual preference? Perhaps he cares what YOU think so he cuts and brushes his hair and wears cologne. Human sexuality is not some sort of black or white subject. I would encourage all to reserve judgement on this subject. If you catch your boyfriend watching the miss universe do not rush to conclusions for it is most likely he is just looking for some nice tits.......
the part where i read "third sex", that just crossed it for me.
i ain't gay, but my brother is, he's been with his boyfriend for four years now and neither of them have any of the traits mentioned above, they ain't feminine IN THE SLIGHTEST, haha, i wear eyeliner, my bro NEVER would and yet i like titties and he likes... well... other stuff haha.
i just think this whole thing's kinda sad.
girls, don't listen to any of this "advice". a guy or a girl's sexuality and personality don't have to have ANYTHING to do with each other.
i wear eyeliner 'cause girls tell me i look hot with it.
you wanna know the REAL way to tell if your guy's gay?
here's some tricks for you:
-does he get hard when you get naked? if yeah, he's straight.
-does he encourage sex just as much or more than you do? if yes, he's straight.
-is he feeling you up regularly? if yes. straight. (no matter how respectful he is, guys will always grope their girl any chance you give us haha)
-does he try to get you naked often? yes? straight.
but most of all, the biggie:
gay, straight or bi, us blokes us complete fucking horndogs. no matter what turns us on, we want sex 24/7 (unless of course the guy's got some bad shit going down in his life /work/family/school/whatever/ - or if he's on some kind of medication that reduces sex drive)
if your guy is actively trying to have sex, get head, give head, or anything else - he's straight (or bi, whatever) and you've got NOTHING to worry about.
also, check out how often he's making out with you and stuff. you should be getting, AT THE LEAST, a few good pashes a day, any good looking woman deserves no less.
so don't buy into all this b.s. in this article.
its stereotypical bullcrap and is no different than someone posting an article called "how to tell if your boyfriend is descended from blacks" and then listing how their "poor swimming skills" and "violent tendencies" back this up.
total crap. offensive.
and if i find it messed up you can't bet your ass a lot of gay guys are gonna get pretty torn up buy it too.
grow up.
I found this article interesting...and although I don't agree with the entire thing...there are bits and pieces that have alarm bells ringing for me...Me and my BF have been together for over 2 years now....we were both seeing other people for the first few months however...I was seeing both sexes casually and he was with a man.
2 years have gone and we are living together and have a child of our own...I was happy but I went in the history page to look for a game site I had used and came across gay porn sites....I hit him up about it and he tried to argue he was looking at all sorts of porn not just gay.
Ever since then I have been argumentative, spying and always watching for signs of him being gay....I even say to him that hes gay and should leave but he never does and argues my stupidity....
I dont know what to think?
We don't have problems in the sack and he's always "all over" me, but I still think I'm going to wake up one day and hez going to leave me for a man!
So dont want to be hurt and at times consider leaving him before he hurts me!
HELP
so in short, you mean that good, kind, and nice guys who respects and never hurts women are gay? so what do you want? you want guys who are insensitive? disrespect women? hurts and stabs women? harsh? violent? ok, well. then good luck.
There's some truth to this, of course. But the intent is mean. People with sex issues have a plenty to deal with in society...they don't deserve the hate, and judgment. Not most of them, anyway.
Everyone where i live is starting to look at me funny, i think they have found out about my homosexual past with my older brother Danny, i was he's beaut when mum was drunk and that was a the time, some girls said i smell like an open bumhole to the back of my head one night in the pub and when i looked round they just started laughing, everyone knows me, im adding people all the time on facebook, some i've only met once, i've got over 700 friends now, it's nice to be important, it's EVEN more important to be nice, well thats what i fink anyway, and thats what Danny use to wisper in my ear some nights, I might just let everyone know anyway but im scared my male friends wont drink with me any more. I've allways had a male friend to latch on to, i cant cope on my own, i dont think there's one picture of me on my own, i've allways got my arm around some man, perhaps i need a good looking woman but i dont seem able to keep them interested.
Ive to disagree with this post & most comments. Im a closeted black gay man in South Africa.I dont look @ any guy I bump into cause I know my taste. Although Im single but Ive been with 3 guys before and it didnt last. I dont wanna be a woman to a man as much as I dont want a man to be a (wo)man to me. Im not feminine at all although I know that Im good looking. Many gay men dont believe in commitments when it comes to relationships cause sleeping around is a game of the industry. I know lots of married gay guys some are close friends but they run stable families. I can only be in a relationship with a guy who has the same values as me, for now I know women have true love for man as compared to men for other men.
What a load of crap.
hes totoly guy
No dispute beaut.......
Lol @ C.S.Alexis for her comment:
"Be careful in the bedroom if you have suspicions, gay guys are most often lending their STD's to straight women because of their closet behavior. Thanks for sharing."
I don't think that could be more prejudiced
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I am still a closeted gay guy, and I express none of these qualities! (except for taking ages to get ready...sometimes. I really don't give if I look like a slob in public. There are times for it. Furthermore, guys are increasingly metro nowadays so it's really hard to tell. Most guys my age I see around look like they take way longer to do their hair than I do. Haha. And although I've noticed it a lot, not all gay guys love divas, I cannot stand diva music!! I think I'll forever be an altern. rock/electronica/dub & reggae. I think that is limited to fem gay guys, same with ANY awards show let alone pageant..? Come on, could get any more stereotypical?? I HATE that shit lol.
Here's a thought.
Why don't you just WAIT FOR THEM TO COME OUT? If you pressure them by "talking about it" you're pushing the actual time of the emergence (from the closet) further and further away. Don't you see? They'll come out when they're good and ready, not because they've started taking care with their appearance.
Actually, here's another thought: what if they look good because they feel that you deserve someone much better-looking than they?
START PRESSURING THEIR SEXUALITY AND THEY'LL STICK WITH THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!!
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You laugh a little, you learn a little
hey, that urinal stuff may not hold good. I've been mocked at urinals in my school days abt my penis. Though mine is 7 now i still go for farther urinal. Im straight though.
I am a committed homosexual and looking for more :)
Something u just can't tell wen a man is gay or not.....Sometime ladies you jus nave to trust u man an believe in him make me many have all the characteristics listed above but he is straight..(well apart from the eye thing- if u see him looking at another man in the side of him eye you need to get out of it) but ladies as I was say trust ur man sometimes
Wow.. This is actually very true. I ended up dating a guy that turned out gay. It was always in the back of my mind but I didn't wanna face it. There are only like two or three times when we made out it was actually nice.. The others he made it just plan awkward and he never seemed to want to. Another tip for who is wondering. Oh and he looked at me rreall weird and in deep thought when I put on make up in front of him. XD He is my best friend now.
This page is so stereotypical, pathetic and homophobic it's untrue. Do you really think all gay people are like that?! "A realationship where a man likes a man isn't going to last" lmfao. I'm married and have kids with my partner of 24 years... If your boyfriend is gay then don't make them out as if they deliberately try to hurt you. It's not a choice. So if this unfortunate thing does happen then you do have a right to be annoyed and yes, end the relationship straight away. But don't make him out to be a evil, vindictive person. Try your best to help them through it.
I have heard more than once from different women That they thought I might be gay. Its kind of comical. The reason I pick girls when making a video game character it because If I am going to be looking at a body, I prefer to see a female body. Who cares? One time, just because I wear hair gel, women admit to me later they thought I was gay. And because I have facial features that can be referred to as pretty. This kind of interaction never fails to make me think less of the individual. I have never once met an intelligent, interesting woman who had her head all up in this camp. I would rather date a confident and intelligent plain Jane than a beautiful hottie, who, somewhat like a bird pecking at shiny things, obsesses with stuff that matters just as much as that shiny speck.
I suspect that women who begin to suspect that their man is gay, may in fact be struggling to try and explain why her guy is not interested in her. Him being gay is a lot easier to swallow than "I'm an uninteresting bore"
The only legitimate way to tell if your boyfriend is gay is if you walk in on him having sex with another guy. This hairstyle bullshit is stereotypical and offensive.
This isn't good cuz I do so of those things but a lil different and becuz my eyes shift in big crowds ive been accused of being gay I'm not btw an experienced martial artist has shifty eyes in crowds discovery proved that on martial science and yes im very paranoid and have OCD so I do notice changes in my woman but she read ur article and I had to dump her cuz she kept bringing it up anyways u need to write a warning in big bold letters on top this page saying these thing don't always mean "gay" and add some contradictions to each
After my fiancé left me for non related reason I stopped caring I just wanted to give the world my seed if u will lol so since then i have been sleeping with atleast 5 guys and 10-15 different women a month which is easy when ur 21 look like a model and bank around 90 a year but I get tested often and it's been 3 years since I've seen a condom and most of my hook ups are zangas
Interesting but kinda bullshit in a lot of ways. The majority of the gay/bi guys I know aren't flaming McFlamey campers. They're just average-seeming guys who like other guys. Granted, gay guys have their quirks like everyone else, but it's not like "OMG I LIKE CHER NICE BOOTS GIRLFRIEND"... Makes me wonder how much time this person actually spent with homosexual men. Just saying.
I think my boyfriend is gay....he likes to take his time in bathrrom doing his hair, also he is a great salsa dancer...etc please help! He wont admit he is gay why??? i dont understand, what can i do? he is in complete denial why?
can i say that im bisexual that people dont like to belive that,im worried because i find men and women equally atractive but my friend say im gay because i look at men more on porn,and that im more gay how ever i feel that i like them both equally and that i look up men is becasue i can look at women without worrying about people jugeing me,i hate that this desercbise me two as well because even though i like both sex equally i find more what i want in relationshipe from a women and that i know that a women is the one i could spended the rest of my life with,and im worried that no woman whould want me if they found out,all so to i have problems talking to girls in sexaul manner even though i want to and because of this and my feminine side shows that push women away,because alot women like me at first but then start to qustion my sexuality and this makes them get less intersted,but i do really want to be with a women but im not out with that i like both and dont think most women would want me after knowing that,i know for sure that its not any orther problems because im nice and not to sound up my self but above avage in the looks department,im just wondering from women could they live with that,and how i could improve on geting with women
Jonathon Jones, would you like to talk someday? I'm bisexual myself andcould give you some advice if you needed it.
How do you know if your girlfriend is a lesbian?
Now if a Republican wrote an article like this. Insensitive, homophobic intolerant gay bashing.
I'm gay and I hate Storm.. I'd rather go with Wolverine. When it comes to gaming I always pick male characters. I don't talk about fasion.. Oprah? Lolno.. Who is Celine Dion? Cher just needs to die, that bitch is like 90. I bash overly flamboyant gays. We're men, we should act like it. Most of my online friends are straight men who know I am gay.
This was a bit funny. However, I do some of what you mention being a straight guy. I have various hair products, I take a while to get ready, I like to dress nicely, and I tend to notice when the girls in my life change their hair, style, or what have you. My point is, I think some of you may be over thinking this a bit.
Things are aren't always what they seem, and if you seriously have to ask yourself if your guy is gay, you should probably just talk to him about it. If you two truly care about each other, he will a: be honest with you, and b: understand why you felt the need to ask. If you two can't communicate, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship regardless.
When dealing with other people, it's all about consideration and communication. If my girlfriend thought I was gay, I would honestly hope she felt strongly enough about our connection that she could discuss it with me.
Just sayin'
some men just use the cubicles cos they think they lacking in the downstairs department. Like at school kids always laughing at each others sizes and then they get complexed. If people are born gay as they say, then those men that are very reserved about their private parts because they doubt their size (which a lot of men do actually) they would not neccessarily be gay.
Thanks, that puts my suspicions to rest
Yeah this is very stereotypical Lol i'm gay myself, and I do not like watching operas , and the emmys awards or w.e Lol funny stuff though, maybe that was his personality lol , mine is diffrent lol , for instince.
1.I like boxing
2.the only time I spend alot of time in the bathroom is when im taking a dump lmao (sorry)
3.I don't wear pink I actually like the color black or dark blue, hate it when guys wear pink Lol .
4. when i play video games, I like war games, like Call of duty. Lol and i also love playing with swords and knives, drums and the guitar haha and I listen to alot of heavy metal and rap (METALLICA). and someday I want too join the army :)
and to add to that i'm learning how to hunt with my dad, he knows im gay and hes okay with it haha (the hunting part was my idea) I also love to snowboard ;) ...so ease up on the media's way of "finding a gay man" hahaha funny stuff though lol
I was quite hurt when one of my best friend try to hold my hand when we were near the fountain . I am just bumping into this site wondering if I am a woman , should I be equally disturbed. Or just disappointed
Holy shit, is this supposed to be a joke?
This is stereotyping homosexuals to the extreme.
'in X-Men, Storm is a gay man’s favorite.'
ROFL are you even serious
Years ago gays were call queers.They knew how to walk like a woman, and to talk like one. They use their hands like a woman.They smoked like a woman.Today it's fake acting like a man.Today gays know how fight back against gay bashing, and being picked on by bullies.Most of them are very good at fighting. They kicked many gay bashers butts.
This entire article is just... wrong. One, quit stereotyping gays. That's not a nice thing to do and is offensive. Not all gay men are like that, just like all straight men are not the same. Two, the comments on here are offensive. There's even gay bashers and homophobes commenting. There is no need for that. And three, if your boyfriend is gay,WHO CARES? He's obviously not convinced himself or he wouldn't be with a woman! If he's gay, he likes men. Not women. So don't look up scum like this on the internet. If he does come to terms with the fact he is gay, he will tell you. I swear, the world is getting worse and worse.
This was the dumbest thing I've ever read....
the writer must be gay too its like he is telling about me nw iknow wat to do to avoid bn caught but is not easy
SERIOUSLY ?? Sounds to me the Hub/article should be titled: "How to tell if your BF is a DRAG QUEEN" heres a few points for all you lame "phobes" you wouldnt know a true GAY guy if one bit you on the AZZZZ....The type of guy you describe doesnt truly exist in any real urban setting and hasnt for a long time - your describing a stereo-type from like the 70's based on pure homo-phobia...oh right lets see your BF is stealing your make - up ?? like I said - the article is describing an interior decorator or some wild ass queen in a beuaty parlar straight - (forgive the term) out of Steel Magnolias...but as a GAY guy that lives in NYC the only points valid are that your BF is overly concerned with hating Gay guys...that is actually true - the worst Phobes are closeted gay guys but most of the rest of the "Sign" are total BS - Iam a gay guy - I waer Beer logo t-shirts - never wear deoderant - and havent owned or used any ahh face cream bought in a store...Iam a bartender and all the time women hit on me Id say obviously they think Iam hetero - and inside Iam just laughing my ass off...thinking these women cant tell a gay guy from a hole in the bar....and speaking of: the true test to see if your BF is wanting the dick -- is - Is he going down on you ? does he like your vagina ?? wake the hell up...if hes not making love to you or banging you a few times a week yeah the bro might be wanting another dude - but the best way is to truly follow your intuition - chicks know things - from the gut...its the women that dont want to know for whatever reason - they look the other way when they totally know not from any of your so called phobic "indicators..." you know when a guy wants you and your ahhh snatch....if he doesnt who cares why - dump him...there are straight guys that buy alot of produtcs and are even kind of Femmy but they still like women...
get real...and grow up....
singed gay guy laughing at you dumb - fks.....
What a load of bullcrap and complete ignorant and typical nonsense things to say.
You guys should get a life and stop making a fool of yourselves.
How stupid...
Im not freakin gay but most of that stuff fits the way I act... barring shifty eyes and diva music and random duded on my FB...
#1, spending time on his hair would have my dates thinking I'm gay! I have short hair, and spend about 30 to 45 minutes on it. Why? Not so I can apply the right moose, curl it correctly or look oh so pretty. Instead, I have a balding problem, and I put something dark on my scalp to conceal it and make it look like I have more hair. If done correctly it looks like I'm not bald. So I spend all my time trying not to look bald, not because I'm like that gay guy trying to pamper my hair. So be careful ladies and don't make snap judgments.
I knew some guy when we were kids that got made fun of because he was losing his hair. And I'm very self conscious about it. But when it comes to how my hair looks, I'd easily do any fast treatment I can to save time in the bathroom, like other guys do. In fact that's why my hair is shorter, so I can get out quicker. However, I have some of my hair, and some of that can be used to hide bald spots in the back. I was told by this hair transplant place they could fix my problem and they robbed me of $5,000. But it only made it a little better. Then I needed 4 more treatments, and in the end I was still nearly bald on the top! They ripped me off!
Point is they didn't cure my baldness, but made it much better and I can make me not look bald with that 30 minutes I spend on my hair. It has nothing to do with being gay. Just not wanting to look bald. Now if your guy is worrying over the correct strawberry moose, and conditioner, and how to put streaks in his hair etc. Then he problem is gay. But again, be careful making snap decisions.
#2, Divas. If you're man likes Mariah Carey, Whitney etc he's probably a flaming gay. OK, this is where I call bull Sheet. I happen to like Mariah Carey and Celine Dion. Not because I am gay, but because I don't want to listen to CRAP! I like them because they have good voices. That's why there are there? And if guys don't listen to them, who does? Women? Women listening to other beautiful women? Maybe they are the ones that are the flaming gays. Did you ever consider that? Why aren't these women listening to perhaps guys sing them love songs? Good point right? Now if your guy listens to a lot of divas and then tries to sing like them while wearing a dress, then that's different. But if your man simply likes Mariah it doesn't mean he's gay. The only way these are good advise, is if the readers continue to remember that the man must be doing most of the things on this list to be a suspect. Also if he's so gay, why on earth is he wasting his time taking women out? Making out with them to the point they are turned on and they consider each other boy friend/girl friend? Think people think! You'll know when he's playing for the other team when he stops acting like a boy friend, but another girl. As long as he wants to date you, make out with, finds you sexy, you should be ok.
MasonsMom 3 years ago
Funny & informative, all wrapped into one!