Reliable signs that your Girlfriend is Cheating on you
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This is very interesting article about knowing if our partners are hiding someone in their closet. There are many relationships in this world that ended miserably just because the men cheated or the men did something undesirable to their partners. Well, is it always the men to blame? But honestly women also did so many undesirable acts in a relationship that their men did not know, and the worst thing they always blame the men as the cheater in the end. So here are some cool signs for men to know if their partners are acting something unusual could they be hiding someone under their bed?
Read my Article about Wives having an affair
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excertps from Mens Dating Magazine
1) Your Gut Sends You Signals
Does your gut tell you something's wrong?
The very first indicator is your intuition or your instinct. You know when you get that gut feeling that something just isn't right?
Trust it!
Even though you may not have any other signs of a cheating partner, your gut is generally incredibly accurate -- unless, of course, you have trust issues to begin with.
I think we're raised to believe in logic. But our intuitions overrule logic, so if you getting signals from your intuition, DON'T try to shut them out, thinking it's 'only in your head'.
It's probably not.
2) She Changes her Appearance
Did she change something major about the way she looks?
If you notice a sudden change in your girlfriend's appearance, like new or sexier clothes, a drastically different hair style, or a sudden preoccupation with her weight...
... this is one of the huge signs your girlfriend is cheating.
Women know that the best way to get a man's attention is by LOOKING attractive. Obvious, right.
So why would she suddenly change her appearance?
You got it! There may be another guy in the picture.
3) She Talks About Another Guy
Does she talk endlessly about another guy with admiration ?
If you have a sister, you may have noticed when and how she talks about a certain guy, who she obviously has a crush on.
She tells you little stories about things he does or gives you small details about his life.
Well, if your girlfriend is suddenly discussing some guy she works with or met in this same way, this could be an indicator your girlfriends cheating -- or more accurately, it probably hasn't gotten that far.
She's just infatuated.
But if she suddenly STOPS talking about him or bringing him into conversations, this is one of the signs your girlfriend is cheating.
4) Physical Contact or Sex Decreases
Does she seem uninterested in sex with you?
This one should be obvious. Remember, if a woman isn't sleeping with you, in all likelihood, she's sleeping with someone else.
So if a woman rejects your advances or moves away from you when you initiate physical contact, this is one of the major signs of a cheating girlfriend.
Especially if this begins happening regularily without an obvious reason and it is also very different than how things were eariler in the relationship.
So if she's distant and you're getting that gut feeling that something isn't right, there's a good chance your girlfriends cheating.
5) She Gives You Too Many Details
Does she give you detailed explanations of her affairs?
If your girlfriend suddenly starts giving you detailed explanations of what she did last night or where she was, this is another of the signs your girlfriend is cheating.
Sure, women can talk a lot. But doesn't a complete narrative of what she did seem a little strange? Especially if it's out of her character.
Perhps this will sound odd, but...
It may be that she's feeling guilty and trying to prove she WASN'T cheating -- even though you haven't and didn't even expect it.
But if your girlfriend is trying to cover for herself without you even giving her a reason, she probably has one.
6) Unexpected Gifts or Favors
Is she suddenly being extra nice when she wasn't before?
Most women who cheat do feel guilty about it.
So another of these signs your girlfriend is cheating on you is if she starts doing extra special things for you.
Things she didn't do before.
If your girlfriend surprises you unexpectedly by buying you things or doing little favors for you, she may be feeling guilty about what she's done or is doing.
And she's being extra nice to make herself feel better about it.
7) Mutual Friends Act Strange
Do your mutual friends seem to behave oddly around you?
Most friends don't want to get caught in the crossfire, so even if they know your girlfriends cheating, they won't say anything.
Good friends will, even though they know it may make the situation uncomfortable for them.
But most will act weird around you. You'll pick up an uneasiness when they're around you and you may catch a few 'knowing' eye contact exchanges between them.
So if you're getting a weird vibe from friends, this may be another of the signs of a cheater partner.
8) Things Just Don’t Add Up
Did you find out later she lied about something?
Finally, things just don't make sense or add up when thinking back.
Perhaps your girlfriend said she was going somewhere, but later you find out she wasn't even there. Or much later, she mentions she was somewhere she 'shouldn't' have been without her thinking about what she's saying.
And it just doesn't click probably.
This is another of the signs of a cheating girlfriend.
Again, trust your gut. And though we're taught not trust these unseen 'powers', your intuition is probably the most reliable thing you can use.
Trust it!
It's the most reliable of the signs your girlfriend is cheating.
article by: Ken Marlborough
Cheating has plagued love lives for generations. Sometimes, one never finds out about an affair a girlfriend has had. However, there are certain signs which might give one a clue as to whether (and exactly to what limit) the girlfriend is cheating.
The first sign of infidelity by a girlfriend in a relationship is her general disinterest in anything that the two enjoyed doing together previously. Sometimes this disinterest is blatant. For example, if a couple watches a movie together, and afterwards she can’t remember anything about the movie, then she might be deeply distracted by something. This disinterest then might graduate into a series of unexplained cancellations of plans.
Another sign of infidelity is an inexplicable display of guilt. One way in which guilt manifests itself is avoidance of the person who the guilty party feels is being hurt by her actions. The cheating girlfriend is therefore prone to generally avoiding the injured party – either by not taking calls or by not meeting for that ride or walk the couple used to like so much. Guilt can also cause pre-existing levels of intimacy to plummet.
Of course, there are countless other signs of a new lover: a sudden increase in her monthly expenses and car mileage; a splurge on cosmetics and clothes; a chronically non-reachable cell phone; an increase in overtime at her job without the accompanying increase in her paycheck, and so on. Also, if you notice a sudden increase in the number of her distant cousins, friends, ex-classmates, college friends, and so on, beware: she might be cheating.
Girlfriends having an affair have to be extremely well organized; their schedules are therefore punctiliously maintained. An affair is just an extension of a girl’s daily life: she has to find time for the accomplice between family, work, social life, and the injured party. Keeping a big secret is a very tiresome job, and only the coolest, most calculating people can actually keep such a secret. If your girlfriend is not very resourceful and she is keeping a secret, she will probably falter somewhere and maybe blurt it out to you herself.
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good article!
we should also add that she will never ever say "yes i cheated on you" if you ask her!
she will say "not i haven't done it" instead!
and whe will also say " I am not that kind of girl... who do youthink I am? You are insulting me"... well this is the sign she has already cheated on you!
and when you ask this kind of questions, she won't be able to look into your eyes... even if you tell her to look into your eyes!
John
It goes both ways...
Especially the gift part. Men are famous for gift giving whilst cheating.
99.9% women, given perception and opportunity will land on bed real fast. She is smart? then you hardly get her, otherwise, she stands some risks. What then follows? Kick her butt? See her as YOU and I as IMPERFECT beings and WORK to get imperfection related issues behind and together endeavour to IMPROVE and get better UNDERSTANDING in respect of LIVING ON RELATIONSHIP COMMANDED by Our PERFECT LORD GOD ALMIGHTY. Have you tried to discuss openly with each "WHAT FIRES YOU OR HER SEXUALLY" Did you try NEW things. Things that TURNS her head almost sexually out of control. WOMEN as it turns out CAN NOT, repeat, CANNOT CONTROL their SEXUAL URGE ONCE THESE FACTORS ARE ESTABLISHED;
Number One (1) ....PERCEPTION.
Number Two (2)....OPPORTUNITY.
Any moment you have these two (2) factors above prevailing, the woman is busy with you on bed no questions.
Women are MUCH MORE SEXIER than Men, this is established FACT.
With ECONOMY and SOCIAL EVOLUTION strongly FAVORING Women
(Given education and Job issues, including BUSINESS / MONEY situations
all giving GREEN LIGHTS to women, meaning less dependancy on the man
for economic considerations, WOMEN ARE MUCH MORE STRONG NOW IN THEIR DRIVES).
GMichael
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hi....... you their how are you
Good article, sad if true, I would be crying if it happened to me, but I know that isnt the case ^_^ and I could never be glader!
Hi my name is cyril, i live and work in the UK, london to be precise. How are u doing? i guess u are fine. am not really good with this kindda stuffs, since i separated with my wife i have been alone so i thot i look for one who fill the emptiness. I wld like us to be friends, maybe we cld get closer. i have my own small company that i manage by my self. I hope to hear from you maybe then we wld really talk about ourselves. You cld mail me on cyrilexi@yahoo.com
I HONESTLY THINK MOST OF THOSE ARE VERY TRUE BUT THE WOMEN SOMETIMES GET TOO NERVOUS AND A MAN COULD ALSO TELL IF THEY ARE CHEATING WHEN THEY ARE ALWAYS HIDDING THEIR CELL PHONES AND ALWAYS LEAVING THE HOUSE, ITS LIKE THEY NEVER WANT TO BE WITH YOU, THEY ALWAYS WANT TO GO GO GO....... OUT, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO CHEATING. MY OPINION IS THAT MEN ALWAYS HAVE THE UPPER HAND AND FIND OUT THINGS QUICKER THEN THE FEMALE!
wow my girlfriend shows most of these signs except the gift giving so does that really mean my girlfriend is cheating on me???
well my wife rfuses sex or trys to avoide it. i really think my cousin could have a part in this he lives in new mexico and he use to come over all the time like once every 2 weeks then one day we went out and he clled my wife to pick him up well luckely my wife was asleep and i came home and seen his number well i blew it off still kept in touch but all the sudden no calles no coming over nothing. and wen i finally saw him very strange person like we just knew each other . well if he did dowhat i think he did ill be pissed but i just want to know so i can drop my wife and start over im still young any wayz so it doesnt bother me
How about entering your girlfriends place and see,a trail of some other guys cloths and things on the floor-way to the bathroom,and you end up seeing him in the tub.Now she tells you there is nothing going on.They went to a meeting, and on the way back,he got smeared so badly, he had to take a bath.
I dont like people sharing my space,even if it is her place. Is that normal?
That's hilarious! I exhibit most of these behaviors, and I'm definitely NOT cheating on my guy.
This list is such stupid, paranoid bullshit. Anyone that reckons this shit makes sense will probably never get to enjoy a good mutually respectful relationship.
ohhh ohhh women are always the cheaters and on the look out for it....guys make sure u get one good gal fren like mine...i love her and she loves me...when love prevails,,,cheatin is out of question and even she knows if she cheats on me...she will be dead but then for like couple of months back..things seem strange, we quarrel alot and then there is this new guy at her work place whom she talks about quite a bit, now she really spends alot on her clothes and all... when she doesnt meet me everyday, why does she put such an effort to look good? and last time she told me about this new guy at her work compliments her alot....fuck this whole crap...i can go andget another dozens of gals if i want to but then i want to stick to her...now this gal fren of mine has once cheated on her ex boyfren and that too was my friend...so its really strange can i trust her or not? i feel if she cheated on him then why not me?
Bottom-line, if she cheats, I do not care how much you love her, you have to dump her. You can never trust this person again. Move on. There are so many other women out there that are begging for fun and interesting guy. Someone who cheats needs to learn the consequences of their actions. Only then will that person possibly develop some morals. As for you, you have to respect yourself and that means moving on and finding someone that is worth your valuable time.
hey i have never cheated on ma boy been with him 2 years and still happy have never done the dirt on him and i never feel lyk i want to do the dirt on him most girls woul buh i respect my boy
My girlfriend cheated on me with someone and so I left her ass stranded 4 states away from home. So 2months later the crazy-ass girl came home to see me while she was with her new b/f wanting to get back with me. So since I had a dry spell we done the dirty and she was happy thinking we were getting back together. I told her no she was nuts I got what I needed and that is exactly why I left her to start with. Once a cheater always a cheater I done what she wanted even though I may not have liked it. I bought her things spent time with her asked her how her day went. She came first in the bedroom I stood up for her always never forgot her B-day ect. I even pretended to like her family lol. So ladies wtf is wrong why cheat? Girls like this will never be happy ,the problem with that is they make good guys like me jerks, so they deserve asshole guys just like my X got and now she has a kid with him and lives off food stamps. Karma came full circle for her I hope it was worth it & I'm happy for her...
Be careful guys, my girlfriend cheated on me for like 6 months before I found out, I got off work early one night and came home to hear her having sex, then I peeked through the window and saw them doing it. After confronting her I found out they did it probably 5 times a week monday thru friday while I was at work, what really pissed me off is he didn't like condoms so he had been doing it without one, and I had regularly been eating her out after I got home from work, I had mentioned a lot of times how wet she was and she would always tell me she was horny because of me, well I had been eating this guys cum out of her for months, might as well have sucked his dick I pretty much did anyway, he is my neighbor and I have to see him every damn day its so embarassing I know he knows I have swallowed his cum.
BID DADDY THAT IS WHERE YOU MESSED UP SPOILING HER DONT NEVER DO THAT I APOLOGIZED FOR WHAT I HAD DID TO HER THEN I GIVE HER SPACE ABOUT A MONTH THEN WE BACK TOGETHER DONT NEVER GIVE HER ANYTHING THAT IS NOT LOVE YOU ARE BUYING HER COME ON MAN MAKE HER PAY FOR IT!!
SHE WILL APPRECIATE YOU MORE
i dont know if its just in my head. I've got a girlfriend who i think is cheating on me. there is a guy who always text her and i can see in her recently used number that she is replying to that son of a bitch. i even caught the guy calling her in her cellphone. we've talk about it and says to let her deal with the guy and i've got nothing to be jealous of. but its freaking me out. why would she still be replying to that damn guy. i wanted to take action but i cant. i might end up killing him. haha. i dont know what is going to happen next. i do love her so much and i know the she also do. i've been thinking of moving on with my life. letting her do what she wants to do. i'm still young anyways and can get a better one. someone who i can give my full trust.
light it sounds just like the problem im having with my girl, the phone calls the messages and everything like that. he is buying her gifts and she is telling me that they are things that she bought, she is also meeting him after work a few nights a week at a closed store in between her job and home, she has even had him over to her house a few times and didnt inform me about it. he is an ex boyfriend from a few years ago and i have told her how i dont like the fact of her hanging around him because when she is he is touching on her and telling her that he loves her and wants to be with her again. she tells me that there is nothing to worry about and that she is "with the man that she wants". i over read a message stating that they had a "little secret" when i confronted her about that she told me that it was that they had talked about getting back together if me and her split up, but the way things are adding up now, im just not so sure anymore.
I don't know what to do. I have been with this girl for going on 5 years. She has cheated on me in the past, about 3 times, "that I know of". Well I wasn't making enough money as a butcher, so I made a career change and now I am a truck driver, being away from home for months at a time. I have that gut feeling that she is cheating on me. I have even told her that, not specifically though, i just said I had a bad feeling, that she is doing me wrong in some way. I just want to know for sure if she is. She has been hanging out with a lot of friends lately, and going here and there. Her story always seems to check out, you know she was where she said she was. But she had this one guy friend that she used to talk about a lot, and i found out through a friend that he made the comment, "if you weren't with him I'd be all over you". So I told her that that was unaccptable, and if some girl told me that then I wouldn't want anything to do with her, just because I love my baby so much i don't wanna take the chance of losing her. Anyways so she stopped talking to him for about a month or more and now she's sent him a message trying to get in touch with him again. I don't know what to do, I mean i really do have that gut feeling, or why else would I be reading all this on this page. I am really close to just telling her that I am going my way and I am done, but I don't want to do that if she really isnt cheating on me. I have this one saying stuck in my head though, "once a cheater always a cheater". I love her so much but i can't be with her if she is cheating on me. I mean the thoughts of it, of some other guy touching her and feeling her just tears me apart. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thanks
its so imformative but one thing i can say in this article,but sorry to say not all woman and man has a one sign.its good to chick it out the sign of being so what ever.but reading in this article its tell me not every body same.i am female and i jst past this article. sense i find it out by my self that my boy friend is cheating on my.right on my eye.so i come to chick here out what i can do to save our relastionship back to the way we have before.so i come to search maybe a act some thing to him why he cheated.so this article said sign of cheated girlfriend.so i find it that i act 99 % al this sign of cheating girlfriend.but the thing is i dont cheat to my boy friend i love him more than my own.so not all ,it is a lack of communcation.and time.so the bst thing is trust to each other understaning and communcation and respect.now GOD HELP US we back again in the way we used to be together slowly.thanks
its so imformative but one thing i can say in this article,but sorry to say not all woman and man has a one sign.its good to chick it out the sign of being so what ever.but reading in this article its tell me not every body same.i am female and i jst past this article. sense i find it out by my self that my boy friend is cheating on my.right on my eye.so i come to chick here out what i can do to save our relastionship back to the way we have before.so i come to search maybe a act some thing to him why he cheated.so this article said sign of cheated girlfriend.so i find it that i act 99 % al this sign of cheating girlfriend.but the thing is i dont cheat to my boy friend i love him more than my own.so not all ,it is a lack of communcation.and time.so the bst thing is trust to each other understaning and communcation and respect.now GOD HELP US we back again in the way we used to be together slowly.thanks
I am 60 and my gal is 50, even though i`m 60, i`m well indowed, and i could keep her naked all the time, give it to her once a day, all day, she has a gorgeous body, perfect........anyway she has started to go through menopause and i only see her once a week, so when i do get ahold of her i don`t let go, once i get off, 15 minutes i want it again, but she does`nt want round two........i`m told girls this age lose their libeto, she needs horomoe shots, but she has signs of cheating on me, but i`m wondering if another dude is involved, she says she loves me and our sex is the best in the world, i wonder if it has to do with her going through the change, b/c i`m 10 years older than her, i`m 60 but she can`t even think about going the distance with me, i could do her all night, thats how good she looks, i love her more than anything, do you think it`s the menopause that makes it look like she is cheating, she is always asking if she looks ok, she wears every color of thongs under the sun, and she knows she looks good, she could model them, young guys go crazy for her, she is a little blonde, 5ft. 2 120 lbs, she swears she wants only me. i do everything sexually that she wants, but i wonder if menopause is affecting her, depression, crying ect. give me some feed back, she is supposed to go to her female doctor for horomone shots, what do yall think?
i was with my girl friend for 4 years i began feeling that she was cheating or was interested in other men one in particular i had caught her talking to 2 years ago in which he called her phone and i picked up and he pretended he didnt hear me on the other end,she ended up leaving me not long after ,despite my willing to work things out,she then came back to me 3 months later,we got back together things seemd ok for a little while but then i began getting that feeling again when she began attitude changes,and not wanted to see me as much etc....i began asking her if she was talking to the same guy she said i was accusing her i told her it was a question not an accusation but she was so very defensive about it .i think by me saying these things just made everything worse but i just got such a feeling in my gut that i had to say something the fact of knowing inside yet she lied and lied drove me to the brink of insanity now here i am broken hearted and not knowing what to do she was it for me i thought she was the one
i was with my girl friend for 4 years i began feeling that she was cheating or was interested in other men one in particular i had caught her talking to 2 years ago in which he called her phone and i picked up and he pretended he didnt hear me on the other end,she ended up leaving me not long after ,despite my willing to work things out,she then came back to me 3 months later,we got back together things seemd ok for a little while but then i began getting that feeling again when she began attitude changes,and not wanted to see me as much etc....i began asking her if she was talking to the same guy she said i was accusing her i told her it was a question not an accusation but she was so very defensive about it .i think by me saying these things just made everything worse but i just got such a feeling in my gut that i had to say something the fact of knowing inside yet she lied and lied drove me to the brink of insanity now here i am broken hearted and not knowing what to do she was it for me i thought she was the one
Well am a boy of 20 years of age.I find myself falling for a woman at the age of 25 years old.As a matter of fact, we do all understand each other with a great due of respect later on,i find my self in a very bad situation having alot of things running on my mind that my girl friend is extremely cheating on me though i dont know the sign of that.Does it means that she is really cheating on me..??May our good lord richly bless us with God garing women. Thank You
cheating still wrong no matter who does it.
CheaterGirl
very good, I support you, come on , welcome to my hub!
I could not have said it better myself Big Daddy!
Liars don't deserve respect!
i concur with the item. but dont you think that most of these ideas an even break your relationships due to fear of everything your dodoe does for real? suspicion and too much of it for real doesnt help. any way whatever good looks or goodness you saw in her does not have to be noticed by someone else? of course people have eyes and brains to make a conclusion just like yours, of getting into the relationship. the bottomline of chaeting is simple, JUST PLAY YOUR PART FAITHFULLY AND LET OTHERS PLAY THEIRS
What if your girlfriend gets a text from an old crush?
the answer is... penis
Women are so cunning and manipulative and they love to "gaslight" you to make you think your perceptions are inaccurate. My present wife is a psycho who does this all the time and hangs out with like girls way younger than her....
mmm lets see were do i begin well...Try your girlfriend obortioning your child and then when she comes back home you call her phone to see how she is and shes with other guys on a night out drinking. i go mad on the phone and im the bad guy?. Later on a few months later i then found out from her best friend that she cheated on me (kissed another guy) the next night after coming home from oborting our child. I then rang her up annoyed i was just stunned staring at the wall trying to think what the fuck to say i felt like eating the phone to get at her. Her excuse was she was annoyed by me ringing her and giving off because she was with other guys and that she needed somebody? preety fucked up...yea i know.
One thing for all people involved in relationships. Please if he/she wants to leave ,don't force her to stay. if there was no mutual respect and trust from the start,then this relationship is not worth it's salt.It is hard to find the right partner butthen the only type of relationship that is steamy is when both partners respect each other.Now that becomes a team, and intimacy becomes concentual.
Look im not here to talk about my problems.. but the quote "once a cheater always a cheater" isnt true..I have cheated on every single girl i have dated...please i know im an asshole but now i found the girl of my dreams i mean when i drive away from her house i just feel like turnin around just for a last kiss..till i see her tommorw..but "once a cheater always a cheater" isnt true i would never cheat on my girl frined now..she is my every thing (p.s) (people do change)
its not once a cheater always a cheater, its "you cant turn a hoe into a housewife" this is the saying that rings clearest and most true in my head. i have been with so many girls and every single one of them has cheated on me, except one, one was nice enough to dump me before she fucked another guy, 5 minutes before, but still. its the thought that counts. please gals, please be honest and get your head straight chances are guys will take you back if you just have a fling. its so dumb to even want this 30% of woman that are killed are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends, im willing to bet most of that percentage were cheaters. im in no way saying they are justified in doing something so terrible no way at all, i can however see how in the wrong situation something like that can happen. you really have no idea how bad it hurts so bad to know that youve been cheated on and then get lied to straight in the face by the person who you would give your life for, take a bullet for, the person who you commit every second of your being towards. its terrible it really is that people have to put up with this. in my opinion girls are the cheaters more so than guys because well they are girls, you can be butt fucking ugly and broke as a girl and still get fucked, try being ugly and broke as a guy and even getting a girl to look in your direction. again im not saying this is right, but i can understand why men were so afraid of giving woman any rights at all in the first place, because of how much more powerful they could be in this world then man. its a shame that most girls always have their own agenda, and will suck a guys dick if she just "thinks" she likes him, and he takes her out to a fancy dinner. i know i probably deserve being cheated on because i used to be swine, a pig, a womanizer, i would take girls out and spend 100s of dollars on them just to get in their pants, and it always worked, if they had a boyfriend or not, they would of course lie to their spouse married or not (whos going to turn down a 100 dollar dinner?) and things would just escalate and i would end up doing the nasty. i feel so bad now for all of those guys that i hurt in the proceess of my own selfishness, and i feel like maybe i deserve what is happening to me, now what does all this mean? shower your gal with gifts? no, because she will expect that all the time or shell dump you, treat her like ass? even tho most girls do like an asshole, it wont last long. unless you get a girl that is fucked in the head and will cheat, maybe worse. what is the middle ground, im 21 with 2 kids from this girl who has cheated on me several times, hell i let her fuck my friend because i knew she was going to if i didnt. might as well know about it and be there right? please someone help me. i would love to hear from a girl who is a cheater and changed for her man. i want to know why please any information at all is helpful. dstrbdfan666@hotmail.com in the subject put cheaters so i dont think its spam.
i have a live in partner and i want to make sure on him that i never cheated on him but he didnt trust and believe on me.is there anyway that i can gain his trust or even a dna test or something that can prove on him that i didnt make sex to anybody aside from him?is there such call a test for men to check whether there is another sperm on the body of the girl or on his body from me?please help me..
I don't know what some of you guys are saying, but the cheating rate is pretty much equal amongst men and women. That being said, if I find out my wife/girlfriend is cheating on me... I'll make sure the guy she had an affair with is about to die; clinging to life. I'll do it with my own two hands or stab the shit out of him with a broken glass bottle. Then at that point I'll most likely just leave. And when I say leave, I'll literally pack my things up and go. If I had kids at that point, I'm bringing them along with me.
idk if my girlfriend is cheating on me or not she seems 2 think this guy is hot and then the next thing ik she goes to her cuzins house to sleep over and the guy she thinks is hot "appears there" and i keep begging her 2 stop talking to him and just stop going around him and she says hes just my friend but idk if i belive her... plz leave a comment and tell me what ur opinion is =(
Well, I had a girlfriend who cheated on me for a long time. All of a sudden , she would talk about these guys from work or the boyfriend of her best girlfriend like they were God. She could even describe what their bare chest looked like. Fishy, eh? It got to the point where it seemed like I was talking to them rather than her. I finally broke up with her. She never admitted nothing, but when confronted, didn't have much to say. If you suspect that you're being cheated on, guess what? You are. Your instincts are never wrong, but your denial of the situation usually is. Just get out and start over. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
to be honest i used to be very faithful, nice, and all that stuff. i was what every girl wanted. good looks and everything. but then i got cheat on when i was in love and now i just use girls to get what i want. women ask why we so mean and all that. well the truth is its women that cheat or that does bad stuff is what turns us into these so called "jerks"
beat the fucking hell out of ur woeman if she cheats thats what the get for messin with ur heart.
so many things about this article have happened i am shocked! i just found out my gf cheated on me a month ago! not only that but it was with more than one person! that appearance thing got me, after telling me about this new "friend" of hers she goes out and changes her hair (shes bi, and this friend is female, wats worse is she actually told me she "really wants" this girl!) since she confessed to me about her fuck up i thought i might at least giver her another chance, but after reading this...i just dont know anymore.
All of those things are happenin except for some of those things now i no how to catch her in lies girls are cruddy (some of them) plus they are never satisfied and call men wrong stupid and insensitive
All of those things are happenin except for some of those things now i no how to catch her in lies girls are cruddy (some of them) plus they are never satisfied and call men wrong stupid and insensitive
Not to say that my girl friend cheated on me, but i have this gut feeling that she is doing so, sometimes she lies about her where abouts only to tell the truth later, she takes time out in the evenings in town dont know with who, but i think i should just terminate this relationship as its cozing lots of pain, ilove her so much but at times i think if one does not appreciate they should be left alone.
hey guys, my advice is marry to virgin girls, it would be perfect as you wish
The girlfriend, that I was dating for about 1.5 year started to avoid usual Saturday and Sunday dates.
Accidentally (miracle ?) my answering machine recorded some unusual noise between her and a male.
She tells me that everything is in my mind and she was faithful. After the breakup she is releaved, telling me that I was giving her stress.
nice comment i see that the other signs are happening to my gf..but just like what they always says expect the worst...wish e luck guys..
this is my new facebook as i deleted last one. i hope your ok. can u private message me back, i needed to ask ur advise.. iam so worried my relationship with kim is falling to pieces. im sooo paranoid! and ill tell u why.. ok so kim said she ended things with her ex in june and we got together in july, the first things that happened is she wud lie who she was texting and she wud be texting him coz i took her phone ages ago but it wasnt anything bad but point was she lied about it. about a month and a half ago, i took a detour as i was on way to work to her ex's coz i thought she had been acting weird. it was early in the morning, and guess what? i find her car parked there.. i kick off and scream the street down, he comes out and tries to go for me and police come, and after all of tht she claimed she was only getting her stuff, yet it was sooo early and she hadnt even got it, and every recnetly she got a new number, but before she did, her ex did and he texted it to her but she claimed it was an accident and he didnt mean to, so she then gets her new phone with new number and she said she saved it on her phne just in case :s and then later that day she said she was going to the garage to get her car fixed, i went there and cud see from a distance, (this was last week btw) and yeah her car was theier, she asked me not to come as she had to pick her sister up there. so i sat and watched from distance, and then i see her ex's car pull up and he goes in the building where she is, i then jog down there and go in to find them two talking, so she arranged to see him, but claims they are only mates but didnt say that to my face.. and that means they obvs exchanged new numbers :s so last night i went thru her phone, she deleted her messages, and i looked in her contacts and found " Sam
Great Article. ALWAYS OBEY RULE NUMBER ONE. Unless you have trust issues, you usually know when something is up.
Ricky, i'm sorry pal, but after only a month it sounds like you are a "Rebound" probably the guy to fill the void while she and the ex were having problems.
I can't stress rule No. 1 enough, women call it feminine intuition. Guys call it the gut feeling. Its your logic having an argument with your heart and can make you feel sick to your stomach.
If your having trust issues then (I know i'm gonna get flack from the girls here for this) Its not all your fault. If you were being sexually, emotionally satisfied in your relationship I doubt trust issues would come.
Most of these rules imply a distancing or physical rejection, which causes TRUST ISSUES!
Ricky, I know girls like the one your dating. Stay away from girls like that. Besides if you have problems in the future and break up for a couple weeks, you want her doing the dirty with some new guy?
Gut feeling. yeah. cant stress that enough..
but what i cant describe is why cant i let her go even though
i know im having this gut feeling.. cud u please tell me how am i going to do that.. eventhough i know i love her that much.. i still want to know if she really is cheating on me.. so that i could have my pride back and get away from her as possible.. i know im an asshole before but not now.. i dont care if she does.. i'd a kill them anyway.. please comment.. tnx.
to be honest its hard to trust someone when you have previously been hurt and cheated on in the past, with me it was with some random ass black guy so you can tell im a little upset about that like how do i compete with that shit. and thats why its hard to trust my love now cuz i feel like no matter what i do nothing good like this will stay.
my girlfriends ex let me borrow his phone so i could talk to her cuz mine broke. i read the messages he and her were sending and i found one that said she still has feelings for him that she will never lose. then she told me that i should delete our messages before i give him his phone back cuz she said he is jealous of us because she was his first love and she feels bad. and now they are "best friends" but everytime she sees me she says she loves me.
Thnxx a lot for this real piece of information.It's really worth..thnxx a lot
Here's my experience regarding relationships/marriage
human beings are designed to sleep with each other, and i firmly believe that a man and a woman can't have a platonic friendship, as there will always be attraction involved. The only thing that will determine if things will go further, is if the attraction happens both ways.
So if you're in a relationship with someone or married, and your wife/girlfriend suddenly brings up a guy who she's in touch with, or she decides to go out with her friends on a night out... BEWARE!
No matter how logical she is and no matter what she says, the minute she gets into a situation with a guy where it's on, her emotions will take over, and she will try to justify it with logic later on.
So therefore, any time a girl encourages a guy to keep in touch, swap numbers or to meet up as 'friends' then you know that she is committing a voluntary act of potentially being unfaithful with you.
I'm in a Long Distance Relationship at the moment and i've recently been getting bad gut feelings with my girlfriend because now, she is talking to me less and less because of her busy lifestyle and is now making up radical excuses as to why she's home late and the things she's getting up to without it making any sense.
As i speak, she is apparently spending the night at her friend's house just for fun and it being the xmas holidays. A week prior, i caught her giving out her number to some guy who asked to meet up with her...
And i'm suspecting that maybe he's the guy she's spending the night with tonight. The worst thing is, i will never know. I sent her a text half an hour ago asking if she got there ok, and got no response. I even tested her reaction and suggested we use her friends computer to skype, and that she'd text me if it's possible...
The article makes a lot of sense...
you can never go wrong with your gut... Trust your instincts guys...
I have a girl who has cheated on me at least 10 times... She wants to be my girlfriend now, and swears she will never do anything to hurt me again. She's acting sweet and doing every little meaningful thing. My gut has never been wrong. I have even gotten terrible pains in my torso and then stopped at a red light, just to see her in the car next to me with her ex. Always trust your gut. Should I give her another shot? I know everyone will say "hell no," but if you've been cheated on you know how much you still want to be with the person and that it's not your fault that you had to split or be hurt. I really want to be with her. I have no support from anyone about being with her. What do I do?...
Hurt Again,
If I were you, I won't give a 2nd chance let alone 11th chance. That's my opinion, the choice is yours. You will find another woman out there who truly loves you.
I dont know what to think... My girlfriend said shes going to this dudes house... she is there supposedly. Things just dont feel right. She texted when she got there and said "ill text you later"... its been 2 hours shes been there i texted her a little and she was replying and outta no one she stoped... i said i love you to her via text and no reply... i call her about and hour after i sent it and no reply.. texted alot of my female friends for advise 9 outta 11 said shes mostlikely cheating... I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK OR DO!!! if anyone has some advise send me an email please. Jerrymcgrey2000@yahoo.com
I think my fiance cheated on me with a guy from work. She would secretly text him alot like 128 times one day. 64 each. But befor I found this out she left me saying "Its not there anymore and I feel like we dont belong together" She was only gone for about a week and we are still together but I just cant get over it.
Dang.. this article was really accurate towards my situation in my relationship. I can feel so many changes compared to when we first started dating. At first it was nothing but love and happiness and we both looked forward to seeing each other every single day. It maybe have been the best love i tell you that straight up. Then after a while.. I noticed dramatic changes, how she speaks, how she looks at me, and the things we do. She doesn't spend time with me anymore, but rather then this "One Guy Friend". If i talk to her about it, she says that im just assuming things and its annoying and im sensitive. Always always always happens. I speak my heart, and then it always gets denied. But back then, we would listen and talk things out. Kiss and make up for it. But now it's like knives at our throats. hahaha.. But yeah.. i believe were done.. Cause i already found out shes been cheating on me. But this is very accurate. Most of all of this happened to me.
This is a bunch of bull shit! I'm nice to my boyfriend, I dress up to look good. And most of the things that you say cheating women do in here are, to him, things I do a lot. He has some weird feeling about something that happened in Alfred. When he could be FURTHER from the truth. I haven't touched or even really talked to anyone but him since about 2 months before we started dating. So how do I tell him I didn't now that you've filled his head with rubbish?
This is all true. I admit I did cheat on a boyfriend once and I did all of these things. I also know of other girls who have cheated and also got caught because their stories change. However, it is very similar with the guys when they are unfaithful.
@ Brad it hasn't been long u met her right?
I'm not sure of what to do, I've been told twice by people that she has cheated on me. But right when I was told, I talked to her right after. She said she didn't cheat. But from past history, she has been known to cheat. My friend was once her best friend and she said that my girlfriend has cheated on each and everyone of her ex's. When I went to talk to my girlfriend, she said people are just talking shit, and that she would never do that to me, and that if I want to believe what they say go ahead. We've have had a month of mistrust in eachother, from looking back. I'm still not sure if she is or not. I need help, Please help me.
Sonny, I don't think your girl is cheating. Sounds like normal menopause stuff. Just because you're 10 years older doesn't really mean anything as far as if she'll cheat or look around. Most women are 10 years ahead of men mentally anyway and sex is 90% mental lol. But seriously, sounds like you really love her + I'm sure she notices, just remind her now + again you find her so hot. She'll like it. But, don't be discouraged if she gets upset or doesn't believe you, hormones will mess her up for awhile.
If your spouse is cheating on you it is fully certain that he or she will be using their computer to maintain the relationship.Spotdoggy spy software will reveal if you have a cheating spouse because it can Automatically records all the activities on the PC & Internet.Although there are many reasons not to spy on your spouse, there are also many situations where I agree it is necessary. My be your spouse left before you ever had the chance to save your marriage.Hope this can help you.
I love my wife,but she hurt me?I met a nice girl who is willing to share me.And that is easing the pain.My wife is aware of my friend.She claims she is hurt,but really she is just angry as she does not want to be humiliated?I love them both.And not sure how that will work?Anyone have a suggestion.As only my wife is taking it bad?And she already suggested prior to my dual relationship that she might leave.One in the hand is better than two in the bush?Two in the hand could be interesting?As I know my wife might like it.And my girlfriend might agree just to please me?And to be able to spend more time with me?Just need to get over that hump. Anyone out there doing something similar?
Men ought to take this whatever it is back.Traditionally it's a man who gets dishonored to the point of fighting a gun or sword duel, when his woman is taken away from him.
When did the women start butting in and owning this territory?Is it because they have started wearing jeans and pants so now, they have automatically become men?
Men have the mechanism to make the seed, that makes babies.
emily noel bice cheated on me. if you know anyone named emily noel bice, then stay away from her. she will cheat on you.
- thank you
So, I think I am F'ed. Engaged to a woman Ive known for 3+ years. She is aways talking about Jon. It was her crush and he didn't want her. But, he keeps leading her on. Telling her He will inherit 9% of a company called AON. He called her on the 12th feb and asked her to come and visit him at College. Alone. She sprung the news that she was going to see him the 13th and I had a shit fit. He said he would spoil our wedding and openly said he doesnt like me. SO we fight verbaly and she says ok I wont go. Then on a walk she says "Walking in front of me you think your better than me." And she starts a bigger fight. So push comes to shove words are said, I change the locks and she Drives right up there that day.
That night after dinner, and drinks she came home around 10:55 pm. She was going to let me think she didnt go but slipped up on what she was up to. Opps. Shes cheating right? Commmon its so obious but I love this girl to death.
They were best friends, I snooped in her journal today and found out that she has been in love with him right before we started dating. Stating that they will be inseprable or totally apart.
Should I Facebook message him straight out ask?
How can I say I read her journal now?
I am so f'ed.
I love this woman and she will be the death of me yet.
For all the broken hearts out there....
Farewell Ungrateful traitor,
Farewell my perjured swain,
Let never injured creature
Believe a woman again.
The pleasure of possessing
Surpasses all Expressing,
But 'tis too short a blessing,
And Love too long a pain.
"Tis easy to deceive us men
In pity of your pain,
But when we love you leave us
To rail at you in vain.
Before we have descried it,
There is no bliss beside it
But I that once has tried it
will never love again.
The passion you Faked
Was only to obtain
But when the charm is ended
The charmer you disdain
Your love by ours we measure
Till we have lost our treasure,
But dying is a pleasure
When living with this pain.
i think my girlfriend is cheatin on me but im not sure the guy that i think she is with said that she asked him out but her 2 best friends said that he asked her out and she said yes it wuz only yesterday but like 5 or 6 people told me thats shes cheating on me ive been avoiding her for now cuz i dont no wat to do. im about to break up with her. n e 1 got any tips
Fawk this 77 shyt you you who wrote this shyt aint true quit writting dumb shyt got my man thinkin shyt that aint true dam writers get a grip and a life FAWK YOU!
Dang women - great poem, did you write that? Love the last two lines, very well written.
I am also in the middle of a situation. I feel for everyone else here but hopefully I'm not deluding myself when I say she still loves me and nothing happened.
my ex girlfriend told me she loved me no matter what as i left because my country needed me. I get a letter one day with torn up pictures of us and some nasty letters. I get home and she left me for some punk then has the balls to tell me that she still loved me and now that I was home we could be together. Bullshit once a cheater always a cheater its a good thing she wasn't on my bank account otherwise that woulda been sucked dry. Anybody in the military always has that in the back of their minds and when you know it happend its horrible especially when you have your life and lives of the men around you on the line all the time. I treated this girl like there was no other in the world and she screwed me. Time ta move on and get somebody else. Any advice on deployed soldiers because we aren't AT HOME or AROUND our girls to know any of this stuff.
thumbs up for the article , its 100% full of justice
so ppl i have a lil setuation that i dunno if i can call it cheat !! am in a relationship with her a year ago , we r totally IN LOVE since da day we met and had crush on each other . Am that kinda guy who TOTALLY faithful and respectful for relationships , and will NEVER do ANYthing that might hurt her even just 0.00001% , and she KNOWS all that and that she can never find a guy who respect her that much ... so the problem is , i had that gut feeling a month ago coz she lied on some points "not related to guys" just lies .. and 1 day she forgot her email account signed in my laptop , so i really wanted to find out wats hiding over there to releave that so-called-gutt feeling , i checked her inbox and found out that she had a conversation with a guy , it was full of nasty words and talkin about wet dreams and such , dunno wat she was thinkin of " in our society we take such behaviousre SOOO BAAAD" , as she knows this , and knows that shes not supposed to take it that far with a guy , and she knows that I HATE THAT , so am hurted deeply , and dunno wether i forgive her or not , i know u might take this redicoulus but its the way it goes in my community .
so .... HELP!!!
lol this is nearly a load of bollocks. I feel i am ALL these things sometimes. such as a lot of times, i dont feel like having sex. many times im not with my boyfriend, i like to make myself luk attractive n he notices i do it too, n i dont even know WHYlol. its a girl thing, no reason for it n i cudnt care less about impressing anybody. my boyfriend has caught me lying, because its human nature n sometimes harmless, but also wrong. i wasnt hidinh that i was doing anything disgusting of any sort, just stupid things. i give my bf detailed discriptions of where i am when he doesnt know because i want him to believe me n prove im telling the truth, i give detailed description so he believes me, because if u didnt say much, u cud be making it up just as well, i even tell him to come n check! i get gifts from people, n thats just nice gestures. this i s all mostly bollocks n EVERY, EVERY relationshiip is different n every individual is different. i love my boyfriend n think mistrust can take place because of articles just like this one, where they give u misinformation that could be tru or real bu equal chance. its because of articles like these that people begin to be upset n paranoid. get a life, we r all different n what is ment to be will happen.
Three thumbs up..
Three thumbs up..
Anyone think what I wrote is right? I read her diary and It so says she loves this guy Jon. And says not that she remembers, also saying no I never had a crush on him when we were friends.
I've Had All of These Signs before. infact now for that matter. but what if you trust her? if you have no choice? if you dont trust her you loose her weither she cheated or not? Then what Do i Do? because my girlfriend doesnt like being adgutated in anyway. so what do i do?
Hello Im 14 years old and my girlfriend is the worst. Im in love with for 9 years but when I saw her with my best friend kissing in the cinema and then in the gym almost lieing on there selves. I was in great anger from it and I felt like my heart broken into 10 billiard peaces
Hello Im 14 years old and my girlfriend is the worst. Im in love with for 9 years but when I saw her with my best friend kissing in the cinema and then in the gym almost lieing on there selves. I was in great anger from it and I felt like my heart broken into 10 billiard peaces
Hi Im 14 years old I know her from when I was 4 we were in a relationship with her 9 years ago then I got that gut fealing so I went after her to see what is she doing. Then I saw her how she is kissing somebody else in front of my eyes. I dont know what to do cause I really cant hurt her not even 0.000000001% I dont have the heart to hurt her not even by words. I did not go to school for 3 days I stayed home and cryd. I REALLY NEED SOMEBODYS HELP. SO PLEASE HELP!!!!
Wow... I have 1 boyfriend, and as far as I'm concerned, 1 is plenty, more than plenty. What on earth would I need another boyfriend for?
HELLO EVERYONE I FELT IN LOVE WITH A 4 YRS ELDER GIRL...SHE ALWAYS USED TO SAY THAT
my point of this is if any women/man cheats they will get caught out in the end and not just that if some one is going to cheat they are going to cheat regardless in what you do to try and prevent it. my point to it all is if my mrs cheats on me then she has no respect for our family (our daughter who is 2 nearly 3) or myself and if i cheat i belive the same that i have no respect for our family but whats good for use is that we have respect for our family and each other so i believe we will never cheat on each other. i am not saying we have a perfect relationship as we do argue and we do have big arguements and stuff but thats couples. at the end of the day i beilive if a women or man cheats on there partner they are going no where in life as they dont respect someone they live with how can they respect them selves as they are cheating on them selves by throwing there life away when they cheat as if they dont want to be with the person or the person cant give them what they need they should live them and not cheat as it is a dirty move and deserves no credit at all and even the person they are cheating with is just as bad expescialy whne the person has a family.
wtf now i feel like shit bc my girl changed her hair dressed sexier and is obsessed with her weight also she wont give me details of her day and theirs no contact anymore1 do you think she is
yo my advice to everyone...stay single...be a fucking girl slayer...cuz in the end a girl might be faithful but all it takes is one incident and that faithfulness can be gone in a instant...ive seen sum pretty fucked up shit with cheating...in the end u really cant trust anyone cuz, as that freestyle song goes, "words are so easy to say" any girl can just say what they want and make up all the excuses they want but in the end there gunna do whatever the fuck they wanna do.
Females play games with men all the time. Sometimes they don't even know they are playing them. All the things they do are so instinctive that they barely know why they are doing them, apart from the basics. if u don't get it now you never will. they either cheat or they don't. cheaters are good at keeping secrets and the "good ones" who don't cheat, can cheat, but stuff up when it comes to keeping it a secret. Pretty much always wear a rubber no matter what and don't bother hitting them up about cheating. You never know, you might just make them do it by always talking about it. Someone who gets accused of something all the time in the end wants to see what it is about or teach you a lesson. So guys don't even ask about it. If u think they could be by their behavior, then mirror their behavior. In the back of their mind they really wouldn't like to have it done to them. so if u mirror their behavior, they will freak a little and respond to your behavior. That is enough to cut their cycle of game playing. Then play one of your own. If u keep them on their toes by "being the perfect gentleman" when it counts and also show them that it is possible that they might not be pleasing you as well as they could. Then the "being a woman" part of them takes over. They will not realize it, but they will try harder to be perfect for you. Guys remember! you must appreciate everything she does or it wont work! there is a fine line that if crossed could stuff all your efforts and leave you confused and alone. But if u play it safe you shouldn't go wrong.
1. Understand her
2. Appreciate her
3. Respect her
4. Respect what you want for yourself
5. The 1st four above should get her to appreciate you
6. Dont abuse what i have told you.
( you could end up alone!)
warning: this write up is for guys who have the mental capability to do all this as a "keep it in the back of your mind" thing, and is not to be taken lightly or used in an abusive way. good luck! ;-) sorry girls
yep
My girlfriend is called Natalie, we've been on for 10months and she has cheated on me twice that i know. one in the hotel and another at the guy's house both diferent people. and both only known through the naked pictures in her phone. i would have dump her but that is what anyone would have expect. I have made up my mind to walk away only when it hurt her most. May be a floating ring on her finger and a wedding ring on who i will marry. in that way i will pay her a coin for a coin.
You know man, you have a sickness, you have damn paranoja. Gz to you, cuz you are aking normal guys sick with this shit of article. I guess you were cheated by your gf so becae now so suspicious as some spy. If you d behace liek that with your gf, I think she d leave you in a week, cuz no noral gf wouldnt be able to stand this. I cant believe that someone colud be such a looser to write that shit.
Wow this is so scary coz every sign mentioned her makes sence. My girlfriend was showing all of these and in the end i got the info out of her best friend that she was sleeping with other guys on a regular basis. now all i feel like doing is getting revenge, but is it really worth it? everyone says its not but theres a urge inside me that wants too. she still loves me she says but dont they all? anyways got plenty of girls who like me atm. so dnt need her.
This were the cheating sign of my ex girlfriend.
Never look at my eyes while talking, and when I asked her to look at my eyes she would look up, or away.
Everytime I asked her why wouldn't she look at me straight to the eyes, she would always say that her genetics she got from her dad disabled her to look at me straight in the eyes (since her dad does not look at peoples eyes while speaking)
Found pictures of a guy without a shirt in her phone, she told me it was one of her old friends that she took a picture of once because he wanted to show her his abs that he attained from going to the gym.(To be honest, the guy didn't even have abs.)
She received a call once in front of me and said the following words "Yes he is here, why are you screaming at me? ok ok" Her son at the moment asked her if it was his dad one the phone and she said yes, then after she was about to hang up, her son asked her if he could speak to his dad, and she told him that it was not his dad.
Everytime I initiated intimacy, she would be feeling full(because of dinner), was very tired, or had a headache.
She complained when I kiss, she didn't like the way I kissed because I made her lips red.
I would call her, and she wouldn't return my calls.
She suddenly started working long extra hours.
I grabbed her phone once to check my bank account information through the internet, she got mad at me and told me not to check her stuff, that she doesn't like anyone checking her stuff.(When in fact I wasn't checking her personal stuff)
She was always receiving calls infront of me and wouldn't pick up. I asked her why wouldn't she pick up, she would say "oh it's my girl friend, and I don't really feel like talking to her now"
She would receive private calls in front of me, and not pick up.
You are only faithful as your options!!
Its a game, play it or be played...
Play the game CrazyD. Just don't put me on the bench.
I'm cheating on my man & he hasn't got a clue!!
My boyfriend doesn't go down on me so i have to wait till he goes to work and cheat on him with my vibrator. If he ever knew he would leave me and take his shell suit collection with him.
I cheat on my mrs with boys... Is that a problem? She wont use the strap-on i bought for us, well for me & my asshole feels neglected so i need to get sum bum fun from someone...
heres my story:
I met this wonderful girl playing xbox live nearly 2 years ago, and after about 6 months of waiting and saving money i moved across the country to be with her. everything was great at first, we were very much in love. since ive moved though and we have been living together, we have had our ups and downs. Shes always had lots of guy friends that i always told her just wanted to get with her, but she said not to worry and that to trust her. she also had trust issues with me that nearly drove me away many times because i admitted to her when we started dating that i had once cheated on an ex who cheated on me, but that i regretted it very much. Anyway, she would always say that all guys are the same, act like dogs and want to cheat. whatever. the past couple weeks things have been very bleak, she avoided eye contact, communication and intimacy and sex with me. At first i assumed it was just a rough spot, but as time kept going i kept getting this feeling more and more..that she was involved with other people. i couldnt ignore it anymore. i confronted her about it, and she lied. lied. lied. i just knew she was hiding something. then it came out. she had flirted with one guy whos been trying to get with her for the longest now. i knew there was more. i asked to see the convos on her phone. while in her inbox i saw a name i didnt know and asked about that person. finally i demanded to see the convo for her and that person. it was 1160 message convo where they had text sex. they exchanged pics. she said things...i could never believe. she has spent the last two days crying and begging for me not to go back to my hometown. i dont know what to do. the irony is ridiculous. any girl is capable of this. i dont know what im going to do, but i know theres more, and once i squueeze it all out of her, maybe then i can begin to trust her and decide whether i should leave her sorry ass or not. good luck to the guys out there whos hearts are hurting. you will get through this, just use your brain
listen, all theses things add up with me and my girlfriend. it's been almost 2 years. constant fights and lies. i always take her back. now she denies the cheating... but shes sketchy? i am falling apart over this. i really am. i can't take it anymore. i do everything and then some for her. and she all of a sudden wants to go to the gym? like what the fuck. she said to me shes chilling with her parents last night goes to her friends house? whos cuzint wants her? that's not sketchy? oh victor stop being jealous. bitch i told you not to chill there when he's there. it's all an excuse. and when i got her she kept going oh we got along n just talked that's it. might i add her breath smelt like total shit. tell me something? am i blind stupid? help me go through with this. i need the help. i can't handel a girl like thus anymore. and she's always like oh i love u so much blah kept saying it. it just goes in and out of my ears now.
Im In the military and I"m stationed overseas.I brought her out here to see me and when I checked her cell she was calling her ex and txting him saying "im in the room" I tryed to confront her but she want admit.So rite now I really dont know what to do.I will not see her until Aug. What do you think I should do?I would really use some advice....
Im In the military and I"m stationed overseas.I brought her out here to see me and when I checked her cell she was calling her ex and txting him saying "im in the room" I tryed to confront her but she want admit.So rite now I really dont know what to do.I will not see her until Aug. What do you think I should do?I would really use some advice....
Girlfriend shows most of these signs. Except mileage on a car and gift giving. Unless that counts as her going down on me.
i have a strong feelings that the girl i love and called my girlfriend is cheating on me. yeah she's been denying me sex lately, we do about 20% of how it used to be and few days ago we where together, someone was just busy calling her and the call got me pissed off i picked and told the guy that she was taking her bath, she became mad at me, shy i should pick her call. meanwhile she had already told me that he was just a friend within her neighbourhood. as she left i called the number and the guy refused to disclose his identity to me only to call my girl on the phone, she was furiouse and told me never to call her again untill i explain why i should call that guy. for two days now eh has refused my calls and she does not return my sms. please what do i do in this situation? i do not really know what to believe?
I bet most of you here are cheating or have on your girlfriends/boyfriends!! XD hahahahaha!!!
moots!
tell her to slide on military guy.
whoa this list id spot on i just found out my girlfriend has been cheating for about a month and just now am going to call her on it and was looking around for stuff to talk about so we can have a real conversation about it and found this list and its spot on
I hate to say this guys but if your guts tell you that shes cheating, then shes cheating! Trust your freaking instincts guys............. Don't believe her words....... Words no longer have meanings!! It's all in her actions!!! If you see shes acting differently then there's something definitely going on!! simple as that!!
that fact is true.she will say or tell u that never will she do such a thing.
I broke up from my girlfriend with all the usual "I want you to be happy" and "I want to be on my own" excuses. She'd been reaching for her phone more and more often and I'd even said to her that if I ever felt like I wanted to look at her phone (which I did in the end) I'd leave - I didn't! I found nothing incriminating on her phone and never knew her email password so I'll never know if she was seeing someone else but the signs were there. The thing to consider though is that if she's looking elsewhere you don't want to be with her anyway, no matter how much it hurts. And in my case she's so in debt with the bank that any new guy will have to bail her out some time soon and I can't see any bloke willing to do that unless he was really keen or stupid.
It's the thrill of the chase I think men and women go for. When they're free to properly go after the new flame it all seems like a normal relationship with all the routine and problems that everyone has but didn't seem important when they started the affair.
You'll go on, mend after the break and move on and meet someone else, but they'll realise sometime down the line that their new partner hasn't got the same appeal they did at the start and they'll break-up with them anyway and be hurt and miserable sometime down the line and feel stupid.
And don't even bother asking if she was seeing someone else cos you'll never get an honest answer. Even months after a break-up she'll still lie to cover up the fact that she probably regrets everything, wishes she'd stayed with you and feels like a real cow!
Best advice I'd give is the minute you start to suspect something - ask her what's going on, then ask her again and if you don't get the answer you feel is true walk away and forget her. Any bloke who picks up another mans girl has gotta think 'she left him for me so what's to stop her doing it to me?'
ONE OF THE WORST THINGS THAT CAN DESTROY A WOMANS SOUL IS THE DECEPTION OF THE ONE WHO SHE THOUGHT THAT TRUELY LOVED HER.CHEATING IS CRUEL BUT IF THE MAN DOES IT THEN CHEATING ON THEM IS PURE BLISS. GOES BOTH WAYS..
Girls cheat just like guys cheat. If you suspect your girl of cheating , do her friend if u can. If not let her go and move on.don't know why guys take girls back after they mess up. Be a player like I am,have fun wrap it up. When u become a player for a while then u will become smart with girls.you be a fool if you think girls don't cheat.
Hey, i have a girlfriend of 6 months and she's always had her ex boyfriend (from about 8 months ago) texting her, there was about a 4 month gap between month 2 and 6 where she didnt talk to him. she always sais how much he hurt her and how much she hates talking to him, but sometimes she tries to make things work as friends. this guy puts her through hell, calling her bitching her out, and he even called her a fat whore. she tells me to stay out of it cause she doesnt want to make things worse. she always said from day one that she would never cheat cause she knows how much it hurts. but anyways, about a week ago, she was in the town next to ours and thats where he lives, his myspace satus sais "chillin with my boo maria" (my gf's name) and he posted pictures on myspace of them kissing & such. she insisted that the pictures were old and i monitored her texting conversations and she kept telling him to take them down, and i finally told her she isnt aloud to talk to him anymore after this. so i dont know, is she cheating? she NEVER seemed like the girl to cheat, not in my wildest dreams. everybody sais she's never cheated and that she's been hurt so many times she'd never do that. so what do i believe? please guys i need help.
well she might if u think about it but still give her a chance u never no she might not have cheated on u but keep her in check and my girl friend i cant tell if shes cheating on me shes really hot and guys r always on her and she told me she would never cheat on me and she showed me tx messages of guys asking her out and her telling them that im with her and she always tells me to let her deal wit it but wouldnt u get mad if ur girlfriend wouldnt let u say anything and thats why i think shes cheating on me come on some help me out
dre, I have been there. Trust your instincts. you are answering your own questions. It is not paranoia to question the relationship that you are in. Remember, people only tell you and show you what they want you to hear and see. She may very well feel that if you say something to these guys it will make her appear as incapable, weak, etc...Look, for all you know she is telling you the truth. What is important here is how you feel. If you feel very unsettled, then leave the entire situation. Give up the one thing you never had, control over her and what she does.You cannot control anything that she says or does. So, look at all of those things that make you feel that something is up and ask yourself, what is my self-worth. I am not talking about money. I am talking about speaking with her directly but non-agressively. Make sure she knows that you will leave if you dont feel a genuine sense of truth from her. Look at her reactions, go home (that is if you dont live together) and let the answer come to you. Sometimes it is a feeling. Sometimes a situation that just comes to mind that gives you a sense of confirmation. Whatever it is, Do Not Agonize Over It!!! There is an old addage that states:
When there is doubt, there is none.
Be Well and dont act out. Just let it go, it is seriously not worth it.
My galfrnd does evrytin u jus said.thnks 4 dis 1daful piece.
My girls name is chrishonna she cheated on me 3 time and she confessed it but then she later said she jus said to make me mad cause I kept sayn she was cheating but she wasn't she treats me like shit and at the same time she shows me she loves me I dnt know wat to do i ask her does she wana have a long term relationship and her answer is I can't read the future I am a good guy and I deserve more than this she also does 30% of the things in the article and I'm not sure wat to do
Well, guy i'll tell you one thing.i've been there before and its not easy to decide but if its easy for you i'll advice you to move with your life and let her go, she shows you love to get you more confused everyday for her games. ther millions of good girls out there but not easy to get.
hi there im 15 years old and i need some advise my GF is planning have a sleep over with her and 2 other boys i know the 2 of em but one of em i can trust alot but the other i dont im keep on saying to my gf no i dont want u to have a sleep over with 2 boys then she said u dont trust me do u then is said i do trust u i just dont trust steve becasue he is a perverter little c*nt and she is telling me that he wont do anything as the othet boy is there and im still saying to her i dont u to have that sleep over its not right then she says to me if u carry on arguing about this i will do it any ways but what does this mean???? and she brought up to me they are gonna sleep in the same bed as she has got a massive sofa bed and i went god damn mental when he said that to me and she could understand why tho but tht besids the pont she still wants to do it then after loads of arguing she said if the sleep over would happen she will stay in her bed and the 2 boys will sleep in the sofa but i dont what to do im losing my mind over this some one please help me out!!!!!!!!
RY - She's cheating, period.
No sleepovers...EVER! CHEATING CHEATING CHEATING!
I need serious advice and help please.!!!!!!!!!
I was madly in love with my gf and everything was going just fine for awhile. well it has been 2 years of dating and we just broke up come 2 find out the first week we were dating she cheated on me with one of my old friends whom she had a crush on sice school. I knew something was wrong when she kept texting him and we got into a argument about him in the first month of our realtionship her answer was I need friends. well one day he told her to come hangout and she did they talked and she says the had sex but when i asked for a reason she still does not have a reason for cheating on me.also she is still talking to this guy and has been since we have been together. he moved away and they still talk. IDK why she kept dating me when she cheated the first week of being with me and it took for so long for her to tell the truth about it. she denied it and said i would never do that to you and kept denying but yet kept her cellphone always looked. and everytime i would get to see her text messages there it would be from him. also she left me on my birthday to go with her friends to hotel room by a college campus and she says nothing happened but everytime i ask her about that trip something new always comes up like they switched hotel rooms and we went to the dorm rooms for only 5 mins. as soon as she got back this chris guy was texting her phone when i questioned her about it she said he just messeged me off yahoo. which is funny we all know random people just dont message you on yahoo messenger. also she stills say i love you i just can't be in a realtionship with you and i do not want to be tied down. she is always looking for guys it seems and just random guys text her phone hard to know as she always kept a lock on her phone so i could not see who she was talking to. my friends told me she was doing me wrong here recently so i brought it to her and finally got the truth. it seems like she is always lieing trying to hide something. we are not together but it seems like she always just wants to come to my house and give me a booty call. i can't stand it i was so in love with her and just knowing the fact she cheated on me when we first got back together kills me. also she has been going with her friends. clubbing and getting hotel rooms. it's like she is a different person.
My girlfriend takes her phone every where even when even when she's at my house its in her hand or in the bathroom with her I have seen different guys names come up on text messageing I have asked about them and she says there just my friends. Any advice on what to do here other then grab her stupid phone and run off hide and start reading because that's what I wanna do.
i dated my girlfriend for a good 9 months fel deeply in love with her to. everything was fine but the last month we were together she started acting funny come to find out she was sleeping with people for money. 50 buck for them to do anything so before i went crazy and completely mudered like 20 people i moved my ass to maine in the middle of nowere.
I have been with my girl a year and a half now... about three months in, this guy she was with messaged me that she wouldn't stop calling him and leaving messages... Since then our relationship has changed completly. No trust. Love, barely there. But I know i'm not exactly a good catch, so all I can do is hope she doesn't go after another guy. Afew months ago, she actually asked me if she could take this "Mutual friend" of ours to a school dance. I said no, and she begged. So i said he could come in our group. While at my gfs house before the dance, I put a knife to his throat. He ran, and I was happy. Since then, my gf has had no friends that were boys. Call me paranoid, or violent. I don't give a shit. It solved the problem.
Ms. Paige who commented 4 months ago seems alittle angry? maybe because she did all the following things and has been found out? one other thing to learn, women get angry when they get found out and start blaming you even though they know they were the ones cheating :)
PS: its all in the eyes guys, if you can read her face and actions when you ask her questions you know shes up to something. good luck
oh my god, my girlfriend have most of the signs but i always ask her if shes cheating on me, she says, no im not, do you trust me or not? she even gave me a backpack for my work last month, she even wrapped it to make it look special, i dont want to become paranoid because of this signs, can somebody help me uncovering the truth about my girlfriend? omfg.....
My gf cheat me while we are in relation, she started going out with one guy like 2 month ago and her best friend told me that they planing to married but she still love me! Really I feel hurt what she did to me, I hate to have anymore relation to other girls.
I found out off one of 'our' friends that my girlfriend has cheated and lied to me, but.... i cant confront her and tell her that I know as i dont want to break my friends trust, and suggestions on what i should do people?
HA , Thank you, the comment that if she doesnt want to sleep with you she probably wants to sleep with someone else is the light hearted comment that made me laugh instead of sitting next to her thinking how im gonna murder her friends
A cheating man or woman is showing a sign of weakness in their heart and mind; they are not strong enough to say no. Saying no means you support your relationship and are willing to work at it. If you are not satisfied with your partners attitude, ways, morality or looks, try and change them. If you can't change them and they really bother you, end the relationship respectfully but don't cheat. Not cheating shows a sign of respect and consideration for your partner and it will help you look like a decent person. Most women in the past, when approached by a man said " I'm a married woman or I have a boyfriend." They understood the serious problems cheating brought. This is why some older couples in their 70s, 80s and 90s are still together. It was not easy but they made it through. Most of the time they stayed together cause they were there for each other and could trust each other for that. Cheating ruined a reputation of being a decent person; so most stood away from it. A man that cheats is weak on the inside; a woman that cheats is weak on the inside. If a relationship can not stand any longer, than it is time to go separate ways but do it considerably not insensitively. If you feel your partner will take it very hard, then have others ( friends or family) near by, just in case.
The hard thing is the "Don't you trust me?" comment. It's not something you can talk about with them. If you can get evidence of cheating then confront her with it, then she will be upset. So what to do?
Do you say "Look, let's stay friends and have sex. I want you, but I don't want to be your fall-back option." That just feels like it wouldn't work... she'll just piss of and you'll be alone... you can't go with her friends, cos they don't do that.
The other thing is to 'cheat' yourself. But the hard part about that, being a guy, is that the other woman will expect you to be single, so you wil have to hide your first r'ship.
If you do just leave her and start with a new one, how long befroe the new one wants the excitement of the new, or the thrill of the chase or the excitement of cheating?
As for the 15 yo guy about 12 or so posts up from this one, have a look at it fellas...
Okay, she comes out with the don't you trust me thing... this boy isn't naive, he knows what she's doing... now short of just leaving her, if you still want her sexy ass (she sounds like she's very pretty and sadly, I guess the bitches are) you need to know what to do. Girls reading his story, what do you think?
It seems she is rubbing it in his face, that she wants to humiliate and dominate him and she gets a kick out of it. So, assuming you still want the hot girl (not for a loving r'ship any more, for the sex and companionship) then how do you play it?
Or, how do you play it if you want to still be with the girl/woman who is chatting on facebook, or texting some guy, or talking about some guy at work?
Unless you want to keep starting up and losing each time the honeymoon period ends, what do you do? Do girls have any advice?
this is all makeing since specially that my girl friend started to worrie about her weight and my girl is sexy has a great physicle maybe she is cheating. wat if there is anothere reason but what would that be?
look i'll be honest. i used to be addicted to drugs, and i have terrible trust issues. i'm a good guy now, completely clean, workout and diet thats all i do. but i cant help but think my girl is attracted to guys at work. no one specifically i just dont know if i can trust her. she cheated on me like 4 times, we've been together for two year and i've cheated on her a couple times too. however were young. and were happy were happy. from waht i know its been a year since she cheated but idk i just can't help but think it. its a gut feeling but like i said i have trust issues to begin with (going way back to my parents divorce when i was 5 or 6) and just recently she decided to take a break and stay at a "friends house" i will admit i have done very bad things (phsically) which could also spark a "want to cheat" but at the same time, i can't help but believe her when she tells me she's being faithful. besides telling me i'm all f*ck*d up in the head...can you give me your two pennys
Okay so I'm. A female age 20 and I totally have to disagree I have never cheated on my man and now see where got this idea. First off I like to look good all the time and love switching things up. I have friends that are guys from work so I talk bout them and anot sexually attracted to them in any which way also I go threw phases were sex just doesn't seem appealing just becauses I'm not having it with him doesn't mean I'm. Getting it somewhere else sometimes I feel like doing nice things that doesn't make me a cheater I don't cheat never have and never will so thank u to whoever made this site and is ruining my relationship by putting BS in my mans head
this is an amazing article thank you. i think it is very well thought out and explains so many signs that mean dont see
I complained to my gf that I thought she was cheating and even one of her friends told me she was cheating and she got really angry at me and said I was a paranoid asshole and need to get psychiatric help. She actually had me going there for about 6 months I thought I was just being paranoid and may have a mental disorder. The sex was fantastic but the signs were there all the time and I couldn't get over it. One day she accidently left her diary on the nightstand when I came home from work and I couldn't help myself from looking in it. Sure enough she wrote about seeing these two guys and about feeling bad about sleeping with so many men. So that night I asked her again about sleeping around and she went ballistic and said that she was going to make an appt to get my head examined. lol That is when I realized that trusting your gut is the best way to go. After that I put a recorder in the apt and in less than a week I taped her sleeping with the apt manager and two plumbers that came in to fix a water leak!
This helped me out thanks :o im a teenager with issues sounds dumb at this age but idunno
I've been with my girl for 3 years. About 2 months ago I found naked pics she sent to a guy she knew back home. Obviously I was furious and we fought about it and she says she did cause she lost a lot of weight and felt good about herself and this is a guy that's rejected her before. She said she doesn't care about this guy and wont talk to him ever again.
So after we fight a while about how this hurt me, 2 months later I see she has sent photos online to another guy. I confronted her, but I didn't tell her I saw the photos, I just wanted to see if she would be honest with me if I told her that I KNOW YOU"RE STILL SENDING PICS! She literally laughed out loud and said "you're so paranoid!" Then I said "I SAW THE FUCKIN PHOTOS YOU LYING BITCH!" Then all the sudden I'm the asshole for losing my cool.
After the second time I look in her phone and see that the first guy she sent pics to is still in her contact list. And after all of this she gets the balls to freak out on me cause I added an old friend to facebook that happened to be female. Cause to her, I'm obviously cheating with this person I've added.
I don't even know what to do anymore. I don't know if she has been physical with anyone cause the guys she's talking to live very far away and she has not been down there to visit in years, but I can't stop thinking about it. And even if she's not I dont know if I can be with someone whos hurt me and betrayed my trust so bad.
ok, my girlfriend previously cheated on me with her ex she said it was becuse she felt guilty for why he got sent to jail and while he was in jail she made him a promise she didnt want to keep, then i i told her if he makes you happy, then be with him, and she choose me, we gtot ingaged, and she says shed never do it again because she feels closer to me than she did at that time, weve had some little problems tho. she resently got drunk and started kissing her girl friends said its just for fun, is it fun for a girl to do that? i admit i question her alot, but i still wonder if she is again, she said i was treating her bad so her friend set her up on a date with a guy, she said she told him shell meet him but only as friends because shes got a man, wheter its true idk, usually i cut women qwicker than shit for cheating, but ive never felt this way so could some women give me thier input on my issue tell me what you think?
I think its beter to be singel, I know i have girlfriend, and i also suspect that she is cheating on me, thats why i came to this site. And then for the woman who leaves comments saying this is not true.. GET A LIVE, NOT EVERY FUCKING GIRL IS LIKE YOU U ARE...
At this piont I dont know wheter to folow my gut feelings or not, there are 1 or 3 pionts leading she is cheating on me, but i dont want say anything without any proper proof, i have proof but its to small to do anything.. dont know what to do
Anywhays, for all the singel men out there, stay singel, if you want to fuck, get a hore, do her and leave..
Please do leave a comment if you want to, teling me i am wrong or not...CHEERZ
REMEMBER THAT "EVERY WOMEN SHOULD BE FUCKED BY A MEN ONLY"
Hehe..I just got caught of cheating. I forgot to put password on my phone. Then, my boyfriend checked my phone. I can't say any words. I just walk away because I got caught red handed..
This article is absolutely brilliant, I was in a committed relationship....seems the only thing that should be committed is my ex....she's been doing the dirty on me for bout 7 months, and only now does everything make sense...I caught her, half a metre from the bed, hardest thing I ever had to go through, I guess that I should be glad that I know for sure now. We were 3months away from being married however I always felt that things weren't adding up...I asked her on 3 occassions when it used to bug me, and she even looked me in the eyes and lied to my face! Its so hard to fathom what has happened and I do still love her, but i'm not sure I can ever trust her again, its been a month now and she constantly calls me and texts, email etc...I want her back so much but I know I dont want her due the the hurt that she has caused....I'm so confused and without trust i'm very afraid to take her back...everything in this article adds up apart from the gifts, the manipulation and guilt trips are all real and I was left to believe that I was doing wrong, how could anyone be so selfish, I have always stood by her even through her apparant shattered past mess ups...any ideas how to move on or am I being too critical?
Advice needed plz mail me anyone with advice... adrianjsolomon @ gmail . com
Jessica you hoe, why would you do such a thing and be so smug about it? Wouldnt it just be better to have broken up with him rather than cheat?
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Yep she did blurted it right out. There's someone else! Only Emotional Cheating (she says) just talking and confiding in this guy. I made her call him to say she could not see him anymore. She gave him the heads-up that I was listening before talking, so nothing vital exposed. I cannot trust her anymore. But it's my fault she cheated, you know she told me she was not happy. So I guess I deserved it. Sucks...wwg_doc@yahoo.com
We live in screwed up times. I stopped trusting a long time ago but get over it. i am happy with my girl now. She is very sexy and 14 years younger. We love being together. I have no idea if she is cheating or not and do not care because i enjoy my life. If she is one day she will leave and we are done. Then i will find another. Maybe she will cheat and i will never find out. Good i do not want to know. If you dwell on that crap it will only harm you. So get over it.Plenty of woman out there. I hope we make it but if we don't we don't.
I feel like an asshole for putting taht i think shes cheating on me because if im wrong thats just not right. Anywayz, i love her so much but shes has around 5 people who think the same 3 are my best friends. i ve talked to her about it and she is annoyed with it aswell but she said that she would prbly go out with my best friend Tom if she wasn't with me and she wishes she was cloned etc. weve been together for 1 1/2 years and one time she broke up with me but said she had made a mistake and got back with me about 3 weeks l8er. Her parents really like me and so does her brother who said he would kill her is she broke up with me lol. also, i go to a club in which her father is a senior staff member. and also go to karate with her which she made me do and also her mum but i like doing it. she is in my life pretty much everywhere and she chaged mine alot. if shes cheating and we have to break up then thats just killed my life because its hard to look at someone u broke up with. lol quite long but help please.
i think my gf is cheating,would i a change in her behavier if i call her
ya i know mostly girls are cheating boys. They will find out different ways to say SORRY... But am not like a person to live with tears,,,
hi, i am not sure but i think she could be cheating on me... because she has been staying at my place for like the last 4 months... everyday and i have been taking her to work, although... almost every day she was late to work... but now she says she cant stay with me and that i cant see her during the week... but i can see her all weekend? there is this guy at her work who she was seeing before me and she just stopped seeing him ( i think ) after she met me. she has like always talked about him like hes soo good looking and all that crap... but i dont know... she just seems to have started to act differently... i dont know what to do...
i have a relationship with my gf for 3 yrs and i love her more day by day but it was some stuff she did the first year that keeps coming back to my mind and make its very difficult to me to trust her even thought she is much more mature now.she used to hang around with these unsecure thrash girls that apparently believed that cheating is cool.. i remember finding txt messages of her saying to her friend that she ''wouldnt want to do something more then just go for a coffee with that guy that was hitting on her''and her friend replying ''so now youre the faithfull girl?'' and she used to be very unfair compared to what i had done for the relationship to start well..then my psycho personality started to pop out and on every incident..i even knocked the F888 out this assh***e i warned not to call.i dont really know if i like to be sharp every moment to avoid a possible cheat on me.i used to be this mellow open minded guy enjoying nature and stuff and suddenly i turned to a f*** stressfull violent guy..until last 1 and a half year stuff seems to go nice as she got her first job,lots of conversations and love.bad surroundings can f**k up really nice ppl,she is now respectable ppl...but she always know that i cant handle emotional abuse and sh*t could turn really f*cking messy if she ever f**** with me, untill then i am the sweet cute smart loving boyfriend...
Hi ..... I will like to add my situation here. I been with my girlfriend almost 2 years and lately she is focus on a new job that she is applying for I know she really wants that job but she have been so distance with me. No sex at all I cannot even kiss her because she comes with a excuse of something to get out of that. She told me that she is in to much stress lately because that financial part that we are and because that job that she apply for. I know she us not cheating because I can see the phone bills and there no phone numbers weird also I have access to her e-mail and also everything is fine and when I am at work or she us at work we talk practically all day long. Somebody help me here and tell me if this is normal. That my girlfriend is acting like this because the stress ? I truely belive she is not cheating. But it heart that your own patner reject you all the time. This situation have been on about two weeks already.
Thanks everybody. Plz replay.
you have shared all the situations and yes indeed they have cheated you guys...but you have to give them chances to explain.
you have shared all the situations and yes indeed they have cheated you guys...but you have to give them chances to explain.
Ok so get this. The girl i am seeing had court with her ex right i told her bro i have a feeling she slept with him i ask her about it she said no then like a week or two later after we get done having sex she tells me. then our friend him and i are hanging out he calls her to see what she is doing she tells him she is with some gus and a couple of girls when i ask her what she is doing she tells me she is hanging out with a friend
i just found out my wife and her male friend have smth, what should i do?
My girlfriend and I have been going on almost 4 years. Like the article reads, she has not shown much interest in having sex anymore. She has a bad back, and will blame it on that and/or stress. On top of that, a friend of ours comes over at least once a week, really good friend of mine. I believe he kinda has a bit of a crush on her because he would constantly poke her and she would playfully hit him back, and even though that irritates me sometimes, I never think much of it. Now sometimes, when the playpoking occurs, either she will go along with it, or if it really irritates her, she will tell him to stop, but that was only after we had a conversation about how sometimes his playfulness makes her very uncomfortable, and I commented on how she should say something about it. Before we had this conversation, they would keep doing it over and over until I get pissed and begin talking about something else. Now get this. We partake in the smoking of herbal substances once in awhile, and once a few months back, when we were being sexually playful, she commented on how she sort of imagined our friend in the mix of what we were doing, and just about a week or so ago, when we were smoking again, she mentioned that 'even though it sounds weird' she would like to have a threesome with us. Now about this friend, ive known him for like 3 and a half years and Im really good buddies with him, and the thought of including him in a 3some has crossed my mind, but I do not feel too comfortable with actually going along with it, because although the idea seems fun, the fact that I have these silly suspicions AND the fact that she had mentioned this twice already leads me to believe that she may either had fantasized about being with this friend of ours, or actually did something with him. Its this nonsense which makes me question her faithfulness. I hate having these thoughts of her cheating on me, but it really upsets me. Also, my friend has this unusual body twitch or something, i cant exactly describe it, and it rarely happens, but when it does it can be really scary, but when asked about it by me and other friends, he plays it off like it never happened, so the fact that he is able to lie to us about his condition for almost 4 years only makes me more uncomfortable to think that, if anything really ever happened between them, he would be able to easily lie to me about it. I don't know what to do, I love my girlfriend so much, and am worried that this suspicion of mine will either ruin our relationship or ruin what might be a really fun experience.
All I really ask of her is to be honest about sensitive things like these, that way things can be properly worked out instead of sneaking behind each others' backs.
Some of the people who have posted comments on this forum seriously need to improve their spelling.
no wonder i cant take women seriously.. i need to print these comments out and make a t-shirt xD and another thing dont ever think about being with someone if they or you go to the military its a huge orgy braahHHHH
Im Michele ruiz
SS# 117-66-9929
I betrayed my fiance of 12 years when I ran away like a coward during his darkest hour when he needed me the most then I sent him a Dear John Letter by E-mail I didnt have the decency to call or say it to his face like a real woman.
Im nutty with no morals or scrupples
Maybe Ill even ask if I can fuck your brother or another relative when im horny and have no self control, like the time with last boyfriend Geo I asked him if I could have sex with his cuz (just like the time I asked my fiance if I could fuck his brother) when I didnt see Geo for 2 weeks I went across the street to have a threesome when Rodger & Cliff asked me over. I told my ex fiance I was raped twice by rodger but my ex fiance caught me in a lie even after I swore to god that it was true. cause like I said I have no scrupples or morals and will even follow strangers into public hallways or the side of my own house to blow them if they asked me
I lived at 577 E26st Brooklyn but now I could be hiding in tampa with my brother or VA with Clarice and her boyfriend and am in the process of evicting my ex-fiance "NYsentinel" an FDNY Aux/Lt Fireman who is dying from 911
On 17 Aug 2010 he ran into a collapsing house to rescue handicapped children and adults and then he got an 10 day eviction notice from my parents.
I was too much of a coward to defend him from my stupid ass mother even though he protected us from the drug dealers and convicted rapist my mom rented rooms to in our house.
My ex-fiance brought my dying Grandmother back from unconsience when she suffered from diabetes low blood sugar numerous times. He stood by me when I had my seizures but that doesnt matter to our nutty family.
When my ex nearly died standing honor guard with colors at the ground zero firemans memorial wall at Ten House at the deutch bank fire 2007 my mind was on my friend clarices dark skinned Puerto Rican boyfriends sexual desire for anal sex
My nutty mother even admitted to me that she tried to have sex with my Ex but he rejected her several times because he was faithful to me so as pay back she continuly harrased him and falsely called the police on him after he ran into the collapsing house next door to rescue handicapped children and adults when the 70pct arrived I told Officer Valez that I wasnt getting enouph sex & showed her my 12inch pink dildo right in front of my mother. Moms favorite passtime is desicrating religious items. My ex fiance put a lit candle for the statue of mary infront of my house & she would take it and throw it in the garbag. Or the time my uncle was welding in our basement and set a fire and my nutty mother left us upstairs & didnt tell us the house was on fire. Her words when we asked her why she didnt worn us was "dont worry about it" & Shes a teachers aid.
Back in 2006 my mother slandered my ex-fiance thinking she was talking to mayor giulianis wife but in reality she was talking with child porn promoter lisa giuliani. Google "The Blow Up Doll"
The next day after he rescued the people from the collapsing home my mother gave my ex-fiance a 10 day eviction day notice from the very same lawyer (Benjemin Meskin) my fiance helped us get to evict the drug dealer "Jean Contave" then I ran away to hide, better yet ignore my ex-fiances torment as his blood sugar dropped to 57 then 29. he almost went into a coma from the stress we put him through
WHO GIVES A DAMN ?
Michelenypr@yahoo.com
micheleruiz24@gmail.com
My mommys E-mail
Mruiz1013@gmail.com
Heres the official NYC Dept of Buildings report on the house my Ex rescued the people from.
8-17-10
NYC Department of Buildings
Overview for Complaint at: 581 EAST 26 STREET BIN: 3120830 Borough: BROOKLYN ZIP: 11210
Re: FDNY REPORTED PARTIAL COLLAPSE OF THE PARAPET WALL
Category Code: 30 BUILDING SHAKING/VIBRATING/STRUCT STABILITY AFFECTED
Assigned To: BROOKLYN BOROUGH OFFICE Priority: A
Received from FDNY
Noticed it said "shaking and unstable" that means it could have killed everyone including my ex. The Fire Chief asked my mother why if she knew about it for a month didnt she call anyone about it? She even took a picture of the roof hanging over the handicap walkway from the day before it fell yet didnt do anything about it. The roof fell right infront of her face and she still didnt do anything about. My ex was the one who called FDNY and they ran in to evacuate everyone.
My daddy got mad cause my Ex took action to protect people in danger.
when my daddy(saul ruiz) got drunk and coked up at my familys 1993 christmas party in my house he molested an 11yr old girl, my mom (margarita ruiz) told the little girl not to tell anyone about it. They both work for NYC Dept of Education.
Then he tried to molest my cusin Rosemary & then he tried to rape my uncles girfriend my mother told her that it was her fault and that if she didnt like it she could get out..
my girl has gone out tonight to visit an old male friend and has booked a hotel room for just her or so she says. when i ask her about this earlier in the week she got very upset and told me she wasnt doing this with me (arguing that is)tell me i aint crazy this just came out of nowhere and i feel certain she is in bed with him right now. help please am losing my mind here
Hey if she aint ure sister, don't even care. Lifes like a box of chocolates, you pop the cherry, lick the cream, and eat the chocolate.MMM sister cherries are the best.
Erm... my gf is really confusing me. We've been together going on 3 years (moved in together after first year) now and even though we've had our ups and downs there's never been any doubt in my mind that she is faithful to me.
Recently however we graduated from university, and she's got a new job. Since then I've noticed some of the changes in this article. Both of us share everything with each other including passwords and stuff for almost everything we do. The other day I needed to pay the internet e-bill (which is sent to her e-mail monthly) and I noticed she had changed her password without telling me. She did the same with her Facebook account.
She's lied to me recently about going to the library when in actuality she went to see a 'girlfriend'. When I asked her why she changed her password she went all defensive and told me I was being paranoid. I checked our internet search history and noticed she had also looked up her ex on FaceBook.
Am I being paranoid? Apart from what I've listed she hasn't really done anything else as far as I know. She doesn't deny me sex, she's as affectionate as she's always been in the 3 years we've been together, and she always looks me in the eye when we talk and tells me she loves me.
But I have a gut feeling something is not right. I'm not a guy who usually succumbs to paranoia, but damn. I love her so much and the thought that another guy could be in the picture fills me with murderous intent.
tell me if this is weird i have a long distance relationship with my girlfriend, and i came up there to visit and went out on night to a bar and i go get a drink for the two of us and turn around to see her kissing the bouncer, she said she doesnt remember any of that and that she was stupid so than four days later i find out she is pregnet i am trying to deal with this in my own way but im out of options if she did that when i was up there what else do you think she really was doing when im at home and now im stuck and want to do the best thing for our child but i dont know what the best route to go with her i am open to all suggetions..
This article gives horrible advice. This is just setting up some nervous, paranoid, and emotionally hurt person to wrongfully accuse their partner of cheating and to freak out at every bump in the road.
Relationships go in cycles, they have ups and downs and people also go in cycles having ups and downs (for example the changing your appearance part is bullshit because as a female I change my appearance according to how I am feeling--oh I got a new haircut...no I'm not sleeping with someone else I was most likely down on myself and wanted a boost!)
You want advice. Communication....and I don't mean "are you cheating one me?" I mean from the beginning talk about each of your expectations for a relationship and talk about any trust issues you have.
Not every relationship has to have full fidelity if both partners feel they are mentally and emotionally capable of handling such an arrangement. Not every relationship has to be lovey-dovey at every moment for people to be happy and most importantly committed to each other.
If some cheats on you and breaks your trust, then I am sorry for that. However, you are not special-look at this post for an example on how often that happens. Also that cheating partner is not a horrible person...just not the right person with the same relationship expectations and goals as you. Keep your chin up, don't lose hope, and find someone you are more compatible with!
Girls are never gonna admit to your face that they been cheating unless they feeling really guilty n wanna save da relationship, if you catch dem out or catch dem in da act day gonna tell u den n onli den, buh still wen u go mental about it they're like 'but i'm telling you the truth now!' all i gotta say is that they onli sorri they gt caught n onli cuz u caught them, once a slag always a slag!
This is bad advice. I'm a marriage counselor.
It IS good advice for the most part. Paranoia, however, is not good. We live in a day and age of massive instant communication and cheating is all too easy. Most wouldn't have dared only a few years ago. Another problem is the awful self esteem of both guys and girls, although I see girls as being worse. They seem to need CONSTANT attention in order to feel good about themselves. Unfortunately that comes from within and these people are very unstable. My advice is hold out for that perfect person who you have NO doubts about!
Ok...nicely thought out..but you forget a very crucial point...if the b**ch is SMART your advice is useless!
Ya know girls don't always want sex. We have a totally different sex drive that depends on our emotional state. Perhaps she's stressed out or maybe even just exhausted in general. Don't automatically assume she's cheating if she says no to sex. And when it comes to talking to other guys, as long as it isn't an ex or flirt, I wouldn't worry about it. Alot of times girls need another male in their life to talk to about they're boyfriends and the issue they may have cause girls can't always give the advice they need. Sometimes they need another male perspective to gain the answer to their advice. I have learned this from personal experience. I'm a girl, and I exhibit many of these things but I'm 110% loyal to my man. I usually only act this way when I'm tired or stressed. Maybe your chick is just bored with the same ol same ol, try spicing things up a bit. Do something fun or surprise her with something she wants to do. Don't waste all your time being paranoid because all it will do is control you, ruin your life, ruin your relationship, and do irreplaceable psychological damage. Talk to her and tell her your concerns and don't believe all this bullshit your read on the Internet. You are in charge of making your own judgements.
I have been dating my girl friend for almost 3 years now but for the past couple of months we have been fighting and its getting worse. but for the first two years she never hung out with friends now all of sudden she is and she use to never look at her phone now she is always on it. we use to have sex all the time and about a year ago it went down to like once a week now we havnt had sex in over a month. the other night i took her out to dinner and suprised with a hotel cuz she lives with her parents and i live with mine so i wanted time alone she flat out told me no she didnt want to go. what do you guys think is she cheating or what thanks bill
Cell phones are always a give away. Sudden increase in texting activity, password on phone that wasn't there before, sudden increase in the phone or text message, "where are you right now" which really means "am i safe to play" Once you've been with a two or three cheaters its pretty easy to tell. The easy marks are the trusting husbands in long term relationships with little experience and way too much trust.
I just read the 8 signs to tell if you're being cheated on. In general I agree if your intuition is telling you that there's something wrong - than probably there is. And as much as it's hard, I believe its better to know than to turn a blind eye and pretend the problems will go away.
I had the same thing when my husband was cheating on me. His phone all of a sudden became his best friend, and the amount of smsing was just not normal.
For more on my thoughts take a look at my blog: http://bye2mrwrong.blogspot.com/2010/11/is-he-chea
good advice, happened to me, oddly enuff, in this exact order
Hi My name is Josh and i have been dating this girl and i am crazy about her and she also tells me that and we have sex almost everyday and i think she is cheating but she told me that she had a bf but still wanted to have sex with me plz advice me what should i do?
Dump her! Never trust any girl who cheats on her b/f with you. Seriously how can you like someone who you know is cheating? That's a red flag right there!
I do have a situation of my own. I've been with this girl for 5 years now. She's a virgin and is waiting for marriage. I've been cool with that and we've done lots of stuff to ease the tension. Recently my gut has been telling me that she's either cheating or talking to another guy.
The signs are my gut, and she recently got her nails done and I think she got a new haircut. She also hasn't been calling me a lot or texting. when she does text or call it's usually after 11 at night. The last few nights she has called after midnight knowing that i have to get up at 6 in the morning. I'm suspecting that she's calling me so late because she's done with the other guy.
She gets off after 6 in the evening and doesn't call or text me till after 11 when before she would text or call when she got home which would be anywhere between 6:30 to 7:00. Recently she told me that her friend wanted to pay for her dinner because she didn't have any money to go out with her 2 friends. The friend was is a male and she claims that he has a g/f. She asked about my opinion on it and i told her i wasn't comfortable with it so she didn't go. I'm not a jealous b/f but thay did urk my interest in this guy.
She has told me things about him that they use to work together. I just find it odd that recently she's telling me about him and her and her other friend (which is a female are doing). A couple of weeks ago she told me that they all went out again and that her female friend cooked them dinner and they went to the movies. I wasn't mad at all but something about it just irked me wrong.
I don't think i'm jealous but this intense feeling is driving me crazy. I've even tested it. We were talking over the internet and she thought that i was taking her so called jokes seriously. She said a smart ass comment and i logged off. I went to sleep expecting a text or call but NOTHING. The whole next day went by and not one text or one phone call. So i decided to text her around 10 at night and cancelled our plans for the next day. That's when my phone got lit up by her and received two phone calls all within like 45 mins.
I also believe she's getting even with me because i got really drunk and spent the night with my best two male friends and their g/f's. I ended up losing my shirt and a piece of jewelry because we were drunk and acted like fools (the guys were anyway and the girls were sober taking pictures of us acting 100 percent stupid). This act made her jealous and made her think that something else happened with the girls. I told her nothing happened because their b/f's were present and the b/f's are my friends not their g/f's. She tried to justify it but i told her if that was her i wouldn't mind because i truly doubt her friend's b/f would make a move while she's right there in the room. She still wasn't happy and i don't think she understands that her logic is screwed.
She is a jealous person and has issues and yes she is the type of person that would do things to get even so i think it's my gut telling me that she's doing something. So far it's the get, the changing of her nails and maybe her hair, my so called screw up(and i don't i screwed up at all at least with that situation), and the mentioning of the other guy. I know more about him than i care too. What do you guys think?
Yeah my gf prob cheating :l :/ :( T_T
My gf has cheated on me in the past shes hanging out with this guy that is what she calls a friend. Now i dont believe they are just friends. He buys her gifts and always gives her money. He recently gave her $1,500.00 for so called being her friend. I believe in letting a woman have friends but what i cant understand is why theres no time for me, she refuses to answer my questions, and has lied to me numerous times. How can I trust someone who hurts me?
my girlfriend has a gay male friend she goes out with sometimes.this man does favors for her and pays for everything when they go out.is it possible this man is bisexual and doing things for her in hopes of eventually sleeping with her,if it hasnt happened already?
so i've been cheating on my bf for a year i've started to show some of the signs and he noticed so now im being careful!! thank you for the article its showing me what Not TO DO/....i know im a bad beatch
I found a compatbility test with her zodiac sign and someone elses on the computer, i asked her about it she lied to me twice 1st she said it was a movie star, didnt buy it, 2nd she told me she was reminicing about a old ex of hers, again I didnt buy that either. She still wont answer the question. Whats up?
Reply to heartbandit: Yes, he is probably bi. Are you sure he is gay, in fact? The bad news for you is that usually gay men are hung better than straight men, as the dose of testosterone to the brain goes instead to the body (for 2 doses). He's maybe got 8 or 9 inches.
Reply to Carol: Cheating for a year? Why do stay with him?
Carol your the worst kind of cheater as they say guys once a slut always a slut! Always go with your gut feeling and if there are mire boxes ticked from this article then listen to them it's not designed to make u paranoid it's designed to tell you the truth wake up! Don't give the girl the satisfaction of lying to you be strong and get out of there!
Well, my situations a little weird. Wonder if it can be considered cheating. Anyways here goes
My girlfriend has a childhood friend, who likes my gf. Then one day my girlfriend was forced to go out with him, and he kissed her on the cheek. Then she told him she already have a boyfriend. Then days later, he texted her saying :
'Just break up with him and be with me. I can love you more than he does. I can take care of you better. I bet he is worthless and do not deserve you at all. He is nothing.'
She forwarded this message, and I thought 'okay, at least she tells me' then just today, he texted her again saying that I'm not serious, I don't love her, and I'm only playing with her feelings.
Recently, she's also pretty busy, and she tells me she has training(she's on a netball team) which is true. I only meet her 2 to 3 times a week. And I also have a 'feeling' that something is going on. So I'm pretty confused and don't know what to do..
Recently my friend has been making alot of contact with my girl. I go away every few weekends down to see my old buddies because i moved away at the age of 16, and she wasnt bothered, but now she wants to come with me alot of the time. last week he insisted we stay over at his house but i put my foot down and said no way, but she seemed to want to stay there... anyway we get back and now hes going to her place for dinner (her "perants" asked him :L) but ive not been told about this... so i found out myself. So ive asked her to come over to mine on the same day to put her on the spot, so she told me he was going there, so i tell her to tell him he cant go then, she stutters, and tells him shes going to the gym with her friends... weird?
Women are lame... You get that gut feeling and then shortly after you start to act on it and thats where the problem begins in my opinion... My girlfriend personally tries to convince me that I am too sensitive and crazy when I question why we dont have sex anymore. It always becomes a fight and I have tried all different ways of approaching the issue... She also never apologizes when she is in the wrong and more takes the get over it approach... and the list goes on... The only thing that has worked for me in the past is to cheat on them back... I believe if you have to stoop to someones level you are already better then them so why not...
Some news for all you guys out there. If your girl is having sex with another man and you ask your girl "Are you cheating on me?" She will LOOK YOU IN THE EYE and say "No I am not." AND...to HER she will be telling the TRUTH! Because in a woman's psychology it is all justified with "It's not cheating because I didn't enjoy the sex." or "It's not cheating because I never planned it." Women know this and will blush when you tell them this. Try it. There will be a smile of recognition on their faces. EVERY woman cheats.
I believe if your girl is not have sex with you, then just pretend like she isnt that sexy for a little while. Then make her feel like she just turned into a supermodel. Nothing beats the look on a girls face when you make her feel special once in a while. I know that sounds gay, but dont most of us guys think most things girls do are't manly enough or whatever let go of your damn pride and let her see who you really are. Act like a little kid with her occasionally see what she thinks about if she stops liking you because of this, then she didnt ever really like YOU. If you really want to find out if a girls cheating on you stop showing her any affection see if she notices or if she cares. There is a huge difference with her just saying are you ok. That is kinda noticing a little unless she continues a conversation with you about how your feeling. From her saying whats wrong, which actually means shes interested in your feelings and cares about you. I know its hard to pretend to have girls emotions for a min or two a day but if you really want to find out if she cares about you or not you have to get her going emotionally. If you can get a girl going emotionally at least once a week then you know shes still yours if not then does she really still care about? probably not. it also depends on the type of girl she is everyone is different thats how i can tell with mine but some girls dont just become emotionally from you talking to them when people talk about a spark in a relationship there talking about an emotional bonding, because guys arent as emotional as girls they dont feel emotions the same way but if a guy doesnt show a girl how he feels using his emotions then she will never truly understand how he feels. If you cant make your girl blush then either she doesnt have feelings for you as much anymore you or you just suck as a boyfriend. Once your married its not the same as a relationship, but it doesnt mean you shouldnt keep that same things you have in a relationship love is a part time job. Just remember if your the man of the relationship then why do you constantly need her reassurance. She should want to constantly talk to you about her day not be forced into it and questioned. If a girl is cheating on you then she is most likely uncomfortable with you and doesnt know you emotionally. She just knows your personality, which is a huge difference in a girl. Females arent attracted by looks, but by anything that puts them in an emotional state. Well good luck to all the people accusing, because i think your just paranoid like the other 70% of the world that cant stand their girl being with another guy, which most of the time is what makes a girl cheat in the girst place. Because she wasnt even thinking about it until you gave her the idea. She was just flirting. (not in every single scenario).
Ok so I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 weeks now, and I have known her for 5 years she says she has liked me the whole time, which I don't blame her im a stud naw just kidding, well anyways she was dating this kid for like a year before me, and before we started dating she told me that she cheated on him with his cousin, then she broke up with him like 6 months after that because he hit her and cheated on her a few times, so I don't know if she is cheating on me or what, I live 60 miles away from her but go see her 4-5 times a week, because I love her, and she says she loves me but i just want some advice on my situation. I don't know if she is more prone to cheating on me because we live so far away, but I'm one of those guys who would do anything, I mean anything for my girlfriend if I love them, I'm considering buying her a car for Christmas but I don't want to buy it for her then looz her. I don't know if I'm being ignorant or what, cause I know she has liked me for over 5 years but i always rejected her or made fun of her like a dick head, but I started seeing where I went wrong about 8 months ago when I contacted her and we talked a lot. My gut tells me she might be cheating, but my heart tells me there's no way in hell she would cheat on me, we are still sexually active and its very passionate and fun for both of us (i think)... so deep down i don't want to beleive it, but i don't want to make another huge mistake! Give me some advice please, herbpowa@yahoo.com just email me cause i probably wont see it if its on here, Thanks.
this article is one of many that helped me catch my girlfriend in alot of lies in which she finally confessed she cheated on me with our roommate. true story
This happened to me almost 5 years ago, it still haunts me to this day. To know something is going on behind your back with the woman you love and the fact that you try with all might to disbelieve it's actually happening UNTIL you do actually catch her out. I gave her a chance even though I knew the answer and to watch her tell such a tall lie without even blinking was quite uncanny to say the least. As the saying goes 'a leopard never changes it's spots' this girl had more spots than an ink blotters diary!!
myself and my girlfriend have been together for over a year now and she and her best mate who is my best mate which he happens to be a guy well they lived together a while ago and i used to go round there every day and theyd known each other for years but one day when i went round there something had changed in the way they talked to each other and i had this weird feeling in my stomach this was about 10 months ago now another one of my friend was best freind with her and she used to tell her everything now she told me last night that my girlriend had fucked my best mate around about the time when i started feeling something was wrong now all i want to do is kill the bitch but i have to find her first ive already found the backs tabbing dog that did it to me and i made him learn his lesson for good now im austrailian and i dont mean to put my people down but what the fuck is is wrong with all these fucking men and women who think that its ok to do
Yes men and girls cheat ! I have been with my husband ,married 3 years , but together with him for 10. I started dating him with I was 14 and he was 15. Now I can't speek for him , but I have never cheated . if he did then he good at hiding it , and would die before he would ever tell me . I don't care I'm trusting . The part I'm pissed about is almost all the things on your "list" I do ! All hot girls worry about thire looks . I change my hair color all the time . When I go out I tell him all about it because he wasn't there and I want him to know I had a good time . I always surprise him with treats and dinner . Sometimes I just don't feel like sex .I could go on and on comparing me to your "list" , and once again in the ten years I have been with him I have never cheated ! This "list" is only going to worry men , and make thire ladies go nuts . Nothing would drive me away faster as if my husband was telling me I'm cheating . Your basically calling her a hore !
Ok ok well my girlfriend left for 2weeks for the Christmas break she's 17 and lives with her parents im 14 I live wit my parents as well web been dateing for 1year now and be for she left I wantd to have sex but she was terrified of that and didnt want to at the time she came back nd I ask her if she wanted to and says yeah with no problem I think she had sex with someone over there and she's not telling me my guttt keeps sayn something is up she changed her hair and her attitude and personality a bit she had alot of time over there with her cuzins and there older she said it was fun nd alot of crazy tings happend and now im really starting to think she cheated on me I dont know what to think it's driving me insane
Come on boys, jealousy is a female trait, like Jay Z said. Never give your heart to a woman and you'll never have to worry about this shit. Besides, you do what you want and let her do what she wants – you should have something on the side anyway.
Remember this: go looking for something and you're bound to find it. Some things are better left alone.
I gezz ur rite but I love her so that's not an option and we fix our problem the sexual way;D
Good article and really not surprised there's a woman on here almost straight away trying to change it to the woman's perspective like Ellie at the top, and all I have to say about Ellie McHale is that I really want to jam one in the dirty little tart!
1) If you're in a Long Distance relationship with a girl, you WILL be cheated on. Don't even try to argue with me, you little bitches need to learn.
2) If your g/f is out at night at a 'friends' house where guys are involved, or AT a guys house who is a 'friend,' there's already a 50% chance that they already fucked. If you text, and they are passive, possibly don't text back, (and there are 30+ minutes between texts) or if you call and they don't answer - then they are fuckin' him that night. There is no room for skeptisism here.
3) If your g/f is hiding their phone from you, and won't let you see her texts - and says 'What, you don't trust me?' Then the bitch is texting another dude and flirting. Probably more than one. Don't dig that 'you don't trust me' bullshit, and don't be a little bitch about it.
4) If you're 10-25 years old and you're thinking SERIOUSLY about your relationship, you are kidding noone. I don't even consider relationships, to be relationships anymore - their just a close friend that you have sex with and nice dinners/movies/whatever sometimes. If you're thinking serious, like about love, you'll learn that you're an idiot in due time.
5) The only type of girl you can TRUST are the goodie-goodie's. Lol, the type who, are NOT THAT HOT, they just, they might be smart and less connected with the local scene you know? The type who are Ok looking, but they have a nice attitude, good parents, I can tell a slut just by their facebook profile picture. can't you? It's easy.
But otherwise, don't trust a bitch. All you dudes out there catching so many emotions, talking about being in love, where are your balls? Humans evolved to do 2 things, fuck & survive. If you think a girl and a guy can be 'just friends,' then you are stupid as hell and I pity you.
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your an idiot lol at you
im young and my boyfriend lives far away he will stop texting me all of a sudden and he said he likes other girls like he their pretty and i just dont say anything but he goes to partys and i ask if hes with girls and he is just there and girls are also there i think some times that hes kissing another girl well hes texting me gosh im confused
WELL THINK ABOUT IT I THINK HE IS HANGIN OU THE BACK OF BOYS NOT GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Unfortunately this article was 100% dead on.
I have a friend that I work with and he comes over every weekend and my wife and I have a few drinks and we bar b que. The first time he was over he had left so my wife text him to make sure he was home ok. They have text ever since and for the past few months at times she would make some sexual comments for example we were going to buy some steaks and we asked what kind should we get my wife replied " it doesn't matter I like meat I mean I like to suck it " I told her I didn't like that and she was wrong by doing that. So the next night we were at my home drinking and about 12:30 I was tired my wife wanted to stay up with my friend I didn't think anything and I went to bed. I could hear them talking and for awhile I didn't hear anything on my way down stairs I could hear whispering. By the time I came down he was at the table and she was on the other side of the kitchen island I want to catch them. I'm not sure if I just being paranoid but I my gut is right I will leave this BITCH
When you talk about your "gut" feeling, is this different from the way your heart feels. I think that humans do have powers beyond our normal senses. This is because I do have the power to know when bad things are likely to occur soon. I could give examples but have too many. So right now my Heart is Acheing. I am away from my girlfriend, she is in rehab and we are barely able to speak and cannot see eachother. I wonder if the aching heart is from me missing her, and her missing me... or is it possible that my heart hurts because she has/could be cheating on me? Anyone else beleive in these bodily feelings?
cheating bitches rot in hell
yeah my girlfriend cheated on me on her grad night at disneyland jacked some guy off then she and some girl ate each other out the fucked up part was that was her cousin then she made out with some guy when i was at the hospital plus a picture was taken then at some party she made out with anther guy and now shes pregnet she told me all of this 3 weeks ago cant believe that bitch payed me it dont matter how much she says she loves me but the thing is im still with her but i dont know how to end this
So what can I say I asked my wife if she had feelings for my friend ? Even though she said no I have a feeling that she is lying. I told her that with her saying no I would not expect her to tell me the truth. I honestly believe that she has feelings for him and with the sexual comments that she makes I think she is looking for a response from him. She has mentioned that she is curious about sleeping with someone else since we have only been with each other. So I feel that I am not doing my part and that she is not happy anymore. I told her that if that's what she wants I would be ok and for her to do what she wants I feel that I've given up but the whole trust thing is out the window. Now when I'm at work my mind just runs wild.
Yea, this is some paranoid shit..on my free time, I use to think that my girl friend was cheating on me because shed say "I'm going to the gym" and spend hours..shed say "I think we need a break and should be friends for a while" because of our constant arguments, she says she's going to walk laps around the school track with a friend she just met at 6-7ish pm..but you know what, it all comes down to "do I trust my girl friend?"...all those symptoms are happening to me right now and she is going on a 4 day trip to a casino with her youth group which I met yesterday and they are ready to go. I trust her, and fear her seeing someone else..but I am constantly texting her and talking to her on the phone, I don't see how cheating is possible. She also hangs out with me and talks about how her family loves me..look past the bad side and look at the good.
Well we are planning a get together on Sat and we will be watching the Super Bowl on Sun. I will see how my wife and friend act with each other. All the signs are there and the conversations that I had with my wife about the sexual comments she has made while talking to him will stop. I told her I didn't like it and she needs to stop. I still think she has a crush on him and when I asked how she felt about him its always a run around. I don't know if she wants him but I am trying to find out. I told her if I don't do it for her anymore just to let me know. I won't hate her if she's just honest with me. So I guess I will see what happens this weekend. I notice hoe she looks and talks to him and I see how she gets excited to be around him so until Monday hope to get some advice
I've had doubts about my girlfriend, I Thought that she was cheating on me for about two days. then i found out that she wasn't doing anything, She and everyone of her friends have pulled me aside and told me.
The only thing that worries me, Is that she thinks I would go off with another woman.
I'm shy as hell, And she knows this.
We've had very long conversations about this, and I live not too far from her house.
So, If i do find anything out, She's fucked.
But, She isn't cheating on me. She has never cheated on any other of her boyfriends, Yet she's been cheated on and dumped.
I trust her completely, But my self esteem and paranoia makes me think oppisitly.
I'm doomed to be alone lol oh well more partys
Here is one for you all. Tell me what you think of this. I dont know why but something just isnt right with this picture. Im supposed to be engaged to my bf (fiance) who is currently in jail. He is trying to get himself out on a bond . I told him yesterday that I went online and ordered my wedding dress and at first he thought I was joking and I looked at him and said no seriously I did. What do you think? well you would think he would be glad about the plans for our wedding but it seems like every time I bring up the subject he changes the subject and when I told him I bought my dress, he just kind of gave me a blank look and then looked away. That made me have a gut reaction that made me feel something just isnt right and all he could do was mention the mother of his child who lives in another state who is offering to give him the money to bail himself out. I smell something very fishy going on. I told him no woman gives any man that kind of money even on a loan unless she thinks there is going to be something in it for her. am I right or wrong??? Someone give me their opinion. I am not 20 something either. I am in my late 40's.
Here is one for you all. Tell me what you think of this. I dont know why but something just isnt right with this picture. Im supposed to be engaged to my bf (fiance) who is currently in jail. He is trying to get himself out on a bond . I told him yesterday that I went online and ordered my wedding dress and at first he thought I was joking and I looked at him and said no seriously I did. What do you think? well you would think he would be glad about the plans for our wedding but it seems like every time I bring up the subject he changes the subject and when I told him I bought my dress, he just kind of gave me a blank look and then looked away. That made me have a gut reaction that made me feel something just isnt right and all he could do was mention the mother of his child who lives in another state who is offering to give him the money to bail himself out. I smell something very fishy going on. I told him no woman gives any man that kind of money even on a loan unless she thinks there is going to be something in it for her. am I right or wrong??? Someone give me their opinion. I am not 20 something either. I am in my late 40's.
think this over..... you want cheating to stop happening to you? then swing... at least then you KNOW whats goin down.....
i can't lie to women and be sneaky. if i'm gonna screw with a new woman i bang her right in front of the old one. no skeletons in my closet...it's a good feeling to be able to sleep at night...
i won't lie to a woman. that's the difference between men and women...women will try to cover everything they do up and blame the man whereas the man will let the female know what is going on and show her and the world how it is...at least that's how i am.
you're so right matt. that's exactly how women are. they put out and don't tell. just like the comic above. you're a good man for being true to women and letting them know what is going on. a lot of men don't do that. the truth hurts but it hurts even more if you don't let em know and lead em on for years on end. keep letting em know...you gotta let em know...the reason most men get on something new is because they know that the woman is two-timing them behind their back anyway. dogs know...
i knew this one woman...that's all she would do...get all hoed up and make herself look all stupid on saturday night and go get banged on...she started giving head to my friends and i looked like a sucker...thank god i was only 15 and learned a lot from the ho...live and learn gentleman...live and learn...
i knew this one woman...that's all she would do...get all hoed up and make herself look all stupid on saturday night and go get banged on...she started giving head to my friends and i looked like a sucker...thank god i was only 15 and learned a lot from the ho...live and learn gentleman...live and learn...
a good indicator that a woman is cheating on you is when she starts thinking you're cheating on her...when she can't trust you or thinks you're up to something is a good indicator...she might run through your wallet or even go as far as getting a private investigator with her insanity...her head is so scrambled up in her own infadelities that she can't trust you either...i've had to drop one or 2 cause they were such liars and couldn't be responsible for their own actions; putting the blame on me. men have it rough...i've never cheated on a woman in my life. my ex will tell everyone the opposite just so that no other woman will trust me. women are hipocrates. if a woman i'm with is banging someone else...i'm not waiting around for the woman...you'll see me on the next an hour later and i'm not looking back...
i've never met a woman that isn't a liar...most of em are easy and talk with their pussies...i hate the expression "men think with their dick" as if they don't have brains. actually men think with their brains and women think with their pussies cause it's their only way to gold dig and make money in this world. why do you think men have shorter life span? they do all the thinking...
i've been completely ruined by women in my lifetime...women are absolutely good for nothing long term. it's hard to find one that doesn't have any baggage. most of them want to play some bullshit game where they stay in contact with all the dudes they've ever dated in their lifetime...i feel sorry for the husband because i saw my ex the other day and she was doing that dick sucking thing with her mouth...i said, "don't you have a husband now?" she's such a monkey and a stupid person that she didn't get it....
most women never grow up...it's in their nature to act like stupid little giggling daddy girls until the age of 45 so that they can get away with everything...my life has been completely ruined by grown mid-twenty year old slutty women and their fathers. they're highly competitive creatures and could give a fuck about morals or anyone but their gold digging selves...it's their drive in life to beat their ex boyfriends up the social ladder by abusing their vaginas with new meathead men that don't know she's a hoe that have the ability to shit on all her previous exes...
I was recently in a relationship for 3 years I wanted to pop the question from the get go maybe like 6 months in, fact: you should know if she is the one by 3 months, anyways something told me not to ask. Well weve been separated now for about 3 months because I found out about her fling. See we had that kinda relationship were we didnt hide anything from each other... So I thought. Well one,day were messing around on google she googled me the I googled her... I seen a picture of her and thought it was her facebook url or something it ended up being this whole new social network id never even heard of. Well long story short...kinda she had pictures of another dude on thete and when I asked what it was about she told me she had been in a relationship with that gut for about 2 and a half years...oh boy am I glad I didnt adk the question... Gut instinct works I suppose... Any single ladies on here wanna have a wild time? Lol jk im tryin to settle down
this is a male and not a woman:
2 and a half years? and you were hung up on this woman? for real? how do you not know? what a wench harlot...let the scrap have the whore strumpet...what a stupid woman...you're better than that anyway...i wouldn't have ever put up with that for more than a few months...she would have had to be putting out a lot of coochie for no change for me to stick around for that long...
i've dated a few whores like that...give the whore a break...maybe she just likes a lot of cock...they got 8 orfaces you know.
i feel sorry for you buddy, but that's just life...sorry about your luck...
i wanted to settle down once too...more like have her settle her ass cheeks on my junk...
she's probably got a vendetta against you and it's just some gay homosexual friend of hers teaming up with her to hurt you as much as you hurt her...i did that to a female once and i could give a fuck who she screws with...why would she degrade herself any more than she already has?...what a stupid woman...
never talk to the woman agian or acknowledge her in public...she's a filthy whore and a liar...
you can't control everything in life and some things are out of your hands but when life throws scissors at you like this disgusting woman-erase the wench from your memory and never talk to her again...she's a whore and she'll always be a whore...she broadcasts it on the internet
i agree...once a hoe they'll always be a hoe...let some chump have the stupid woman...things could be worse...you could have a kid with the stupid two-timing liar of a woman...or you could have ended up with some disgusting venereal disease by the sounds of how much of a liar she is...
it's probably best you got out of it alive...those whores can be real evil...
i saw the same thing when i got on the facebook...this female had 2 boyfriends in a week...she was a real moron on the internet...they both probably gang banged her...sloppy seconds is what i call it...at least i hit it back in the day before it got too banged up like that...
let em have that scraps...sounds like a real trashy female to me...
why would you care if you know how trashy she is? she just puts out like that? at least you know that much. and knowing is half the battle.
i brought one of those types of women home to my mother once...i've had to apologize to the family for the last 10 years. she's such a disgrace and everyone in my town knows what a trashy woman she is...at least i learned young and had no kids cause last i heard she's up to the same tricks and still getting all ran up in nearly every weekend...
you could always just call up one of her friends and hook up with her...eventually you'll probably have a threesome...that's what i'd do...
Haha ty(?)
oh my god i have all those traits and i'd never dream of cheating on my man!! i love the bones of him....no wonder he thinks i'm a crank!!! lol!!
i have a girlfriend that i feel is cheating on me with her sisters ex husband who is now her sisters boyfriend. he texts her asking abt her kids and telling them to have a good weekend. he also sent her flowers one time for valentines day. she always tells me its all in my head but it seems a little funny to me. i dont know but what do you think?
she didn't become a cheater all of a sudden, she always was. cheaters have a nack at realing in good people- they are controlling, self absorbed, rude, disconnected, arrogant, entitled, dishonest and fake. these behaviors usually show through all aspects of their life. They will be the first to cry out in the name of the lord and identify themselves as a victim. yes, god couldn't give you a crystal ball so he gave you instinct or gut feeling. ever had the feeling a dog would bite and they did. stay away from girls with the following signs: social butterfly, no family values, pushes you away from friends and family, to many tattoos, strange or to many piercings, wondering eye, always caught in a lie, male friends, no belief in god, broadcasts her belief in god to much, volunteers her number of sex partners, lies about her number of sex partners, refuses to talk about the past, only provides you with need to know information, loose vagina but no kids, refuses to kiss, wants all the attention in bed but gives none, acts like a friend in public.
Good article...Just started an argument tho:-/
to be honest, this article points less to 'YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS CHEATING ON YOU' and more about 'YOU ARE PARANOID!!'
i have been accused of cheating on my boyfriend, as sure many of these 'traits' can be applied to me, and i have never cheated, nor would i!!
*talk about a guy a work - i work in a shop and most of the staff are men. why would i not talk about the people i spend all day with? should i not get to know work colleges just because they are the opposite sex and i have a boyfriend??
*going off sex - this can be a number of things!! medication can lower a womans sex drive (as did happen to me), stress, work, hormones, tiredness....it does not mean shes getting it somewhere else, thats the least likely reason.
*changes her appearance - i know this is hard to believe guys, but woman dress/wear make up/do their hair for THEMSELVES!! it makes us feel good to look good! it is NOT to impress other men! if its a sudden change, maybe its YOU we are trying to impress?
*unexpected favours/gifts - or maybe we want to do something nice for you? believe it or not, just because you MEN do this when you have done something wrong, doesn't mean women do!
*too many details - i gave my boyfriend all the details when i was getting constantly questioned on where i was, what i was doing, who i was with! its incredibly annoying and hurtful not to be trusted so if we say everything that happened theres nothing to be questioned on.
*Mutual friends - if a girl is cheating, she's not gonna tell your mutual friends. them acting awkward is more likely to be your paranoia and imagination from reading articles like this.
*gut instinct *doesn't add up - this is what i got constantly from my boyfriend. what is there to add up?? i told the complete 100% truth, what is there to 'not add up'? this really is the whole paranoia and imagination thing. And probably your personal trust/self esteem issues.
Yes women cheat and so do men. If you are concerned, talk to her! And i don't mean 'accuse'! Talk like adults, and listen to her, not what other people are saying. Theres two people in a relationship, other people 'opinions' should be irrelevant. Just remember that the more likely reason is a lot simpler and if you really don't trust someone then you don't have a relationship.
Todays "empowered" society has turned women into monsters. It's easy for them to pick a cock, any cock in the bar and hop right on. Men have been emasculated to the point that merely questioning a certain "guy friend" or asking about a night out which you were not invited warrants a "controlling" label slapped right on your forehead.
I have decided to become a womanizer. I'm finished being nice and absolutely DONE hoping for a family of my own someday. You can hit the sheets or the streets, it don't matter to me baby.
You women and your bullshit sneaks, guy-"friends" and entitled ways of crying controlling have almost single gendereddly destroyed the sanctity of marriage and psychologically healthy children from un-broken homes . Oh and please dont play the old "Men cheat too" card. The ratio is extremely slanted towards women cheaters. Pat yourselves on the back, bitches. We should have never let you vote.
Seeing her three years non-sexually. Im 52 and shes 45. She Doesnt want sex before marriage but wont get engaged. Found out from someone else 6 months ago that she has re-kindled a friendship with a guy she used to know 20years ago. Communicated with her that I was not comfortable with this and she says nothing is going on. Last six weeks she is distant and not seeing me on the weekends..but wants to see me on Sunday nights or mid week...I am very miserable lately....
I act like all the above and do all the above. i over explain things into detail, as im scared my bk wont believe when i am actualy telling the truth! i buy him gifts all of a sudden, my friends can act strange sometimes, alll the above, i harldy ever have sex an anymore, as im stressed n tired, YET I AM NOT CHEATING !
What if when you ask her "have you ever cheated on me" she can't look you in the eyes when I tell her but she cries because im accusing her or doing it... But my gut says she is. Is she lying ?
What if you start to feel as if they are hiding something, keeping a secret; but it's hard to tell if they are or arn't. Like the article said your gut is normally accurate, the only thing is what if you think to yourself" there not that type of person they would never do that", but there's that one question, what if? It's hard to tell if I'm having a trust issue or if my gut is really saying something; any suggestion's or help please?
Its not about finding out if shes cheating its about PREVENTING IT. Girls cheat when theyre hurt, or think theyre not getting what they want. Simple.
They do this because if they arent receiving what they want, whether it be affection, sexual favours or money, they run to what they think is the next best thing. The man who they 'think' will provide that for them. Really the girls who do this have no wits, because they dont realise that the absolute vast majority of men want to fuck, am i right?
A respectful woman worth keeping would sit you down and tell you what you have to do to stop frustrating her. So if you cannot sit with each other and discuss what probems there may be then dont even bother trying to maintain the relationship, it doesnt matter how long youve been together. If you cannot communicate then you cannot be together.
It works both ways. men; hold her close at least once a day and tell her something nice about her appearance, a good thing about how she makes you feel and why you want to stay with her. surprise her every now and then (but dont get her used to it ;D) and have the clothes hanging out or the dishes done when she gets home. Dont be breathing down her neck all the time, it doesnt keep them closer it just pushes them away, let her get out and run amuck sometimes, and if theres a trust issue then make sure shes with people you trust. The people above that let theyre girls go out alone with men that they are funny about are idiots. of course theyre cheating or making plans to.
woman; dont be a bitch, give your man time to sort himself out if hes not providing, dont expect it to be fixed by the morning or even within the week, boys are slow and sometimes need some gentle reminders. If you cant be patient and trust that he'll clean more ect. and if you cant change things to make him happier then youre arrogant, selfish and you'd might aswell disappear because your wasting his time. Boys are generally very concerned about physical appearance, so if youre not telling him why you are physically attracted to him then hes going to become very self conscious, very aware of other males and their appearance and criticise you heavily for even glancing at someone who they think is better looking. Its so easy, just throw a few comments about his cock, back, hips, forearms and shoulders.
Brilliant article
"No explantions"
"No excuses"
"No Fucking crying about it"
"And don't try to get me back"
Not quite as bluntly- but I put it mildly when I met my girlfriend. If I learn you are cheating on me, you lost the real prize, and don't try to get me back, because you'd be beating yourself up over it.
I won't give anyone a chance, i'll rage if someone cheats on me. No I won't kill anyone (Lol) But the person she cheated with- I would make it clear he can take the "trash" as a gold medal award.
To say the least, there are no second chances with a guy like me. I like to trust someone, and if my girlfriend cheated on someone because of me. It shows she had neither the determination, the will, or actual decency and trustworthiness, to have a talk about it with me. And if it was me- i'd be very prompt to correct my mistake.
But if you go with another man, thinking hes going to solve all your problems, well, let me put it mildly for all you women that do think in that context, you're insecure, lazy, and can not be trusted to be open about your feelings, which is essential in a relationship of two when each partner has so many flaws that need to be talked over so you can make the most of your time together.
But another guy won't fix it, he'll fuck you and be done with you, then your true love will shun you from his life, and you'll be left with nothing. But the guy who let you go, he'll be left with the satisfaction that he's no longer with a 'user.'
For women who are open about their selves, always looking out for what is best for both involved in the relationship, not double-lifing, and doing countless atrocities behind his back, good job, you're a real winner.
Otherwise- you have a real problem.
nice article and helpful my girlfriend works with her ex and she says that she has a physical attration to him but only has sex with me but the cell phones says different
If you dont trust her dump her. you cant blame everything on her reguardless of how much it hurts. accept responsibility that your being an insecure jerk and shes not attracted to that. Girls go where they feel is right. and when you ask them a question they always tell you the truth you just have to look for it in their body language and how they say things. If shes cheating its most likely both your faults and there needs to be a breakup unless you don't mind her fuckin someone else. I would just find another girlfriend and feel like a player :)
I find it funny that those saying this article is crap are all FEMALE. All I know is that I am with someone going on 3 years. I have started to build a life with her, by getting us furniture on my credit, she helps pay for it, a car, she pays for but is still on my credit, but she needed it for work. Things like that. NOW, she is acting mad every time she comes home from visiting her best friend 1 hour away. She has gone there 3 out of the last 4 weeks, and is talking about her new "friend" that is a guy a lot. In my mind, I think more and more that she is cheating. Always remember that both men and women fell from Gods grace in Eden, but it was woman that did it for her own agenda, it was man that did it for his woman. I only begin to believe this because of the great emotional atrocities that women have been apart of, especially the newer the generation. The woman I am with is 31 and I am 26. She should be old enough to understand that ever action and words anyone does or speaks, respectively, has an effect on the other individual's life. We have gone from women who nurture the child, respect and love their husbands so that the usband will love and respect her, to cunning, deceitful woman who will do anything for their own agenda, to an entire generation of Evil, cunning, deceitful, spoiled, selfish, rotten whores and sluts who will do anything with any guy because she wants to without thinking about how the other person feels at all. It's heart breaking. I do not know for sure if she is cheating, but my gut is getting more and more unsettled. If she is, I will leave, and start over. Perhaps I may never find someone, but it is better than someone trying to manipulate you thinking you are being fooled when you absolutely know what is going on, but want to be 100% sure out of RESPECT for the other individual.
In my life experience, I believe most women will never tell the truth no matter how many times you ask them, because they don't want to be cheated on themselves. It comes down to whether u can live with them being a whore or not. If not, leave the pig its not worth the waste of your life. Plenty of fish in the sea.
or maybe say u go to jail and u find out 3 months after your release that she had visited guys that she claimed are her friends but its wierd because they were never friends wen u were not in jail. and the excuses she gives u is oh i went to there house to get ciggarettes but she couldnt go to her sister whos old enough to buy them because she was always busy but yet she go to her house almost every day.... now thats how u know if your girl is cheating.
Just a short comment here, lots of people on this blog need therapy badly, so many anger issues both ways between man and women, you seriously do not want to build these things up. I think this blog is talking about some glaring signs in a very exaggerated way... it's so very common that when people are in long-term relationships, they are not as interested in sex as they were in the first 3 months, this is all caused by hormones, not by cheating... Protecting a cell phone, not necessarily a sign either, some people just want some sense of privacy and individuality in their lives, but hiding a cell phone, yes, I can see how that could be very suspicious. In the end, if you have nothing to hide, you shouldn't be making such a huge effort to do so... now the portion that speaks of talking about other man just sounds ridiculous, she may be telling you about another man for numerous reasons: 1) She may be trying to open your eyes and see that she is great and other man can see it too; 2) She may want you to be a bit jealous to keep you on your toes; 3) She might just want to tell you what's going on in her life and who she met, etc... The fact that she talks about another man doesn't mean she is sleeping with him... In my view, if she was sleeping with someone else, she would make sure you don't know who he is and where you can find him, since that wouldn't be the smartest idea. Now, bottom line in any relationship, it should be fair and straight forward. If you think she is using you, you may want to smarten up, and if you guys aren't a good match and have the same goals in life, I agree with the guy up there who said break up and start over. I just think jealousy and suspicion don't lead people anywhere, if anything, having a frank conversation and saying, listen, tell me what's going on with you, I won't be upset, take things, personally or try to retaliate, I just want to work things out, sounds like the most sane and smart idea... I think people in love let it control themselves at times, and the emotions take over your sanity, that's the worst thing that can happen to any relationship.
Had this happen with my girl. I noticed she is wearing another guys sweatshirt from work. Now shes talking about this guy from work whos harrassing her. I don't really get it. Because I know she loves me. I know she cares about me. I think she just wants the attention from other men. I leave an open door policy. I really don't care if she cheats. If shes going to cheat, shes gonna do it anyways. Why go crazy thinking about it. I noticed just always keep your cool and she will keep coming back.
LET ME EXPLAIN SOMETHING TO YOU GUYS THIS ARTICLE IS VERY TRUE BUT AT SAME TIME UNDERSTAND WHO GIVES A FUCK IF A GIRL IS CHEATING ON YOU EITHER PLAY HER BACK FUKIN OTHER GIRLS AND CHANGE HER FROM YOUR MAIN BITCH TO A BITCH OR LEAVE HER THATS IT MILLIONS OF GIRLS IN THIS WORLD AND IF YOUR GIRL IS CHEATING ON YOU THEN SHE WAS NEVER WORTH YOUR TIME FROM THE BEGINNING THATS WHY U NEVER TRUST ANY GIRL CAUSE ALL GIRLS HAVE POTETNTIAL TO CHEAT U JSUT DONT GIVE EM A REASON TOO GO TO GYM, SMELL GOOD, GET NICE CLOTHES, ALWASY HAVE YOUR GAME TIGHT AND THEN LETS SEE IF SHES CHEATING ON U WOMAN DONT CHEAT CAUSE THIER HORS THEY CHEAT BECAUSE THEY FEEL THEY ARE MISSING SOMETHING FROM YOU SO IF U HAVE LOOKS, MONEY, CLOTHES, AND ARE A SINCERE GUY WTF WOULD SHE CHEAT ON YOU THINK MY MEN
she said i am working late tonight wont be home in-tell
6 pm but she punched out at noon and had a guy friend at
the house. she has been giving him rides. no pun intended.
i hate it when she lies.
ok. I don't want to chew any ears off here, but i'm sure i will. Here, we go. I've been married for 6 years to the love of my life. About 2 years ago, she left me for literally saying hello and I've missed you to a woman i hadn't seen in over 15 years. When she left, she left me with our 2 children, made me quit my job and took the only working car (I was a contractor and my truck broke down). She then moved in with another guy for about 2 1/2 months. I knew before she left that something wasn't right i just didn't know what it was. She works late at night until 2am at a store in this small town we live in and for about a week or 2 before she left, I'd been getting calls from friends telling me she'd been seen after the store closed with another man who was known for going after women in her line of work. I totally blew it all off because she normally made me and our kids her whole world. I was completely devastated. She left 2 days before my sons 3rd birthday, and was also gone during our anniversary and my birthday which is in december. When she first left, i still didn't believe she'd been cheating. She said she was going to move in with her mom (alcoholic and abuser of prescription drugs) temporarily but it turned out that she moved in with the other guy. During the time she was gone, i tried to pretend to be her friend. Sometimes i would break down and tell her how much i love her, but she'd look into my eyes and tell me she wasn't "In Love" with me. The times i was pretending to be just a friend, she'd tell me how special the other guy was to her. It cut me deeper than most of you can imagine. At one point, I decided to sell my guitars and amps (of which I had several from having a successful career) and sold them for $200 just to have the money to fix my truck. I asked her to take me to the pawn shop to sell them. All she said was OK (She knows music is my life). After wards, she had to go to the store to get some dog food for his dogs, and had somehow got it into my head that she'd come home if i gave her the money. I don't know why, but i did it. No she didn't come out and say that but she did ask for the money and maybe i just thought giving it to her would help my side of all of it. All i did was buy her a new cell phone to call him on when she was supposed to be visiting my kids for 10 minutes a day (All she said she had time for since she was going out with him and his friends and getting hammered). One day, she was supposed to take the kids for the night because they missed her badly, she told them she'd be there at noon and i couldn't get her to answer her phone until after 10pm and by that time she was at a bar and already so drunk she could barley form a complete thought. When i got upset over her behavior and drinking, she just screamed, "Who told you that I was at the bar? Motherfucker! I can't do anything in this town!!" for the last week or so that she was gone, she'd started coming over for sex daily, and then still staying at his house at night.
After typing this, I feel like a fucking Idiot
Then, the night she came home, She told me that i was never allowed to ask her anything about her life during the time she was with him. I knew that it wasn't possible, but i told her i'd try not to ask anything. We then moved almost 100 miles away and i had hoped everything would stop, and it did for about 4 months, then she wanted to come back to this town and start seeing her friends... without me. Then i saw his number in her phone and she said it was an old entry. (It was a new phone with a different carrier and she had to enter every entry one at a time so i knew that was a lie.) I found out later from a friend that she'd been talking to him at the bar in town. Before we moved back here, she decided to start working weekends back at this bar again. And then i started noticing him calling her. She said they're just friends who took things too far and that it was nothing more. I've tried hard to look the other way.
Since we've moved back to town, I've caught her lying about talking to him and his brother (who also i've heard things about), places she's been on her "Girls nights" and just about everything else you can think, but still, she says she's not cheating. Yes she's a bartender in a small town. One night, a tuesday, the place was empty for hours!!! so i called her to see how see was doing. She acted strange and said she was cleaning and had to get off the phone asap. Just after that, i had to go to the store for my friend so i decided to go in and steal a kiss from her. When i go there i could sort of see some couple doing what looked like kissing. No cars out side, (people here walk alot) and just didn't think anything of it. I pulled in on my motorcycle and the sound is very distinct. I noticed that when i pulled in the couple jumped apart. I walked in to see her holding a pool stick and her "friend" in my face talking his ass off to me (he knows not to talk to me). All she said was "What do you want?" I said "Nothing" and walked out. This isn't the first time something liked that happened.
She's never home. Hangs out at the bar when she's not working there and I have no choice but to stay home with my kids as there's no day care or anything here. I'm a communications tech and i've found several jobs, but they interfere with her drinking so i "can't" take them. I'm at a loss. She refuses counseling, and tells me that I have mental issues and that it's all in my head. I was so depressed over all of this for so long that i actually believed it was. I know better now, but still can't prove she's cheating. WHAT DO I DO!!!!! I LOVE HER AND I WANT THIS TO WORK!!!!!!!!! IS IT TOO LATE?????
This is a sumerised version of events. Trust me, the full version is MUCH longer. Please, if you're going to comment on here, also e-mail it to jon_apple_seed@yahoo.com . She checks my e-mail (not that account) my cell phone, my home phone, facebook, my space, car, wallet, pants, and my computer. She accuses me of cheating constantly. She was no sex drive anymore (before she left we had sex daily and i was the first to make her climax probably not the only anymore though). This is tearing me and my kids up. 3 days ago, she took my 5 year old daughter to the bar with her while it was closed to get her "friend" some quarters for his pool team to play out of town. I didn't know about it at the time or i wouldn't have let my daughter go, but when she got home. She said "Daddy, (his name) told me to kick you in the balls and i said NO I LOVE MY DADDY! Then he told me to give him a hug and a kiss and i wouldn't have to." I said, "Oh, then what did you do?" She said, "Well, mommy gave him a kiss on the check and said she loved him and he kissed her check and said her loved her too then he kissed heron the forehead and then we went home." My daughter had NEVER EVER said ANYTHING like this before, nor has she ever heard his name or anything else. I called my wife after i heard this. She denied the kissing and i love you's, but admitted he was there with her and my daughter alone. about 2 hours later, i told my wife a lie. I said that i had made my daughter cry, because i told her that she must have imagined it because mommy said that it didn't happen and it upset her. (My daughter likes the truth. She HATES liars.) My wife freaked out. "OH MY GOD!!! You shouldn't have done that!!!!" She screamed. So i asked "why not?" to which she replied, "Just leave it alone and don't talk to her about it anymore."
That's the answer i got. Pretend it never happened. No i didn't ask my daughter anything. I would never drag her into anything.
I'm scared of losing my kids. We live in the south and courts here are very "female oriented" when it comes to the kids. If she could be the person she used to be (with or without me) then i'd be ok with her having them at all if we split, but right now, i know she'd be leaving them with her mother. I'm lost everyone. Please help.
Here's a few more motes on things.
she came back on Dec. 18th.
My garndfather was the preacher at our wedding. He died 7 days after that (christmas day) at 8:16pm.
She hasn't even acted like she cares about me at all since she came back. (Couldn't do anything without her before, now she says I'm smothering her when i say "I Love You.")
She came back just after she told me she found out he was cheating on her.
She constantly accuses me of cheating on her even though I'm at home with the kids all day.
I've caught her deleting calls to him and texts out of her phone.
She says if I have a problem with her being a bartender and being friends with him then i need to get over it or she's leaving. (No, she wasn't a bartender before we were married and always said before that bars were only good for dancing, getting laid, or getting drunk)
Wont let me have friends without her ok, and then they're limited to when they can come over.
Refuses tto try to calmly talk things out.
Screams in front of our kids to the point i have to leave the room to keep them from seeing and hearing more.(I've heard my daughter say "I don't like mommy sometimes. She's mean to my daddy too much."
She controls EVERY aspect of my life to the point i'm not allowed to keep a journal. (At least not if i'm going to mention her in it at all.)
Threatens at least 3+ times a week to leave and file for divorce. (The last time she did this, I told her that no matter what i say or do, I can't change her mind, so i just hope that she finds happiness somewhere. And somehow, she decided to stay.
Calls me a Motherfucker, or cock sucker in front of the kids.
Has gone all over town to her friends and mine, and told them all that I'm lazy and i don't WANT to work (Until she made me quit, I was the sole proprietor of our family for over 5 years.)
But through all of this, I love her. BUT am I in love with the her NOW, or the her that i married and had a great relationship with for 5 years before hand?
I really think she's still sleeping with him, but i don't have anything concrete yet. I wish she'd just tell me. I'm at he point i don't care if she's with me or not, I just want her to be happy. I hope I can still make her feel that way.
Depending on where you are in America or Canada/ whatever..the price differs....but 800 bucks sounds about average for a polygraph test (lie detector). Shit, 800 is worth it for an answer.
Well I completly agree with the article. My ex-wife cheated on me during our marriage in the last three months. She did the exact actions what the article mentions. I dumped her when I figured out and got divorce. And YES that's how girls are nowdays.
dominant - yeah right, sounds like she finally got sick of you and found someone else. The article is incredibly weak - I'd give it a D at best.
I was engaged to a girl who meant everything to me. Not only was I her longest relationship but also her most serious. All her friends and her parents told me that I was the best thing thats ever happened to her... She loved me... Or so I thought... She cheated on me 4 or more times... She had the decency to tell me about two of those times before she ripped my heart out. She said shes not good enough for me because she keeps cheating. I miss her and I still love her very much... I would only consider taking her back if she changed and I make the boundaries. Women today are crazy. Actually GIRLS are crazy. They need to grow up and that means to think with their brains and not their hormones and not be selfish. Girls are too easily seduced. Grow up and you become a woman.
I wish I could've went with my gut feelings those are all signs she was a closet whore. Also makes it hard when your a flirting type of guy she took that as a way to say I was a cheater.
well guys i think my case is the worst:
been with my gf for 5yrs.for abt 6mths she cheated on me. in the 5th yr of us knowing each other she got to know a guy, a high sch fren who had her number from another high sch fren. at 1st they only start contactg and nvr met,only thru e fon
but abt 3 mths later, they started going out and doing it w/o me even knowing it.usually when i met her durg the 6 mths of her cheatg,she usually stares blankly and doesnt talk to me that much. i knew it that she cheated on me but i dun hef too much of proof. she even went overseas with him once as at first they planned to go with their high sch frens but in the end,only they both can make it. n guess what? she even got pregnant and aborted the baby.i got to know all that thru her FB messages. i ask her why she did it all that and she said that things happenthings happen??damn wat a reason is that! she confessed that she likes him and has feelings for him but that doesnt mean she has to give her body to him rite!? she dont want to lose me and still loves me all the while she cheated me.she loves me more than that guy.but when i got to know the matter,she had already stopped what she was doin as she said she doesnt wanna lie and do all this shit anymore but that guy still text her and wanting to mit her. she said she learnt alot from the incident and promise not to cheat again. i love her so much that i gave her a 2nd chance but deep in my heart i forgave her but cant forget.now she doesnt contact that guy anymore and. she told me that i and him are diff and he treats her better than me. but i know that jerk only fucks ard. now we are together and planng to get engaged. what do u guys think?am i making the right choice in acceptg her back?
Reply to 2525; i think you just have to follow your feelings, don't neglect it because what you think, is right however, if you still love and trust the girl now you can engage with her but you need to watch her for a while again before do that.
well my story is really crazy i been with this girl for almost three years i do everything for her i pay her bills give her money i do everything she cheated on me in the past i forgave her for that but now it hurts to say i never get anything in return i always ask to take her out she always say she dont want to what girl doesnt like going out i had to beg her to go out for our anniversary AND THE SADDEST PART IS IN SOME TYPE OF WAY IM ALWAYS PAYING FOR SEX SOMETIMES DIRECTLY AND SOME TIMES NOT I ASK WHY CAUSE SHE SAID AT LEAST SHES GETTING SOMETHING OUT OF IT THAT NOT RIGHT I KNOW ITS NOT I AM DEEPLY DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH THIS GIRL I GOT HER NAME TATTOO ON MY ARM I THINK ABOUT HER CONSTANTLY I BRING HER NAME UP IN RANDOM CONVERSATIONS I KNOW IM STRUNG OUT. BUT THIS THE WORSTE PART SHE NEVER CALLS ONLY LIKE ONCE IN A BLUE MOON SHE TEXT THOU BUT NOT OFTEN AND SHE GOES DAYS WITHOUT NO COMMNICATION WITH ME FUNNY THING IS SHE ALWAYS TELL ME SHE LOVE ME NOW I AM KINDA DARK SKIN AND IM AVERAGE AND SHE LOOKS SO GORGEOUS SHE TOLD ME SHE NOT ATTRACTED TO ME AND I EMBARRASSED HER BUT YET SHE WANT TO BE WITH ME. SO I NEED YALL HELP PLEASE RESPOND I JUST WANT TO GET REAL ADVICE AND IS THERE ANYWAY I CAN STILL BE WITH HER CAUSE IM TRULY TRULY IN LOVE SERIOUSLY!!!! PLZ RESPOND
i recently had physical relation with my galfrn after a gap of 15 days..bt i didnt feel the firmness in her female organ i used to feel...cld she be cheating??? :(
Fail of an article. Sometimes the opportunity for sexual conduct cannot arise. IN MY OPINION, if you think you're girlfriend is cheating on you, maybe you should confront her. If her back gets up against the wall, then just end it. Better to not know then to know and get hurt, walk away with some pride.
well now i really know to allwase trust me gut, my ex cheated on me for 8 months stright and i just didnt pay attention
I just love how out of say ten comments maybe 2 girls say this is bogus......maybe you havent been like this to your man but trust what you see look at the people look at the facts this helps 8 out of 10 people id like to say to the girls who come to comment about how not reliable this is honesty come on look at these victoms!
hey MAX loose vaginas means she is having sex with a bigger person
ask her why it feels different and if she get mad and says ur accusing her then pump it one more time and dump it
You brought out some good points.Thanks for sharing.
hey, im pretty confident my girlfriend is cheating, but our relationship is already on the verge of ending, so im worried if i ask her she will end it there and then, sounds stupid i know, coz technically if she does this then i shouldnt wanna be with her anyway? but is there anyways of asking her inderectly? like not making it so obvious that i think she is cheating?
Isaac stop bein a whimp, if she is cheatin she aint worth keeping! if the relationship is fallin apart n she aint willin to work on that then she aint worth keeping, Hard to hear but truth! all you whinging goons need to grow balls, get a grip of your women and put your evidence to them damn straight! then make sure you spell out to them exactly what they are loosing and how worthless they are as u chuck them onto the street! (hopefully its raining too, greater effect!) honestly why keep a smelly tramp? she will do it again and have no guilt cos your the mug that takes it, and she knows it! cheating slags shouldnt get 2nd chances you idiots!
I spend about 8 months a year from home and at first it used to drive me nuts!!! My girlfriend brings up this excuse every time I come home that she's got her period???? I'm talking about no fixed time what so ever. Sometimes I'm offshore for 6 weeks and home for 1 week and it changes constantly. Anyway so I've decided to say "fuck" it!! I'm on my way to riches and one or other way the truth always comes out!! I personally hope she cheats to get it behind her. My mind has made me so confused and screwed up!! Please give me advice
To all you guys that been through cheating im sorry. But sometimes girls do the kinda things in this article just because. And sometimes they may do the things cuz their scared that the guy is cheating. I have never cheated on a guy and never will. But ive done things that are in here...Does that mean i cheated? NO! And girls have other guys in their lives. Im not talkin bout other lovers, im talking bout friends. If your so worried then ASK THE GIRL!!!! Its better u ask n find out then not ask n live with the pain or gut feeling
You should know by now how she lies n should b able 2 tell if shes lying...So go ahead n ask her! Ull kno if shes lying or not...
I'm 35. Male. Been about 7 months a year out of my country sins age 18. I grew up on the streets and today I own property in Greece, Bali etc. I've been in the most dangerous parts in the World.
Proven facts; Men are like fathers to women. Be strict.
Women like quite guys not men who talk to much about all their personal problems etc. Why quite? Because you're interesting! Don't be lazy, don't sit on the couch everyday with your beer watching sport and with the thought that your women is happy. Exercise, be fit, be strong physically and mentally. Women like intelligent guys. Why? Because they can talk about interesting subjects. Be romantic and not by buying your women flowers or jewelry. e.g. candlelight foam bath just the two of you. Rather eat and sit at a table for dinner instead of in front of the TV. Why? Communication. For sex try to be ambitious by means of dress to impress. Be neat! Never apologize unless it really is your fault. Be outgoing and come up with new ideas. Never but never complain daily. Compliment your wife only if she deserves it! If she did something wrong by means of flirting with another man ignore it. It shows you are better and that you personally think higher of yourself. Another proven fact is that if your life is ordinary your wife/girlfriend's life will def. not be around yours. If for e.g. your wife/girlfriend sees a sudden change in you, the first thing that will come to their mind is that your cheating. This is an indication that there is another women out there that finds you interesting and it will make your wife/girlfriend wonder. (Do not try to prove it as it can destroy a relationship where the other partner is not cheating.) What I'm saying is; make yourself interesting. Be a man, positive, quite, strong willed, brave, outgoing, adventures, intelligent and be the one standing out from the rest. Women do not react to ordinary men but men whom they are intrigued with. If your relationship is downhill look at what is the reason. Study your wife and start making the decision if you personally think she's the one for you rather than be captured in a "paranoid world" where she is your only thought of the day. Remember this; we all came on to this earth alone and we will certainly leave alone. If this happens your wife will certainly meet someone else and you will def. not be concerned about this, so why revolve your life around matters that you cannot control. What I mean by this is trying to control your perfect life! Marriage and your own little world is never certain and definite. Enjoy the fun days and create more but knowing it can end anytime. Every individual in this life make his/her own decisions and it is your responsibility to take it like a man and move on. Life is rough, hard and only the strong makes it easier for themselves. o Ya. Don't cheat! it is a sign of weakness!!
ok im a woman and do those things. but i never cheated before in my life. i love my bf with all my heart. i would never be able to hurt him like that. and actually study shows that more men cheat than women do.
See?!?!?!? Sometimes girls just do those things....Its just the way it goes.....Just cuz ur girl does some of these things dont mean shes cheating...
i can relate to this article, everything that this article says... ive seen and feel this instincts to her...sadly, we end up for a bad breakup, by asking her if shes cheating with me, she put all the blame to me by saying i don't trust her. its really hard to accept this kind of situation.
I am 32, had many serious relationships (or with serious intent) every time I had a gut feeling.. bad things followed through. So I have become a bit of an expert at getting to the truth.
Be a man, confront them in a calm conversational manner.. if it doesn't make sense.. tell them you are not convinced. You don't need to hear what you want to hear to be convinced. E.g. "I cheated on you". No girl will do that.
If they tell you - you need theraphy etc... or that you are paranoid, calmly let them know they can fix that by picking up your phone calls, giving you their passwords etc.. The idea is not to invade their privacy, it is to allow them to do something that will give you proof that your feelings are wrong (hopefully they are).
Think about the opposite situation, if you were in love with your girlfriend and she said "look I think you are not being faithful to me.. and if you want to keep me prove to me that it is all in my head.." you would gladly give your email password or let her go through your phone ONLY *if you have nothing to hide*... You would see her as the insecure victim of this misunderstanding. If they let you see that information this establishes;
-they want to keep you
-they most likely do not have anything to hide or it isn't as bad as you thought
-they have some level of trust in you - knowing that you won't do something stupid like sms her friends or the guy in question.
-they have the intention to help you
-they may also be bluffing.
Also, the person who wanted to see the proof will feel bad for having these doubts so rest assured they will make an effort to make it up to you.
I had this conversation with a few times in my life. Every time it was a bad situation the girl would be defensive or the conversation would be escalated to a fight by the girl so she can walk out. If this happens don't insist, you have to let her save face, but know that this isn't a good sign. I would leave it right there. However, for those of you who want more proof.. lets just keep thinking...
They say when police have multiple suspects for a crime and they don't know who did it they throw all suspects into jail overnight. The one they find sleeping in the morning is most likely the criminal. This is because out of all the suspects only those who did the crime are at ease with themselves. The others are not able to sleep due to being falsely accused of a crime they did not commit. Makes sense right? Now if you accused your gf of cheating and she hasn't... trust me.. she will call you and let you know what a fucking idiot you were. However, keep in mind that that all you did was accuse her, you did not cheat on her and I think most girls will agree that over time if they love you they will accept you back. If they don't contact you this is most likely confirmation you were looking for. Move on. This is based on the premise that if the girl is cheating you won't get admission. I think this view is largely supported by the comments, also look at those other comments where guys are seeking further proof, they are miserable and should have been out a long time ago.
If you feel satisfied that being offered information (e.g. phone, email, facebook or whatever) is going to fix your trust issues think about whether you really need to read it or not. If you stop right there, this will earn you some bonus points. If you don't however, your lack of trust will be even more obvious. I did this with one girl and found some dirty messages she was hiding in some folders. She was driving and then started crying when I said "this is interesting.. mr " I got her to pull over and I told her hey look.. this isn't the end of the world you know. You made a mistake, we're all people and it happens. So I am going to ask you to drop me off at home and please don't bother contacting me again. ever... cleanest break up I ever had.
All things being equal, if the woman in question cares for you she won't put her demands to not be annoyed over your insecurities. This way at least whatever you do, you won't need to be in doubt. Just get it over and done with, prolonged suspicion will kill a relationship.
I think in the end it all comes down to being a man about it and that includes communication. I whole heartedly agree with TheTruthHurts' comments, they are worth reading.
Yes my Girlfriend cheated on me, after changing her job, she ran into a fella she had a crush on, But he's married and have two kids, I dont understand why women go for guy like this. weve been together 10 years, she still is seperated has not gotten a divorce papers yet. She has alot on her mind, but recently she has been changing her appearance and buying more tighter clothes and worried about her weight, i should have read this article months ago. then i would have seen the bigger picture. Less sex and less contact even though she need more help from me, financially, what gives. but she cheated on me, prolly got knocked up and didnt want me to know its another guy. so im sad, and alone. i know theres other women. but sometimes you dont want to start the dating game all over again.
Also another thing..
I had her email in my mind, and other passwords. I got on her phone bill records and saw she was texting this one number 500 times in a week, i hardly get that many, but today she told me she wants nothing to do with me, to leave her alone. to leave her accounts alone. she says i have mental problems, which i dont. she said i was never her Girlfriend, and never have been. that kind of hurt, i think she did get knocked up by this other guy, has hickies all over her neck, because she refused to let me see her. im furious but theres nothing i can do, she chose her man she wanted, now, she has no insurance and her bank account is over drawn her own fault. i tried reasoning with her, but she finally said the words of hatred toward me. i dont feel good, i cant sleep, but ill let this one go.
I smack a beeatch if she cheatin on me. You know what I sayin? All praise be to the one and only JarJar McDouglestein.
About ten years ago,I was camping at Lake Cunnulingal Lake. I was 12 at the time. One of our? counselors snapped, and ended up putting on a Junior Seau halloween mask and terrorized our camp for four days. We had no phones, and were 8 hours from the nearest city which was also deserted. He ended up taking Todd,our cabin leader, from the camp. He made Todd eat raw squirrel in front of all of us. Todd was crying, but did it anyway. Eventually, the counselor took off the mask and said it was a joke.
Point being, he was most likely cheated on by his girlfriend. That's what caused him to act that way.
bleugh ... my girlfriend of a year has started being a bit off with me
sex has decreased - she is never in the mood
we get on really well, and everyone says we are perfect for each other
but the other day i found some really dodgy emails from about 18 months ago ..
now myself and my girlfriend are lesbians .. she always makes comments like 'dont you dare cheat one me' .... 'if you ever cheat on me ill kill you' ... which on its own is kinda sweet, but added with everything else, very suspicious.
back to the emails .. they were really dirty emails from a mutual GUY friend of ours
which made me feel sick enough.
the fact she always says his playful comments are just him being funny irritates me enough, not to mention the fact that if he had his way i think he'd probably screw us both
he is very touchy feely and very flirty - which didn't bother me at all until i found these emails!! totally grossed me out and not sure how to confront my girlfriend now ... i cannot accuse her of the emails from before we were together because even though they are horrendous and made me literally vomit ... she was not cheating.
the email i found from about 3 weeks ago however, suggests it might still be going on
'this is crazy, what are you doing to me? i have been so good recently and now you are messing with my head. make sure you get me in your diary'
i casually dropped into conversation with the guy that he wanted to steal my girlfriend (a joke he quite often makes - see how it all adds up when you find evidence!) and he was adament that he was 'the wrong sex' ...
and with my girl ... i asked her if she had anything to tell me .. and she said no ..
in her emails today, about half her emails have been deleted - 3/4 remain in her deleted items box ... all of which are from this guy including the one from 18 months ago titled 'massive sex' which goes into disgusting detail about what he wants to do to her
i do not want to blow my fuse just now, we live together, so its pretty damn awkward, i am a student so would be homeless if we split .. if she has cheated ... i could forgive her if i thought it was over .. but if somethings still going on i want out
i don't know what to do :(
Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Go and get a life! Who cares when she gives you new shoes etc.?????? Or you didn't get sex for a long time!!! If you are a men you control it ;) !!! not for losers!!!! :)
I have been with my girl for thirteen years!! and i lost my job due to the economy!!!i recently FOUND out my girl had sex with a high school sweet heart from Facebook!! i never really cared about face book so i opened up a account!!! and at first she didn't want to ad me as her man on face-book until i confronted her about it. then she added me for a day then took me off and, she has been keeping her cell phone hidden in the car and!! always leaven me and my son home by our selfs!! during the weekend!!and she is going in to work early and coming home a hour late!! here and there.so i started to investigate the face book situation!!! come to find out she has been fucking this dude for months!! wile leading me on and her niece even told me that she was fucking this dude!! im just stupid i guess 13yrs is along time for her to throw away!! but i guess she doesn't care!! i am younger then her i got with her when i was19 and she was 25 i even took in and raised her daughter when she was 2!!!and always supported her!!! but i guess she decided to fuck around once i lost my job!! and did i mention when we got together she cheated on another dude when she got with me?? and i didn't even know about him!!!once a whore always a whore!! now she is sleeping out of a hotel room and her car and from friends to friends house!!!! CARMA IS A MOTHER FUCKER!! how ever i still have feelings for her. i do not what know to do my emotions are all up and down!! it is a fucked up situation!!! so FACE BOOK SUCKS AND ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER.
This article is the biggest load of BS I've ever read. None of these reasons, except for mutual friends acting strange, is a sign your girlfriend is cheating. I've displayed many of these ' signs' and I have never cheated. She avoids sex? Its more commonly a medication, like birth control, that affects her libido, or a medical condition like endometriosis or cysts that makes sex painful. Or did you stop to think that maybe you're just a jerk and she doesn't want to be with you anymore?
Load of tosh. Dont take this article too seriously.
this is such an amazing thread, i have recently found out that my long term girlfriend has been having an affair, there were so many times when she tried to throw it in my face saying she would never do that to me. As for the favors part i noticed, she suddenly started giving me oral pleasure almost every night, she would go so far before saying she couldnt take any more, it would actually get to a home run, wed start going between third and home then get caught out and sent to the bench. I also noticed that she was hiding her cell hell of a lot, it was always either on charge or a txt saying if i dont txt back my battery is dead, i even went back to the shop to try and sort the battery not knowning what i know now. There is so many things people can learn from this. People dont take sh*t cos while ever you do it will keep on coming. The strange thing is shes recently been in contact with me after shes broke up with both parties, and says she wants me back, but the most wierd part of it she wants a 3some 1st with the guy that she was seeing, she says she wants to feel the passion from the 2 guys she loves the most, now how the chuff am i ment to take that.
Hi am a girl of 35yrs of age. i am 10 yrs looking younger than my age. It look as if every men wanted to sleep with me if they get a chance. It made me feel sick. I love sex,but i enjoy sex only with someone i really admire and love from deep inside. I fell inlove with a guy who seems to like sex may be juct once a week. I was longing for touch and hugs when i was with him. He bought me a concert ticket and asked the money back later. He gave me stuffs and wanted me to buy him a gold chain and so on.. Eventually i came across a guy who seems to admire me and the one I thought is a nice guy. we endedup sleeping together only after i stop keeping intouch with my previous guy. This new guy wouldn't touch me whole night when i was with him in the bed though we has a nice sex when he wanted. This make me feel so unsatisfied and that i ended up looking around another guy..but the thought of moving from one guy to another guy is killing me now.. I got into frustration and i end up going to casino every night just to forget the pain of emptyness in me. I get caught one night that i was lying to the present bf while i was gambling, he then stop even texting me. I talk about all my painful experience and guilt over leaving the previous bf to another male friend of mine..he then started talking about having sex with me..why on earth do men not understand the feeling of a women..Romance ruin my life.
Just like to say this article is very true true but it goues both ways. I have been, with my man ovr a year and a half and I have nvr cheated on him. But he has displayed sum of these same signs signs and then I catch him asy a bar making out with sum ex fuck buddy of his. So it goues both ways there are whore girls and there are man whores. It has nothing to do with what sex you are it has to do with what kind of person you are.
I want my ex back. She claims she still loves me but she met some loser and theyre dating. Can I win her back? If so how? I still want her back even after what she did to me. I want to kick this guys ass and I know I can but how do I get her back? Shes making a big mistake. I'm determined because this girl is worth any fight. She still loves me, I know it.
Edit: Actually she knows I'm extremely jealous of the new guy... Are there still ways to get her back? Please I need to know. She has the strength to change. Thank you.
i have a girl friend at first it was gut,but its started when she started to work she first started to tell me about some guy that wanting her then she get a lift to home by a colick from work then he drop her at home,and she does not want me to cam to her work place she allways cam with stories
What the hell, can anyone on this thread spell ? Stop worrying about cheating and go back to school.
look lads at the end of the day,, Women are just as usefull as gnats / Mosquitoes forget they even exist, they will love you more, and life will be alot easyier its called finding your game
Alright, my girlfriend and I share our passwords on Facebook. Which is no problem for me or her. Though a few times I've been on there she has not even told the men that are "friends" we're a couple.
More recently, I went to get on it. I found that the pass word was changed. A couple of days earlier it was changed because there is a person who looks over her shoulder to get her passwords. Though today there was no reason. Not to mention that when I got a hold of her to ask her why at first she didn't know what I was talking about. Then when I told her she said, "What? Are you serious?" I told her what time it had happened, and she replied, "R You Serious" like she didn't believe me or didn't care enough. Then, when I ask her to call me so we can straighten it out she says, "I will do it later, I'm just so tired" I mean if someone had my information I'd be right on it. I have reasons to believe she is cheating. All the time she puts herself in situations where her trust will be brought down, but tries to drill it in my head that I should. What do you think about this?
I think my fiance has been cheating for the last 3 months. It started off when she took off from home for three days. She was over at a friends house drinking, was on her way home, stopped off at a house to use the phone and started partying over there. She was then leaving for 1-2 days a week and partying at the house. This was a bad place to be, with drugs, alcohol, and what have you. The man who lived at the house told her he could fall in love with her, and became obsessed. I would then pack her stuff up and get ready to ship her on out. She would come home crying and saying that she didn't want to move, and that she was sorry. I had a small gut feeling something could be going on with her and some guy, but I also knew that she was an addict. She could go to this place with out judgment, or guilt of getting high and drunk. One day I again found out that she had left. A friend of hers, brother, told me that she's been with another man. Which is the one who lives at the house she had been going to. I broke down, I was devastated, two days later she came home. Swearing up and down she never cheated, and I can tell when she lies or doesn't, but when it's something this big she is more than likely trying like hell not to tell the truth. We have two kids 7 and 11 years old. Her daughters birthday was just this past Monday, and the next day she left again. It's been four days and I have not heard from her, she won't call, text, nothing. I am fully convinced she is now cheating, and it's more than the addiction. I just can't believe she would choose to be with that guy, who is 50, ten years older. Where there are rampant drugs, he is abusive, beats his sons, cops are always there, etc. I am so overwhelmed with emotions. I am especially hurt that my daughter cries at night for her mother, and she's not there. We were to get married in July, her dress even came in THAT day she left. I'm torn.
Hey guys im with this girl called Audrey.we have been dating for 3 months now.problem started when i opened a playlist on her phone's memory card saying 'audrey u r mine 4eva'.i was devastated! I confronted her she said she had borrowed it and did not knw thats how he felt and suggested we meet this guy togetha.but somehow my work schedule was so tight i never got the chance to meet this guy tn the point that i forgot about it.now a month later the guys name pops up again,i asked a friend to look into it then i got torn up learning that its true.its my first time dealing with this.the truth is i love this girl so much i feel like its better to die once we are separeted.this is totaly unexcepteble but theres a thought telling me to enjoy the little affection im sharing with this guy.i know most of you are saying i should look for better fish which actually give a fuck about me but right now it feels so bloody painful dammmit.i cant loose her i feel like killing the bastard shes with.i need help,im in tears.worse is that im gonna have to pretend like everythings fine until i get to see this guy
In short, a liar will tell NOTHING but the truth.
I have been with my wife for 21 yrs and a year ago i caught her texting some guy she met online about starting a life together. She told me she though I didnt love her anymore but shw was the one who quit paying attention to pour relationship. I bought her flowers regulary. took her out to nice dinners 2 times a week, I even washed her clothe and cleaned the hpouse and did all the cooking. She called this guy in front of me and told him it was over and to leave her alone.things were good we had a nice romantic vacation without kids and we "connected" as she puts it. we came home and I was working 10-12 hrs a day then I come home and find her having phone sex with some guy she also met online.She said she was just horny and it wasnt real. I say in person, online, or on the phone its still cheating. After a little detective work it turns out she had all kinds of hidden email accounts and such. She has proven 1 thing once a cheater always a cheater so if your girl cheats on you dump her sorry ass!!!! I did !!!
CHECK IT OUT,I GREW UP IN NAPA CA, AND ALL MY LIFE IVE DATED AMERICAN CHICKS,ALL SORTS OF DIFFERENT ONES,NOW I LIVE IN ENSENADA MEX. AND I HAD NEVER DATED A REAL MEXICAN GIRL, SO NOW IVE BEEN WITH ONE A LITTLE OVER A YEAR ,AND FOR SOME REASON I THOUGHT MEXICAN CHICKS WERENT AS SLUTTY AS AMERICANS.AND MY GIRLFRIEND JUST LAST WEEK SHE WENT M.I.A.FOR TWO DAYS CAUSE SHE WAS PISSED OFF AT ME,IT TURNS OUT THAT SHE WENT TO STAY WITH A GUY FRIEND OF HERS,SHE SAYS SHE DIDNT DO ANYTHING ,THAT HE,S JUST A FRIEND FROM A LONG A TIME AGO..SHE SAID SHE WAS NEVER ALONE WITH HIM IN HIS ROOM THAT SHE STAYED IN THE LIVING ROOM THE TWO DAYS SHE WAS THERE.I DONT KNOW WAHT TO BELIEVE ,WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK...I COME TO FIND OUT THAT MEXICAN GIRLS ARE SLUTY AS AMERICANS ONE ALSO..I LOVE HER AND DONT WANT TO LET HER GO, SHES FINE ASS AS HELL. BUT I HATE THE GUT FEELING SHES PLAYING AS A SUCKER ..SHOULD I BBELIEVE HER OR NOT.I DONT WANT TO GO THROUGH THE MOTIONS OF THE BREAK UP DEAL AND BEING ALONE..SHE PPIT SUCKS CAUSE I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT TO DO .ROMISES THAT SHE WONT DO IT AGAIN..
my girl started going to this camp and met this guy there. Shes been distant lately and ive seen some messages between them that seem a little too friendly. Can some one give me some serious advice on wat i shld do?
RD: ask her about this guy, and see if she gets nervous. then if she is cheeting, decide what to do then
RD: ask her about this guy, and see if she gets nervous. then if she is cheeting, decide what to do then
Good Article.. I'm so sad i've been cheated and i'll never beleive in love from nw and i'll not allow anyone to do love n my whle family ever.........
another way to see if ur girlfriend cheating is if she texts u only certain hours a day...more than likely she doesn't want to text u and her other boyfriend at the same time ...so she will text u when she is done with her other boyfriend
hey this isnt a cheating story its more of a what i should look out for or what not. okay background on my girl: she has never cheatend on a past boyfriend i am her most serious relationship, she has had sex with only one other boyfriend and it wasnt mutual. We have been dating for almost 2 years. She lies a good bit and i cannnot tell when she is .she is like one of those get pissed if you dont belive her even when she is lying types. She is really sweet though, she never had sex outside of a relationship, doesnt drink,i think beautiful but has low self esteame and she cant tell when guys are into her. She seems like the type that would NEVER cheat. But the two things that concern me is the lying, and the fact that she cant tell when a guy is into her, that part is because combined with low self esteame if she feels i have not made her feel pretty enough and this guy tells her he is into her idk how she will react. We love each other alot she says she would never leave or cheat on me and we are planing on getting married. She really likes sex with me like she cant help herself sometimes and idk much about how girls are with sex do they only see it as sex with this guy is great or like if i wasnt around she could want it that bad from someone else. She has gone away to visit family where she moved from im 19 and she is about to turn 20. She wanted me to come with her but i live with parents like her but unlike her mine are crazy strict. I see her once a week text and talk to her all week, she has a car never had a job. She has a friend up there that she used to have a big crush on but it wasnt mutal should i be afraid if his feelings have changed. they say they are like brother and sister now though idk what that really means. Im not really worried about this case specificly just mainly since she is like how i described should i ever worry about her cheating
My girlfriend has cheated on me before and i took her back but i think shes cheating on me again but i dont want to say anything incase she isnt.Ive got my mate to ask her and she just went into a mood then went offline.(facebook) Im comfused what to do tbh.Dump her because shes cheated on me or stay with her.(weve been together 7 months now)
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So sad to read all these comments telling similar stories of relationship difficulties and cheating girlfriends. It seems to be all too common. My ex wife was cheating on me and showed all the signs referred to in the original article. Yes trust your gut because it's telling you these things for a reason (unless you're paranoid because of mental illness, which your girlfriend will try to convince you is the truth. But 99 percent of people aren't that paranoid to the point of mental illness!)
Sometimes I wonder if it's even worth it having relationships when there there are so many cheaters, and it is so painful for the person being cheated on.
my ex showed all signs of that shit and she did cheat on me. that wasnt the reason why we broke up though. first she actually admitted she cheated on me and told me she was so sorry and embarrassed that she did that and wanted me to take her back. i stupidly did. next thing i know she ends up hurting me again by telling me there is this cute guy at her school ( we go different schools ) and she broke up with me. she kept texting me after that since she wanted to be " just friends " and i agreed again. why am i so stupid? because i love her so much. she texts me about how she is going to put love notes in his desk or locker to make him notice her and thats when i get pissed off at her. its like she purposely says that to hurt me. just thinking of her say that makes me want to hurt that guy she likes. months later she wants to get back together with me cause she wasnt noticed by me but i said no. i am still madly in love with her but i know she will just cheat on me again. i cant stop thinking about her and now i feel so depressed without her. she ruined my life. and im only 15 to make things worse. i really need another girl in my life.
GODSCHILD MICHAEL, nice summary
Also signs she's having a nervous breakdown. Just saying.
WILL WE EVER GET INTO A CLEAN RELATIONSHIP....REALLY
How unlucky can i get, my girlfried and i have nothing better than finding a reason to meet up or call eachother or chat up on the net so exciting all the time like we fell in loce jyst yesterday...... Her father disapproves her of this relationship and she says she chooses her parents above me and since then im im breathing to sray alive and nothing other than that ... I hate me fate.
LOLOLOL what a load of bollocks, if its meant to be its meant to be cant fight fate. Plenty more fish in the sea you only live once.
I have a situation: My g\f know my schedule and talked to me about how guys try to hit on her by her work place. She was calling him when I was not there, but he didn't call her. They went out to dinner when I was away and she send him her picture after the dinner and texting him back and forth. She initiated the to call to him 9 out of them time when they talked. She said she loves me and never give her number to any guys. After I found out and she bought my clothes and gift. We sleep together every night. She said he is just a friend and she know he likes her. She told me she called him because she just want to say no to his dinner invitation and they talk to each other everyday because they work in different building but next to each other. What do you guys think what is going here? Please advise. Thanks.
It's all true fellas, i was smart enough to catch her in the act too. even more when they deny it over and over again.
i am very happy
HI guys most girls that cheat on you is bad girls or women they had like 5 boyfriends maybe 10 . most good girls problaly will and can have 2-3 boyfriends before getting to the right guy and have success and marry him...
Hey ppl. I have been with my gf for 3 weeks now. I check her fb when I'm bored and then I see on her wall some guys chatting with her... Im not the jealous type but it kills me when I'm with her and I she receives a message from a guy. I don't know what to do ppl :(
Hey ppl. I have been with my gf for 3 weeks now. I check her fb when I'm bored and then I see on her wall some guys chatting with her... Im not the jealous type but it kills me when I'm with her and I she receives a message from a guy. I don't know what to do ppl :(
This is so crazy!
I think its funny how on articles like these women get all defensive. Great article nonetheless.
Word of advice to the guys out there... Dont think with your penis. You become inferior to women that way and that can only be bad. If you accuse her of cheating she may try to make you feel bad about it questioning your trust in her, this could be a sign that she is cheating too.
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and about 6 months ago we broke up for a while. While we were broken up we had almost no contact whatsoever. Eventually we both went on a few dates and came to the realization that we missed each other tremendously. So we started seeing each other regularly again. One night while lying in bed I asked her, "Not that it matters, because we were split up; did you sleep with anyone" and she replied with a stern "NO", and then she went on to tell me "almost".. That her and 2 guys from work went out to a club drinking one night because they told her she looked pitiful and needed to get out for some fun. She ended up having a bit too much to drink and her and one of the guys started dancing pretty close, getting pretty erotic. She said she hadn't had sex for a while and the tension was there. He started to touch her inappropriately and she shut him down. At least that's what she told me and I believed her at that moment.
Then like 2-3 months later a few other "red flags" pop up, so I watch her behavior even more closely; under a magnifying glass so to speak. Every once in a while I would go through her cellphone and find that all her texts and missed calls were always conveniently deleted. When I went into her work one day months ago this guy was snickering at me with another employee; let's just say he officially pissed me off. I told her about and she said she hated him. That he was pompous and conceited, and a womanizer.. I also asked her if she was going to change our Facebook status over to "In a Relationship" she said no, and that it's not important. That it's just Facebook and she doesn't know why I'm making a big deal. She started buying tighter fitting jeans and pants that show off her assets. And bought like 4 new bottles of perfume as well as a slew of new make-up. After a while I noticed missed calls from this guy. Whenever I would bring it up to her she would get so angry and accuse me of not trusting her and calling me crazy, etc.
Would you agree that these are all red flags, and that MY behavior is not uncalled for?
There's absolutely no excuse for her behavior. If she "almost" slept with this guy 6 months ago, we were only broken up for 3 months and I didn't leave her then, so the matter should be over. We should have moved on from this by now. But the issue was never resolved because they also WORK TOGETHER and are supposedly "friends" now. Every time I tell her how I feel about her talking and texting on the phone to him, going out for drinks when they leave work; how all these things bother me and I don't approve of it. She gets tyrannical and flips out. She says that I don't trust her and that I'm demeaning her character. She says that I don't really love her, that i am crazy and psychotic.. That I need to get over it or she wants nothing to do with me.
There is 100% ZERO reason to call this guy. In addition, she is showing a colossal level of insensibility by this action and a total lack of remorse.
She said she will NOT stop being "friends" with him which means, it is not a lone failure of morals/ethics. She evidently values this man/her desires for him, over me and my relationship with her.
I wish it were otherwise, I am a jealous guy and I do have trust issues but I have given her my trust from day one. These underlying issues have nothing to do with this dissatisfaction and infidelity (and it IS infidelity to communicate and meet with this guy after what they "almost did" or did). I see no other action to take but to leave her, even though tonight I tried talking to her again about it. I asked her to see it from my perspective, I am a 31 year old man who has been around the block more than a few times. Even if she is being totally honest with me about not sleeping with him, and that she truly looks at him as a friend/co-worker that doesn't mean he is on the same page. I may not know what makes women tick and do the things that they do often times but I DO know men. They are wolves. And they hunt the weak. My girlfriend is depressed and weak, and apparently totally unhappy with our relationship. Which is why her talking to this person is leaving a bad taste in my mouth, I feel like he is going to tell her everything she wants to hear and draw her further away from me.
At this point it's not about me "not trusting her", it's about her not respecting my feelings and acknowledging that carrying on any kind of relationship with this guy other than work related issues is a form of infidelity. Emotional infidelity. She is looking to another guy for chemistry that she doesn't feel she is getting from me, even if she feels that it's harmless. It is causing me grief. I told her how I felt and she basically slapped me in my face and gave me the ultimatum; either I get over it or she wants nothing to do with me..
Looks like what we have isn't that important to her. Shame.
Anyone have any advice?
Not all girls cheat.
But all girls love to feel appreciated, desirable, sexy...wanted. And most will lap up attention from a 'competitor', particularly if he ticks most of the boxes.
When that attention is there, they will feed off it, changing their appearance, showing new interests, being more independent (watch for the 'I/me' in converations with others, rather than the 'we/us'), behaving unpredictably, having less physical interest in you, and generally enjoying a whole new boost of confidence and 'independence'. Pretty much the signs outlined in this article. If they are a decent person, they will also show sporadic signs of guilt. But much of this will be subconscious, and, technically, they are not really being 'unfaithful'. So, when your instinct, and observations, lead to doubt them, they will still be able to look you in the eye and confidently deny any misdemeanours.
In most cases this will stop. The infatuation of another man's attention will lose steam: maybe he will give up the chase, she gets to see the 'real' him, or simply she realizes that she is behaving inappropriately and is potentially jeopordizing your realtionship, which is what, deep down, matters to her most. Alternatively, in some cases, she may just decide that she likes her grass a little greener, and that's that. Unlucky.
In conclusion, most girlfriends/partners/wives, at some point, will exhibit many or all of the 'tell-tale' signs listed above. But it does not automatically mean they are sleeping with someone else. They are probably just thinking about it.
I'm not sure if that helps?
guys, listen, women always talk about their intuition. yeah right. men have that too. it is paranoia to some extent but when you have that gut feeling because of certain reasons you have to start questioning. my ex started going off sex (big big sign!), using facebook chat A LOT! (i mean all the time, whilst we were watching movies, TV, even conversing), the distant friend thing is interesting too (happened to me, you think afterwards that youve been so gullible but she hid it soooo well!) people that have affairs will tell half-truths to take their own guilt away a little, so they may even say they were at a gig or movies with that guy, but there was a group of them there (this is supposed to make you feel better). guilt is a funny thing, it comes out differently in all people, and if you truly KNOW your girlfriend you'll know by body langauge that something aint right.
Guys need to own their women, part of our primal instinct… nowadays, we try to be more civilised about it – the thing is, not being as protective is ruining relationships, because you’re letting the woman go!!!
Even if your girl loves you, she cannot say is not attracted to all other guys, otherwise why did she end up liking you??? Think about this, and think good. You are really no different to any other guy, she could learn to love many other guys for their qualities- you’re not better, just different. Same goes for you, it is no different.
Both of you know it is not going to last forever, or at least very unlikely. So why not eye up others in case shit goes down shortly.
Guys need to own their women, part of our primal instinct… nowadays, we try to be more civilised about it – the thing is, not being as protective is ruining relationships, because you’re letting the woman go!!!
Even if your girl loves you, she cannot say is not attracted to all other guys, otherwise why did she end up liking you??? Think about this, and think good. You are really no different to any other guy, she could learn to love many other guys for their qualities- you’re not better, just different. Same goes for you, it is no different.
Both of you know it is not going to last forever, or at least very unlikely. So why not eye up others in case shit goes down shortly.
Guys, its not just the girls who do it, it works both ways, cheat and if throws everything youve worked for out the window, ive done it, yes, and she forgave me tgank god, shes the girl of my dreams. But not everyone is so lucky, if your gonna cheat just break up with them, why beat around the bush and live witg the guilt. I love my girlfriend and I wish I could take it back, every day!
i need help because my gf display all theses actions
honistly this article confuses me because my girlfriend does some of these and she doesnt do anything but follow me around o.O unless im at work and when im at work she apperntly goes to "bed" im kinda nervous if she even is attracted to another guy or even still hanging onto her ex's weve been dating for a couple months now but we've known each other for awhile and honistly like the first one said my gut feeling is telling me that she might be cheating, still attached to her past, or w.e and honistly i dont wanna loose her..........
advice?
what should i do? o.O
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dont f'ckin cheat. whats the point?? move on dump the person why lie? this goes for male and female. i hate peolpe who are with some1 when they dont even care about that person. seriously what the f'ck is wrong with people... cheaters you wil grow old alone. all any1 has in this world is the 1 person to grow old with. im insecure so i have trust issues and i've been dating this girl for 2 years. we are both in college she's in a different highschool now and its a long distance relationship. her mom doesn't know about us bc she's crazy. i love this girl so much we are both seniors and im just worried. i know her mom cant find out bc she would be in alot of trouble but we dont talk much anymore. she says its cuz swimming practice or her mom made her watch a movie or she's out with her mom but idk what she is doing. she even has stopped sending me dirty pictures bc she says she is to shy. would any girl after sending dirty pics before to the same guy be to shy? am i being cheated on does any1 think? i would really be thankful for alot of feed back.
"Joe 2 years ago
Be careful guys, my girlfriend cheated on me for like 6 months before I found out, I got off work early one night and came home to hear her having sex, then I peeked through the window and saw them doing it. After confronting her I found out they did it probably 5 times a week monday thru friday while I was at work, what really pissed me off is he didn't like condoms so he had been doing it without one, and I had regularly been eating her out after I got home from work, I had mentioned a lot of times how wet she was and she would always tell me she was horny because of me, well I had been eating this guys cum out of her for months, might as well have sucked his dick I pretty much did anyway, he is my neighbor and I have to see him every damn day its so embarassing I know he knows I have swallowed his cum."
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHHAHAHAHAH!!!!!
Oh my god!!!
OH. MY. GOD!!! And you stayed with her??
OH MY FREAKING GOD!!!!!!!
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!!
What a douche...
I actually like to be cheated on.. and told about it in great detail. guess that makes me a cuckold lol
Well I have to say this article has nailed it. I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and just over a month ago all of these things started happening. Late phone calls and text messages on her phone, less interest in sex, numerous text messages and calls from me unanswered. I find out a few days ago that she is messing around with someone who was suppose to be my friend? What a shocker.. I rode motorcycles with the guy and even had him at my house to play pool. She was the one girl I would have trusted with my life, loved her with all my heart and soul.
i just want to say to all you saying to yourself i dont have to worry about this because my other half is perfect and i know them inside and out are the ones that need to watch whats going on. very rarley can 2 people come to a understanding of each other that they would never do this thats why 3 in 4 marriages now adays dont last. ill tell you what ive known a girl since the times she was in middle school high school sweethearts all the way through had kids 10 years down the road i can say i was faithful to that women and i had plenty of opportunity. i knew her family through and through we could share anything and trust either in any situation. anyway turns out this woman is like james bond. made twice as much money then i knew of. had 2 cell phones had 2 names for christ sakes and shes running around fucking multiple guys and then coming home and fixing supper and doing laundry. like a secret agent or some shit so you never know ....... and of course i was the bad person cuz a skank will never admit her wrongs just blame it on u . At that point its like a hardcore drug for them. and in my experience men cheat cuz there horny in the moment still messed up but often feel like shit about it after. women get high off of it its like a drug for them and very addicting and they will play to be some sweet innocent little women when really your living with jason bourne
my experience is if you feel it investigate it. check her phone bill and look at the numbers shes calling ........ ask her first and you will know that shes a cheater if u ask to see something that could incriminate her and she gets mad, or trys to make you feel bad for not trusting her she is a lieing cheatin hoe bag. i get questioned about shit sometimes and i have no problem showing someone that i love something if its gonna reassure them and comfort them to feel better and shes the same. so confront her on it straight up and if they get mad 99.9% chance she is cheating
guys get the label no good lieing cheaters and now adays in 2011 its different girls seem to be the big players. somewhere around the early 90's is when women started loosing there class and self respect and self image. its a shame because i dont know if it shall ever return if you find yourself a princess treat her like it because they are a dieing breed.
me ex cheated and didnt have the guts to tell me, i had to find out myself. i was with her 2 and a half years and sfter a year i found msgs on her phone it was the first time i ever checked it i had a gut feeling and i seen msgs froma guy from her work, ibegged her to tell me and she said it was a kiss and thats all and the messages seemed to add up too. we cryed together over it and i said id forgive her as it could of just been a mistake, she was only 18 at the time and i was her first real boyfriend. anyway we spent another year and a half together which was amazing still, holidays plans of moving into our own home everything was perfect we had our moments like most couples but nothing major. i lived with her and her parents for 2 years too. but then 6 weeks ago now she started acting a bit strange seemed to argue with me over the littlest things and was a bit distant, i asked her why and she said i was being silly. but after 8 days of this we had a major arguement and i said do u wanna be with me which she didnt reply. we broke up and its been 6 weeks now, ive found out in that time that she slept with a guy from work who she had been messaging while she was with me and maybe slept with him, i had to find out his adress and followed her and she was there i knocked on and she came out and i asked her to tell me everything she did and i went crazy at her, her parents found out and it caused so much hurt. aswell as this i found out that the time she said she kissed this other guy from work a year and a half before she slept with him too, i cnt deal with it, its ruined all faith i had in girls/women and i will never trust again because of her, and she dont give a fuk one bit what shes done. ive been broken cryed and lost everything. yet she is happy as ever. i hope she gets hurt in a bad way soo she knows how it feels. 2 and a half years which was a yearand a half living a lie, i wasnt perfect but no one deserves this!!
My Girlfriend threntens me to physically injure herself or kill herself, if I ask any questions about her male friends! She refused to have any connections between men. But once I found out that, she had accepted invitation from another male for chatting and she also often exchanged SMS/messaging while she was chatting with me! Once I gave a hint about that, she thretened to kill herslf! Now I dont tust her atall!
im an asian boy....i have come to workin south africa....during that thime i meet with a zimbabwen girl......day by day i fall in her love...like all lovers we kssed eachother we was haveing sex also.....bt one day when we was going to sleep together she say i want to say something to u...i say say....then she say....i have done something wrong...i asked what?? she say i was haveing sex with someone last night...,..she say after knowing this also if u love me i love u too but if u dont...i will not stop u......
im an asian boy....i have come to workin south africa....during that thime i meet with a zimbabwen girl......day by day i fall in her love...like all lovers we kssed eachother we was haveing sex also.....bt one day when we was going to sleep together she say i want to say something to u...i say say....then she say....i have done something wrong...i asked what?? she say i was haveing sex with someone last night...,..she say after knowing this also if u love me i love u too but if u dont...i will not stop u......
I've cheated on my fiance twice now and the only thing on this list I have done is become more distant. If he gave me sex like I wanted then we wouldn't be in this situation. Plus he can't be too mad if he finds out, because he told me to get a fuck buddy... So, I'm just saying fuck it. If he finds out he finds out. I don't really care.
For the last 4 months my girlfriend has been acting weird and makes me feel like she has no interest in me anymore. I have had her come over to and we've had sex and i notice that once in awhile shes come over wet already or sex just doesnt feel tha same like shes fuked someone else.(i took her vcard)she has new moves when we have sex too.......she also has been telling me that she would come over and wake me up after she got back from her college classes about 30 mins away before i have to work but when she gives me a time that she'll be here she always is late by like an hour or more.....and just recently i was getting tha feeling again that she is cheating on me and i confronted her about it without saying u cheated on me or askin her if she did and she asked if i wanted to break up with her or if i was...she told me she was scared and crying i was gunna break up with her when i tell her i love her everyday....does that make any sense????all i can say is i know something is up and she wont tell even if its true and it tears me up to even think that it might be true...
idk wat to think anymore she has also recently not been in tha mood for sex which gives me the red flag and she says its from stress of starting college when i say she has a college bf that i dont know about....checking text and calls can all be hiddin by one button on ur phone that says DELETE....i feel that even if my gf cheated on me i would never know unless she spills tha beans to me or one of her friends which would pry never get around to me....i cheated on her twice and she knows about both and a few month after tha second time she started acting strange so its pry my fault but a promise was made by her saying she never would cheat on me and if thats broken....the new me will not show remorse for women just that they are only good for one thing anymore and thats sex which is sad coming from my mouth cuz i love this girl with all my heart and it seems that all that i have been workin on to try to make things better theres that gut feeling that something is wrong and theres someone else
I found this link on my history as my partner had been looking at it. I think it is totally awful and the advice is terrible. I am not, nor have I ever, cheated on a partner, yet half the content on this page indicates that I have been.
"The RULE is: THERE ARE NO RULES!"
Each situation and relationship is different.
Very often man are crazy about a women - just because of emotional aspect - however if You will not the emotion under consideration - PROBABLY - the women is NOT WORTH YOU!
Just listen Your Heart! Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!Just listen Your Heart!....................
I have been dating my girl for 5yrs now and about 2yrs ago she would comment saying that sex isn't everything in a relationship and she wanted to be more religious . We still did it regularly but she didn't do lead me on anymore after then. In December of ,10 she went off to college and I would see her every other weekend, and we did it every time I saw her. Till we had a huge scare where she didn't have her period for 3 months. After that she said no more, it's been about 6 months now and still have not done it. She is less affectionate and has this mentality that it's inappropriate( she wants to act like an old couple or something where neither of us has a sex drive) she has always told me she preferred guy friends over girls, and back when we first met she had guy friends but not to where it bothered me. Now we are in collage and in a different city she has made new friends mainly guys in this CSA ( catholic society of America) she is now texting these guys at all hours of the day and night, she says she goes out in groups with these people. I thought she went to church and then met up with these people but it turns out a guy comes and picks her up. Earlier last night around 1:30am a diff guy calls her and asks her if she wants to go to a party he is having. I was there with her along with one of her only girl friends here and she asked her if she wasted to go, her friend said that she would if my gf wanted to. My gf was iffy then asked me if I wanted to go, I have a feeling that she would have said yes if I was not around. She does not drink or do drugs, she has never cheated on me or at least I have not found. I believe in hope for the best and expect the worst... And some times I do let the worst get the best of me.
Should I suspect something?
I feel jealous and suspicious.
These people she hangs around with are with the csa but does that mean that they are really willing to respect her and her relationship. Can I trust these religious people...
I have found one sign that your girlfriend is cheating and that is her attitude. More to the point, if she is constantly over dramatizing problems between the both of you or consistently instigating arguments.It is her way of avoiding responsibility for what she is doing by driving you crazy getting you to react or, leave. That way, "your the bad guy!"- perfect irrational female logic.
Mmmm I see what your saying thanks
ass they say men are the bad guys this wrong more than 70% of woman cheat than men 50% so woman are the bader side ill tellu about men we are trust worthy and have t fully trust and wouldnt cheat on you unless we got the intuition that you were cheating on us so by this fact is that girl actually cheat more than guys in these days because of the creation of protection so in my view woman are the bader of us two not men as they all the time its actually not true men beleave in love more than woman do eventho woman show there phemon side men are more love worthy because in mens view of love is to trust/commitment/time sharing/and of course true love that is hard to come by in this day becuase of all the cheating but the defence in men girls dont away with it becuase guys instincts and intuitions are actually more better than girls reliese becuase i am but im natrually spuritual and have a good nature and i get vibes just like that and thats the thing about guys we can get vibes better than girls its our way of figuring this out then we sort out with logic
If you lets say went fishing like i did one night and found a recorder the next day that you seen your 3 yr old son playing with before you left going fishing and just hit play on last thing recorded and hear what seems to be your wife breathing heavy and slight moans but there is background noise. Lets also say you confronted her with it like i did and she freaks screaming she aint did nothing and then takes a swing at you, picks up your phone and smashes it on the side of the house. Now this is a woman that tells me she loves me so much, loves me more than life itself, but never did listen to it with you to try in make sense of it. I mean if she didnt do nothing and she loves and cares about me wouldnt she want to help me,Sorry but im not the greatest of writers. Can anyone tell me there thoughts
Hi. lots of girls say i'm hot & sexy' Then you find out she is doing it with an old man & his dog of a wife? maybe a blow up doll is the best girl
I agree with the 'trust ur gut', Ive been having that alot....But I still love my gulfwend..I know she looks at other guys at times..most of the time she around them bcoz her friends are..I cant stop her but I can always remind her that I love her & that I pray to God that she & I wouldnt do anything we'd regret later in our lives...Men & Women are no different wen it comes to cheating....we all have that nature..the least we could do is be honest with each other & live with the consequences & move onn with our lives, whether it be together or apart..life is as such!!!
Like they say...."Sometimes you've just got to go through the wrongs, to find the right".
well how do you if she cheating when her phones ring and its a dude and when i ask her who it is she doesnt say anything but she also dont reply to his txt
can you tell through having sex that girl has been with someone
leave those kin o' grls!
and they are the cheap ones! my girlfriend cheated on me, breaking up with her is the next step.. guys dont waste ur time thy are just girlss. 10 is to 2 the ratio i guess.
yeah she did it. The gut feeling gets u first, because you love her.
ive been cheated on loads, and i knew about it, but i lvoed her to much to let go :/
Lets say she does cheat, for example I'm only 20 and my GF has cheated on me 3 times with other people, and still talks to them. on myspace she was a hoe, facebook idk yet. Anyways LOVE what is love? Once you feel it you never stop "loving" for her/him. Yes my gf is a cheater but she still "loves" me. Most of you say (no she don't she cheated duhhh). Not true! If your gf/bf cheats you still have that 1/100 chance she will do it again. Let me explain; I'm from romania and when I lived in romania I had a wonderfull GF, so I thought. She cheated on me so I did what most people do which is "brake up" a few weeks later she said please take me back I will never do it again, I said no you cheated, she says please I still really love you, I said F-off. A few weeks wen't by and I told her I was leaving, to move to indiana. She was so depressed I could tell. Well after about 2 munths of me living here, I get a letter from one of my goooooood friends saying she shot herself! I will always blame my self for it, but it finily made me relize that it don't matter what they done, who they done, where, when, how! Even if their is no trust. Make that grow, because "YOU NEVER NO WHAT YOU HAVE TILL YOU LOST IT!" This girl I'm with now after me cheching her cheat, I gave yet another chance this was the 3rd time. I said this is finil no more or your "dead to me". She hasn't cheated again. Well for I drove my self crazy putting keyloggers on all the computers hired an investagter. A full year and a haft wen't by and she's kept to her word. I'm not saying she won't do it again but learn to "accept" and "forgive". Yes she cheated BUT BUT BUT everything is ment to happen or it would'nt have happened at all. I look at my self and say what if. Ok she cheated on me I'm still with her, or brake up with her. Well lets compair the 2. BRAKE UP- You ended it all, she is no more. You go out and find another GF/BF. How do yo no- FORGIVE- Stay with her because how do you no she WILL do it again, and you two get married, before that you have no trust with him/her, well lets build that up from scrach. Brand new, as time go by the cheater will come to relize what she could have lost for GOOOOOOOOD. As more time go by, it will make your realationship extremely STRONG. Because you both will no how to handle everything life throws at you! Thank of it this way... "True love CANNOT be SEEN or TUCHED it must be FELT by the HEART!. You always gotta know theirs always after some time PEOPLE DO CHANGE! P.s sorry about spelling... If anyone wants to chat let me no... Dragon-fly6676@hotmail.com and remember ya follow your gut but whats more powerful YOUR HEART!
i already realize that my girlfriend is cheating on me and ditched her may be its only because of that gut feeling.... but she still calls me and tries to convince me . what should i do?
Simple guys if you have naked videos and pictures of your GF use them against her , email that stuff to her university proffesors , her boss , her facebook friends and destroy her life , cause i know many of you cried a lot.
I'm happily married now :)
Can someone help me? My girlfriend for 3 years is showing almost all of these signs, does this meen she is cheating on me? Even when I ask her she says " I have better respect for myself, is that how u think of me as a slut" can someone help me plz, I need to know if she is cheating on me
I've always been told I should be a detective. I have a nack for finding things out. My girlfriend cheated on me 2 years ago, with a friend I knew since he was born. I was 22 he was 18. My 25 year old mrs decided to fuck him whilst I was in the flat. I didn't clock on. But attitudes changed he was round everytime I was at work. Me and the mrs continued to argue and sex that was pretty much 3 times a day everyday went to 0. I knew something was up quickly and kept myself open to everything. I knew she was cheating but not who it was with. One night I came home from work her and my daughter were fast asleep in the same bed so I grabbed a bear and my laptop. Only to open it on an unclosed convo on facebook. Guess what I found out. But do you know what makes it worse I gave her a second chance now she's doing it again I found out very quickly tho. 3 days and by my best friend Facebook. This time it's someone different so whilst I'm sitting in the bath writing and thinking about how to deal with this she is in the lounge wondering why the hell for the past 4 hours I've given her the cold shoulder
Is sleeping with someone while in a relationship considered cheatingg?
Cheating happens women do it...they are just better at lying about it. Every man who is sleeping with more than one woman can explain it. What makes you think that they are only sleeping with you?!
This is such nonsense. Just like another woman who posted here, I exhibit some of these behaviors and I have never cheated in my life and don't intend to start. There are many circumstances that can lead to any of these behaviors. I'm not saying that women that cheat don't do these things, but no everyone that exhibits these behaviors are cheating. I'm sure so many women are getting blamed for cheating when they never did because of articles like this.
Here's the real deal. The gut will lie it will lead u to assume ever lil move is false but at that time it is when u listen to your heart if it crys out for her then that's when it get hard. U will run back and forth from being mad to being alone the only way to know is do ur reserch some call it jealousy but I call it trying. It's easy to fight them on this and run to the next snatch but you will always wonder. I was married 10 years and after the 7th year she started to whT I call have spring fever. When new friends new activities new. New. New! I did my own privet detective and took pics of her doing it all. Picture u taking pics from another mans window. Well it killed me but I won my house,kids,everything in court. 2years later I'm remarried and it seems like the fever set in onthis one well it's not my first rodeo so wish me luck. Oooo women now days will lie and blame and accuse but if your real and u know ur a good guy then be that good guy just do ur research! Goodluck fellas
After I read this article I went "OH MY GOSH", especially after I saw the pic about the husband coming home. Thanks to the author and the existence of google. Just caught my GF cheating and after I saw this article, I really, seriously, feel alot better.
Cheers! :D
This is an interesting article, but being someone who works in private security I have the following to keep tabs on my gf.
A gps planted onto her car, that lets me track from work or home where shes going.
Hidden cameras in our apartment she doesn't know about.
And I have access without her consent to her emails, list of received calls and calls shes made.
This lets me know if anything is happening.
Girlfriend said she needed time to "think about us", relationship wise when just this morning she was fine being with me and happy. Then later on I find out she's going out with her "friend" and is not coming home. Cheating or not? No idea..., but I sure am done with her.
I cheated on my ex. It was very unexpected and definitely not planned. I told him the next day because I couldn't stand the fact of what I did.
However, my ex boyfriend WAS my everything. I made sooo many sacrifices for him, moved out of state with him. I was working two jobs and playing the role of the "house wife"; cooking dinner, washing clothes, cleaning the place, etc. And, you know what... nothing was EVER good enough. I was also a very successful signed model with three agencies, two in LA and one in San Diego. In fact, the last project I worked on was the music video, Soulja Boy's, "Speakers Going Hammer". -Look it up! :-) I was one of the lead fly girls.
***Anyways***
He would constantly tell me on a regular basis, what a piece of s*** I was. How I was worthless because I "still" didn't make enough money to support myself (in Los Angeles). He would tell his friends, I was worthless, lazy, and "the hottest girl in LA, that couldn't find a decent job"...that my modeling career was a waste of time, etc. Then, he friends would constantly talk s*** too..Sometimes he would call my mom and tell her I was worthless AND...because my mom is sooo F'D up too from previous experiences she would side with him. It's like he was trying to turn everyone against me. He would be angry with me and call me all kinds of names because I couldn't take him to some modeling assignments. He was VERY controlling. Everything I did as far as modeling he felt the need to control. In fact, the day I left him...he spit in my face 3 or 4 times...and punched me in the ribs (And then....begged me to stay). My brother told me that "IF I DID NOT LEAVE RIGHT NOW" he would come to LA and drag me out of there and if he had too he would beat him down to get to me. (And, my brother is a very peaceful, happy person).
* I honestly don't remember 1 day we were happy. I constantly drank just to get along with him. I can't even explain how much of a dark hole I was in. We constantly fought about EVERYTHING and somehow, I was always the B***h.
For the longest time, I felt like everything was my fault. I did feel really bad about what I did. And, no one deserves that... Which is why I told him immediately. But, I knew I couldn't be with him anymore so, I left.
Anyway, to conclude...even though what I did was wrong. I am happy I did it. Because, to risk something like that for one night with another person..I felt like I had gained so much. Such as self respect and new found confidence and a sense of happiness. I am still a little shocked by what actually happened..I was soo blinded. I really feel that if I hadn't of done that I would still be in LA believing he will be different, "if I just make a little more money". And, being abused. I now really have no modeling career because my self confidence was completely destroyed being with him. I gained weight (then) and became a drunk.
Now, I am in full recovery, seeking therapy and new-found un-toxic relationships.
-Some people say I deserved what he did when he found out.
dont be a pussy and stay with her if she dont care about you enough to stay faithful she wont care if you left her lol
THE BEST WAY TO GET REVENGE ON A CHEATING HOE
I used to love when an ex cheated on me... it meant I could screw one of her friends regardless of how she felt(you throw away my feelings I shit on yours). Even better yet, the last girl that cheated on me I nailed her mom a few times after we broke it off. Her mom was married for 20 some years. The mom divorced the dad and went for me I nailed her a few more times, then I turned the mom down.
The moral of this story if your going to cheat break up with your partner first.
saves a lot of pain,
or if your are going to cheat make sure the guy you cheat on isn't attractive and a little sick in the head because he will ruin your life and your relationships of your family.
guys if a girl cheats on you I've always done and said that instead of sitting around crying go screw a friend or a family member of hers Its paying her back.
Its getting revenge with out the prison time.
or just walk away but its waaaaay more satisfying to do the other
AND NEVER GIVE A SECOND CHANCE SHELL BUTT FUCK YOU AGAIN \
and Joe the 18th commenter from two years ago who eats his next door neighbors cum break the guys legs with a bat take a few of your friends with ski mask and fuck that dude up if you wont i will for all men plz avenge us
Well, Girls give gifts whenever they feel guilty, they want to make you feel easy and comfotable. Moreover this, its a distraction, like giving a small kid a lolly pop. Guys do so, when they want some favor, mostly the sexual one. But hey, Girls can't resist their gush of harmones when they are attracted to someone.
And girls take RUles less seriously. They don't feel bad while copying notes, cheating in exams, breaking traffic signals or breaking hearts. All they want to prove is :
These are not my RULES so I don't Follw...?
My gf of 2 yrs has been acting strange these past few months. We have sex about twice a month when we use to do it constantly. She has a female friend she works with who she known now for 3 years. She told me that her friend told her, while stoned, that she wanted to have sex with her even though she had a boyfriend herself. My gf told her that she wasn't interested and that she was with me. Her friend didn't care. She told my gf that it's not like she was married to me. However, my gf still told her that she wasn't interested and so her little pathetic dog of a friend backed off- so I'm told. I told her to ditch the bitch. I mean, if someone is gunning for your glands and they don't care if you are already taken, kick their ass out - doesn't matter who if it's a long time friend. A "long time friend" won't try to steal you from someone else. Period. So, like I said, I told her that her friend is in my "bad books" and for her to "ditch the bitch" because I know I would and I have. I ditched people who said they liked me in such a way that they wanted to stop at nothing to get and try to sleep me. But, she won't ditch her 'so called' little friend. She hasn't talked about her for three months and won't let me meet her or her boyfriend which "apparently" put his arm around her one time while we were dating. She told me she pulled away and he said he didn't mean anything about it. I told her I was going to break his legs and if I came into a room one day and saw that, I would run right for him and drive him into the ground without breaking stride. She doesn't want me to meet her "friend and her boyfriend". It's been two years now and I still haven't met them. And just the other day she was in the kitchen and when I came up behind her, I heard her talking to some guy on the phone. She didn't know I was right behind her and then I startled her. She told me she was talking to her son. I know her son's voice. That did NOT sound like her son. If that happens again, I will take the phone from her hands and ask who I'm talking to. If it IS in fact her son, I will apologize and tell him I thought he was someone else. I'm thinking of giving her and I take a lie detector test - so she knows that I have nothing to hide and so I know she has nothing to hide. Never mind this so called "You will just have to trust me" crap. This is the 21st century ok? Infidelity is running amok. Ok? Infidelity is at a pandemic high. If the person has nothing to hide, they will take the detector. Used the detector some women in the past - five total. Others didn't need the detector because I didn't get no gut feeling something was wrong. Anyway, of the five women who took the detector, one passed and four failed. Two other short relationships I had, one that last 6 months and another that lasted for a 1 yr period ended when they too acted really strange and distant on several counts. Asked them if they were cheating or seeing someone else in hopes of something more etc. They denied it. Again and again. Yet they kept acting suspicious and stories didn't add up. So I told them that I was going to have them take a lie detector test. Gave them reasons- seeing as how infidelity as at an all time explosive high. They both declined the test. Their excuse? They "felt insulted". I told them, again, of the stats and the signs which matched their signs. They denied infidelity and said they had nothing to hide. So I told them that if if they had nothing to hide, they would take the test. They refused. So I fired their asses out of my life. Trust is a hard thing to come by these days. It can't be just simply given on a silver platter. Offer your partner "the detector" if they have these tall tailed signs as was listed in the article. See what they say? Of course make sure that you take the test too. It has to go both ways. Not just anybody can fake through a detector. Today is different ppl. Trust is just a word that needs substance. You want my trust? Ditch your bitch and don't act so fricken suspicious! And maybe don't act so defensive when I get paranoid and want to see your messages and stuff. If you have nothing to hide, give me your phone! People talk about trust issues. Excuse me??? Look at the world around you ppl. If your partner is cheating on you, or at least lying to you about talking to someone else, when she says she isn't, kick her ass out. If she is lying to you about that, what else is she lying to you about? If she is cheating on you, kick her ass out. There is NO excuse for cheating. None. It's a very selfish act - probably as equal as homicide - from a psychological perspective. And for those of us who have been cheated on btw, we know the signs. IF a relationship comes to an end, do NOT restart it again. If it was meant to WORK, infidelity would NOT have happened. Period.
When a woman cheated on me, I put her name up and the name of the person she was cheating with all over the Internet and made You Tube videos about it. Did that with three cheaters. Others I just booted out of my life and moved ahead. That was just one out of several ways I made an example of them. People like to play games? Be chock full of games. That way, they will know not to screw with you. Not saying to use violence. There are other means. Treat people the same way on how you want to be treated. Be nice to someone who is nice to you. And screw someone back who is screwing with you. Fair is fair.
I guess there was a time my gf did things to please me. Not anymore. Nothing noticeable on the radar anyway. I think that it's more or less "whatever" with 'her' mindset. She's not crude or mean or complaining. She's just slacking off. It's like she has her time and energy on something else.
I really need your advise please! please! please!
I'm very depressed and crazy now.
My girlfriend and I were 5yrs and was off for a month now.
We have a child and we're both 26 y/o
I do flirt with girls just as other men does, but when it comes to having a serious affair with other girls, it's a "NO" for me cause i love her with all my heart and mind
This started when I got jealous with other guy because on how she showed concerns and interest for him. She told me it was nothing but friendship even though I have seen on her facebook how she likes this guy.. And when i found out, she created another account just to have a conversation with this guy and hide it from me,but later on I found it again..she apologize to me and accepted it but i'm in pain and assume that it was nothing because i love her.
Last September, she slept with this guy. I'm tired of the lies she's saying to me. I'm very hurt on how this things happened so fast because i'm away with her and my kid working in other country to provide their needs and planning to get married with her.
After that, i broke up with her.. She told me to come back and start a new life because she still loves me and promise to change.
I still love her upto now and hurting so much when i think about what happen. honestly, i want to go back with her after all, it's just because i love her. But i'm afraid she'll do it again.
I want to know if our relationship still worth fighting for and if it's worth going back to her..
@CrazyThoughts, Your thoughts aren't crazy. You're probably going through hell on earth right now. I hope everything works out for you and your child. Do yourself a favor and move on. If you give her another chance you will only prolong the feeling. Every time you see her you will see him. You will know what her judgment is capable of(maybe that's just me though). Your relationship is like a big diamond, its a valuable thing, but once someone cheats its like putting a crack through it. You still have it but its flawed. You will always see it and you can't erase it. You're even afraid she will do it again. Come on man. You're 26 just like me, I'm weak as hell emotionally, if I can get over it so can you. Talk to your friends and take your mind off of it.
As for some other comments I saw:
Don't be a fool, there are women out there who will look you in the eyes and lie.
i think my gf is cheatin on me cuz she left me home and went to a party with anuther guy and shes bein acting really funny not the same she did before so can she be cheatin or is it just in my head and alot of ppl r sayin tht she is and a few ppl r sayin shes not. wat should i do?????????????????
well i wish i had read this sooner before finding out i was being cheated on... o well young love i guess, we were 14 almost 15 :P
My gf is offering sex to me...how should i notice that she is loyal to me....Is sex is important for a true love???????
Plzzz reply me......
Listen, the first point on this recommendation list is trust your gut. There is no substitute for it. I had an affair with a woman for two years, I didn't feel good about it, so i got divorced. She was divorced. We stayed together for another 4 years, not living together, but seeing each other. I always thought it was weird that she didnt sleep over, and could only see me certain days of the week. Anyway, my gut told me something was wrong, and i just couldnt believe in the relationship 100%. I got suspicious and did a background check on her. Turns out she had remarried 2 years earlier while still seeing me! Anyway, I told her to fuck off. Point is, trust your gut, and when she denies it, then pursue your own inquiry. If she gets offended by you looking into things, then she is cheating, any woman wants her man to trust her, and she should go to great lengths to assure you that there isnt a problem.
if you know there was cheating ..why dont you fcuking move on rather than being so . like a pussyy...isf cheated leave it and trash it .girls are whore at time but not all
You got it all wrong
First, there are always 3 sides to a story. Second, if she doesn't want sex, it's your fault. If she has always enjoyed sex with you but now, doesn't want to, then it's definitely something you did or didn't do.
i love my girlfriend very much...bt 1.5 years ago our relation was broke up, bt i still love with her... our 7 years relation was break up. i tried myself to forget her bt i can"t. i loved her in past, love her in present & will love her in future also...........i still love her till my last breath of my life....i can"t live with out her.......
I got feeling my girl is cheating on me because she always spends time in the mall and once I asked if she wants to go out for dinner she said no, when over sudden I went to the the mall and she was there, (BY HER SELF) with a drink in her hand, I asked what you doing here I thouht u said you not going out today,she then replied oh my friend asked to go mall with her.
awkward because she was in by her own.
Someone told me shes been f****d before when I asked her if she had sex, she couldn't look into my eye and had worried face saying no, then 2 days later she said I made her cry of what i said OBV i didn't believe her.
until now I haven't dumbed her yet... please can someone help me
My girl exudes as many signs that she is doing something extra as she does that she isn't.
Whether my girl is cheating or not cheating, her actions basically deserve the same outcome.
I have been with her for 6 years, and things have never been altogether right. So far as has been admitted, she has cheated physically twice, and I have once. I lost interest in cheating because life is too serious...and I am too mature to ignore where it all ends. Those that we cheat with "do not" deserve more than those who have been by our sides.
My girl admitted to me that she was conflicted because she found herself interested in other women. I told her to explore the thought. Now I said the thought...not the actions. Cheating is cheating, and she later tried to say that getting or allowing another female to grab on her ass was innocent and that I shouldn't care about such things. The heart don't know the difference between male, female, nor dog or cat. So she already has it twisted.
Not for nothing, my girl enjoys using other people for things she and I cannot do for her. She wants the niceties of having all of her options available, but would die if I did the same. Twisted right?!?
I have reached the point of not knowing what to do with the situation, because while I love her...I feel like she is cheating life. She doesn't grasp the reality, nor hang out with those who might give her a clue...that she has a good man and that we are hard to come by.
I am also on the losing end because the less I do and the less I put myself out there, the more she simply sees me as old reliable. So in order for her to pay the attention that she used to, I have to become someone I don't want to be.
Some may say its not worth it, just leave her...but we live together. Times aren't easy like that. But at the same time, waiting on her to treat the situation like it needs to be treated is likewise something that may never happen. You can't just wait someone out...because that wait may be in vain. I only get sex about 4 times per month from her also.
I need to get a life...but what kind of man would I be and what kind of life do I need to get? I just need like situationed people to hang with...because I don't want anything where I am screwing someone else over. I just want an equal situation considering that I am not going anyplace.
I am reading most of your comments, and I am telling you that I can write a book. For those that say the list is bullshit...I say you are delusional. If anything, I'd say that the list is way too "under" comprehensive. This list exists with people under normal circumstances. How about my girl is in the music industry...and is also very attractive with a banging body that she maintains. She gets hit on across the board by everyone. So I do know and realize that there is no possible way she can entertain everything that comes her way...but at the same time, it only takes one. Now she knows that I "should" be the one for her, just based on my overt loyalty to her while she has exuded the opposite...but some people refuse to do any business with you whatsoever if you don't leave them with the impression that they at least have a chance.
But she remains so secretive about her life/world. Could she be doing so because of keeping all of her options available? I also know that she drinks too much...and when she does, completely brain dumps most of what she has said during arguments.
So many things have happened...I can write a book just about her.
Hey umm how can u really tell if ur gf is really cheating? I mean she tells me one thing then the next time it's something different! For example she was going to her friends house and she told me her friends husband was home alone and she called her friend and asked her how far she was from her house and how long until she will get back, then she told me that she was only 30 mins away! And my gut was telling me that she was lying, so I didn't believe her. Then she said do you want to ask her yourself? And I said call her again and put it on speaker, and she did... The answer I heard was she was an hour and thirty mins away!!
Tell me, does she want to be with her friends husband alone before her friend comes back?
I mean there are some other storys too but I jus need to know if she is cheating!!
What about if your gf doesn't want to talk about it and jus leaves? She said she doesn't want to argue about it because it's jus stupid, on how I don't believe her all the time when she says she's not cheating on me!
I really need to know!!
i think my girlfriend is cheating. i have that gut feeling. she has cheeted before and when i bring up the subject she getts pissed off and acts like im always accusing her of stuff but if she gets so mad like that it just makes me think that she is even more because thats what i wud do. do you think she is cheating? she also deletes all her text messages. and is overly protective of me. she flips out if i even look at a girl much less talk to one. do you think she is? please tell me i really wanna know!!
@mick haha I know whatcha talking about! It's kinda the same with me! Haha and I'm still searching for that answer too!!
Mick, I'm going through the exact same thing, I would love to know too bro. Hope someone has an answer
My GF does all these things.. And to add to it she says his name during sex with me.... She told me its more sexy when I have a different name... And as soon as she starts saying Josh.... she immediately starts going crazy with sex and ha an orgasm almost every 5 seconds...... And thoughout that she is closing her eyes
Well my wife did the unthinkable on evening and i found out and came home from work the next day after finding out and threw all of her belonging out of the room we were renting onto the lawn and packed my chit and moved that same day. We kept our sex relationship over the next three years meeting often, going out and sex. Always great hot passionate sex. Mean while after her bad deed, i started seeing someone else and we had a kid and lived together but i kept seeing my wife on the side for the three years because we had that strong love and sex! Recently my wife finally started seeing someone after three years of waiting for me. So i kicked the girl out and told wifey i was ready to be loyal and 100% committed. But to find out after promising she wasn't gonna sleep with this new dude anymore, and was gonna move home, she was lying and still sleeping with the dude and for the most part prostituting herself to him because he was kicking the money and his car out to her on a reg. I got furious and finally got the dudes number. Called him and told him all the bad shit she was saying about his small genitalia, lazy fat ass, unattractive, dorky, and just a ton of bad shit she told me about him, and his terrible sex skills, which she said were nothing near mine in every aspect of the word! So he got pissed at what i told him and how she was just using him for money and the car, and i told him that i hit it in the back seat of his car, so he flipped and cut her off totally! No more money, jewelry, car etc. Now she doesnt have him or me. And she has no job or money and stuck living in Patterson Park Baltimore with an old prick roomate who ide like to beat his ass. All she had to do was be completely honest with me and i was going to sit back as she tryed to use him until Christmas to get her sons christmas gifts bought. Now she told me she wasnt screwing him anymore, come to find out, he said thats all she wanted to do when she was over there, and walking around his house naked all the time and telling him she loved him and all this crazy shit! So anyway, i cut her off and he did to. Now shes fugged royally!! And im laughing my ass off about it! Moral to the story folks. No matter how much you think your holding your old lady down and thinking that she will never break from your awesome penis or tongue, she will do anything when it pertains to getting what she wants or needs monetarily or whatever! And i thought she was loyal as an old dog. I really did. We had such a strong bond and history man. I am severly hurt but im hanging in there. Its a serious hit on a mans pride when his chic is banging someone else and your powerless over it. He gave me his work he was done with her after i leaned on his ass a bit, so if i find out hes bullshitting me, ill probably go bye his place and maybe even smack thsi shit out of him just for lying to me and thinking im a little punk of something! God i hope he doesnt think that because NOTHING GETS BY ME. I find out everything because i do my homework! I cover all bases. But i do believe the dude is done with her, especially after what i told him in detail! Still laughing my ass of to this day that she fugged herself all around and thought she could play me yet again!! WRONG!! Men,,, If you think in your guts shes doing it,,,SHE IS!Dumb the douche bag! Ha
My girlfriend has started acting weird since last monday..
She stopped giving me hugs and kisses, she seems kinda uninterested in me, she doesn't want sex with me when its possible, she says its because she should have her period a few days ago, but still haven't had it, when I wanted to cuddle with her she said she had to go to the toilet, then she started to talk alot and didn't go to the toilet..
there's alot of other shit too to write, but I know this won't get read if its too long, so what do yall think?? is she cheating or something??
I think its weird, she was so about me, wanted to be my girlfriend then suddenly she changes and seems totally uninterested, when she was so about me she told her sister that she liked my personality best and I haven't changed my personality in the couple days...
it's useful...thanks
excellent job sir.... by this more guys wil be happy.... me to happy.... girls paap
Well, playing a game with the hearts,,,scary games !!
My little story :
i met a girl 6 months before. Had nice communication in mail, skype all the time. She was in different country than i am. And when she move to the country i am living, i thought i should help her as much as i can. She played with me much to think that i am her mr right. Anyway, i felt her for the first time that i felt a girl. I couldnot sleep just thinking of her, while i do something i just think of her. I tried to manage for her as much as i can from head to toe. Well, while she was in that situation she cares me much. But while she found that she is stable she start bahaving differently and i figured out she start to like a guy. Well, mystery happens, i stop communicating after knowing i am in crush. i stopped communication for 4 weeks and then i lost myself to see her again and she told me she is over with the guy. Anyway, i was being tried to think her just as a friend even, cause i cant stop seeing her. I was althe time in bad mood. Anyway , again we starting having a good communication. Two days back, we had a dinner night, and as my phone was down so i used her phone for a while. And i found she still communicating the guys. Actually, i feel i like her, but i think i could quit her, but i cant. I read books, articles, friend consultant nothing works. I am becoming the most horrible guy in my city not getting over a girl, Eventhough i am sure she will keep cheating and take favor of me. Even she is having a birhtday soon, i am not sure should i give her a wish personaly or not !! Amd what should i ultimately do with these things, !! i was not able to concrete my feeling in this para, but i think somebody who has faced this situation could help me !!
Damn this was totally on the head of what happened to me, so much so that i'd kind shakey remembering it :/
what a crappy article! total wastage of one's time.
I got bored with my gf so the fact she was cheating on me at least gave me something to get horny about. It's not all bad.
This article is very good, but it doesn't explain women who simply have one night stands. I let my gf go to a party once. It was a party where everyone knew her and me. I had to work that night. Two days later I find out from a friend that my girl made out with one of the guys at the party and took took him to his car to have sex with him.
Throughout the years people have saying that men are cheaters. I beg to differ. Women have been doing the same thing as men. However, they are a lot smarter about it. A real man will never take another woman into his house and have sex with her, but a woman can go as low as doing that to her guy.
Been there..been through this all, and I'll say the single most important 2 facts to keep in mind are YOUR GUT INSTICT and SIMPLE LOGIC. They will never let you down.
In any relationship go with the flow..enjoy it..but be aware of red flags and dont ingore them. Know what you will put up with and what you wont..and stay true to that.
As far as lying goes...The truth is always simple..it does not require a long drawn out explanation, it does not change or warp into something else and it is not hard to recall.
People that are PLAYING you will always turn it around on you and make it seem like your the one with trust issues and insecurities rather than have an adult conversation about the supposed situation.
Most times you will never catch the person that is cheating on you in the act..but there will always be CIRCUMSTANTIAL EVIDENCE..97% of all convictions in our courts are on circumstantial evidence..basicaly if it acts like a duck walks like a duck sounds like a duck..GUESS WHAT! in all likelyhood..it's a duck.
The problem most people fall into is that they DONT WANT TO BELIEVE what there instincts and facts are telling them...dont fool yourself..it is what it is.
People that are serial cheaters (some times people just slip up and give into there animal nature...does not make it right..just means that sometimes good people make mistakes) all exhibit certain SOCIOPATHIC BEHAVIORS..the ability to completely shut down there conscience, feelings of guilt while commiting the act of being unfaithful..But unlike true sociopaths they will experience guilt later..and this guilt will come out in various ways.
The real kicker is that most people that are experiencing that kind of guilt will betray themselves to you...they will actualy tell you..that they cheated on you..you just have to be listening..you usualy have to read between the lines.
Example:
I went out with this woman I met on a dating site, one weekend I wasnt able to come see her(was working overtime)was going to see her that coming thursday..That wendsday night she called me and went into this long story about how she bumped into her dresser and got a bruise on her chest and about how some guy she went on a date with one time texted her out of the blue and then ended the conversation with telling me how glad she was that we had a trusting relationship and didnt have insecurities...
In that conversation..she went into extreme detail about every point she made..gave me way to much information..and as the week progressed..the stories kept slightly changing.
She felt guilty..so without realizing it or not..she told me..lucky for me I was listening.
Before I go I just want to touch on one last thought..and this is the crux of the whole matter..
You are probably never gonna know why she did it or with whom...she will never(or he)admit to doing anything wrong..you could strap these people to a chair and light them on fire and they still wouldnt confess the truth...they cant..because to do so at this point would be saying you were right about them and they would have to admit that they have some serious flaws in there character.
So there will never be any closure...Maybe you cared for this person? but it does not matter..you walk away, learn from your experience.
You dont have to be bitter because of this..you just get smarter.
thanks for listening to me..good luck all.
im also married a woman older then me many time i saw in facebook that she hiding her neckless but im not seing any thing only when i got all proof that she cheating i swear to god i have sharp army knife also with me where n when i will slughter her infront of people even who come for saving her n the guy i will pull knife from his stumeck to his neck i will cut
im also married a woman older then me many time i saw in facebook that she hiding her neckless but im not seing any thing only when i got all proof that she cheating i swear to god i have sharp army knife also with me where n when i will slughter her infront of people even who come for saving her n the guy i will pull knife from his stumeck to his neck i will cut
well, too late now..
Goddamn you gotta be kidding me!!
Seriously, my fiancee is showing 5 out of those 8 symptoms!
I don't have any trust issues or something like that. But I just have strange feeling for the last 4 months, that something isn't right. She isn't the same anymore. She changed a lot. She always want to know what I'm doing, what time I'll be home and why I'm not answering my cell. And the strangest part is that she never answers her phone. For example while she is staying with her nieces, she can't answer my phonecall or message because she finds that rude. I respect that, but when I'm at a family visit she always acting like what u doing, are you drinking blablabla. I know that this is also a sympthon for the fact that she could be cheating herself and therefore is hearing me out. The reason I can't answer my phone always, is because of my work. She is a student , bubt most of the time she's sitting lazy at home. What could her reason be? The reason I'm still with her is because of the fact that I want to know what the truth is. It's not that I would have a problem with leaving her when she is cheats. I'm just driving myself crazy, because I want to know what the real story is.
Does anyone has some tips? I could really use some help to solve this sort riddle.
p.s. My apologies for my bad english, I'm from Holland.
Goddamn you gotta be kidding me!!
Seriously, my fiancee is showing 5 out of those 8 symptoms!
I don't have any trust issues or something like that. But I just have strange feeling for the last 4 months, that something isn't right. She isn't the same anymore. She changed a lot. She always want to know what I'm doing, what time I'll be home and why I'm not answering my cell. And the strangest part is that she never answers her phone. For example while she is staying with her nieces, she can't answer my phonecall or message because she finds that rude. I respect that, but when I'm at a family visit she always acting like what u doing, are you drinking blablabla. I know that this is also a sympthon for the fact that she could be cheating herself and therefore is hearing me out. The reason I can't answer my phone always, is because of my work. She is a student , bubt most of the time she's sitting lazy at home. What could her reason be? The reason I'm still with her is because of the fact that I want to know what the truth is. It's not that I would have a problem with leaving her when she is cheats. I'm just driving myself crazy, because I want to know what the real story is.
Does anyone has some tips? I could really use some help to solve this sort riddle.
p.s. My apologies for my bad english, I'm from Holland.
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GTIK
Okay so here's the story. One night my girlfriend told me that she was going out with her roommate and boyfriend. Being the boyfriend that I am, I love spending time with her so I wanted to come see her before she went out. She said she was going out to the bars at 9pm(which was clue #1. nobody on a college campus goes out that early.). But even with that first thought, I went over there anyways. She was acting really weird while I was there and she kept checking her phone but I could tell she was trying to hide it from me. Finally I asked her what bars she was going to and she said she didn't know. I said okay fair enough, because when I go out I never know which bars I'm gonna go to. Moments after that, her roommate and her roommates boyfriend leave the apartment and say bye as if they wouldn't be seeing her for the rest of the night. This was sign #2 for me. I thought she was going out with her roommate and her boyfriend. When I questioned her about it, she quickly said that they were going to meet her there. At this point I knew something was up but I just didn't have enough evidence to prove it.
So finally 8:55 pm rolls around and she starts rushing to leave the house. I give her a kiss goodbye and I tell her I love her and leave. All the while I knew something was up. As soon as I got in my car I immediately started crying because I knew. I drove home and laid in my bed for a while. I finally started to feel really bad for thinking that she was cheating on me. She loves me too much so I knew she wouldn't do that to me. So I got up and went to a late night store to buy her some flowers. Since I have a key to her apartment I thought I would leave them for her as a surprise.
So the following day, I go to see her. She's still acting really strange but I was just like whatever. Finally after an hour of me trying to get the truth out of her she finally decides to tell me that instead of going out she really went to an old friends house (guy friend). They watched a movie and ate pizza according to her. The most fucked up part about the entire situation is that while I was at this late night store buying her flowers, her and her guy friend were there and they saw me and made it a point to hide from me.
Anyways, after telling me this she assured me that nothing happened. She said that they just watched a movie and ate pizza but by this point the doors of dishonesty had already been opened so I had really hard time believing her. But I forgave her and we moved on.
A couple weeks later we were having a conversation on honesty as it pertains to one of her good friends and his girlfriend. I said that there is no room for dishonesty in a relationship. "why cheat when you can leave" is my saying. After this conversation she decided to tell me that, the night she was at the guys house "eating pizza and watching a movie", they actually made out. By this point I wasn't shocked or mad. I was more disappointed and hurt. She gave me some lines and excuses and promised that it would never happen again. Being the guy I am, I forgave her. But now I don't know if that was the right decision. I love her to death but now I'm having a really hard time trusting her.
Help me!!!
My girlfriend and I have been really close for a little over a year almost literally spending at least 5 days a week together, we live 60 miles apart and have been spending the night with one another every night but recently My job calls for more overtime then usual which makes me tired and I've started sleeping in a little before driving back to her. Recently she texted me to come over but I was asleep, and then out of no where she texted me back saying "You're probably going to be mad but I already told her I would go out with her tonight", it was a friend from a long time ago in which I have never met. She said she was going out drinking with her. When I asked her where she said she didn't know yet. I then asked her if she wanted me to come later after she got back but she said she didn't know if she would be back or if they were going to spend the night at another friends house. So then I told her to have fun and I guess I will talk to her later. Anyways as the night progressed she randomly started texting me, it started with I love you, I'm so drunk right now, we're eating pizza now, and other random stuff. I was just wondering if anyone had an opinion since normally she wouldn't be texting me what she's doing on a regular basis, could this be the guilt thing described in the list of things to watch out for? If you have any suggestions please contact me via overthetop28787@aim.com or you can reply to me here on this page thanks in advance!!!
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I believe that your girlfriend has broken all trust in your relationship. Women are different than men. You are probably thinking that since they didnt have sex then things can be fixed but thats where we are wired different. What men get out of sex women can get out of a kiss or even something as simple as spending time with another person. She lied to you so many times that night as well as some time after that night. The saying is true: if she is willing to cheat on you she is willing to lie about it. You have to leave her or you will be dealing with what I am dealing with, but I am married...
Hi, I've been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year. I can tell you now that buying new/sexy clothes could be for YOU. I know I buy sexy clothes for my boyfriend because women like to feel desirable! If you don't make her feel desirable she'll look for someone you does.
Gift giving can just be a random and spontaneous gesture or gratitude. In relationships we sometimes forget to thank our better halves for making us happy. What you should do is buy her gifts back. If she is cheating, that could make her feel guilty enough to stop. In any case, man or woman, if your partner is suddenly nicer to you, you should mirror them.
A gut feeling is a good sign but a lot of people have trust issues/paranoia so you should gather more hard evidence before you accuse a partner of cheating and if you can't find any hard evidence to accuse with, then be open with them about your suspicions.
A lack of interest in sex could just be because you do the same thing constantly. Is she reaching orgasms regularly? Are you trying new things? Like I said, she wants to feel desirable/sexy as men like to feel needed/strong or whatever you like to feel. This is natural instinct.
If she hides her cell phone (I know I've done this several times) It could be because she texts her friends about you, discussing her emotions about you that she doesn't want you to see. Women's emotions fluctuate a lot, maybe she's telling a friend about an argument you had. If she starts hiding her cell phone, make an extra effort to not do anything she could tell her friends about. She could be telling her friends that you don't make her happy like you used to.
I think if your partner starts to show signs that they're not happy in their relationship (they usually do this BEFORE they start cheating) NIP IT IN THE BUD. Take a look at your relationship and ask yourself: How is it? Is it average? Could it be better? Do you make your partner really happy? Look out for how often they smile around you, take care of the little things and you should be fine.
If your partner is just a cheater at heart, look out for signs that they don't care about you i.e. not really listening to you, not keeping promises, not doing anything nice for you (very rarely) - more often than not, it's THIS kind of partner that's cheating on you.
Get some hard evidence before you accuse or dump. Seriously.
its not necessary that girls are always cheaters..
My girl cheated on me about a year ago after she found out i did something also (it was a one night wasted dont remember what happen and dont know who she is.) we been together for 8 years and have two kids. when she did cheat is was for four months and she had a relationship with the guy. I dont love her no where near like i did at one time. She wants to work things out. I still think about what happen and i dont trust her at all. If i feel this should i leave for myself and find a other women or stay for the kids.
Your article is not accurate. Maybe you based this on your experience.
Dear Emma,
Unfotunately sometimes the person your dealing with might actualy be inteligent and cunning, and your not gonna have or get any hard evidence. In this type of situation and actualy in any situation you find yourself involved with in life...Hone and Learn to recognize and LISTEN to your "Inner Voice" and "Gut Instinct" Its not gonna write a book for you..its just gonna tell you "something aint right here" If your realy "Strong in the force" Leave that relationship/walk out on a dime..no notice...save yourself a whole lot of bullshit...Train/develop this "inner voice/gut instinct"
It's your life..so dont let anyone take advantage of or use you or minimize you.
Your better than them, you are more loyal than them, your stronger and more inteligent than them...so dont believe all the bullshit feminist crap the world is selling.
Peace Brothers, Keep fighting the good fight.
high guys, i just want to ask a question.
The Situation is, my Girlfriend confess to me that she already done something with her ex boyfriend,, she do "everything" except giving her virginity, it happen not just once but twice with her two ex boyfriend . When she confess it to me, i feel so bad. .. To make her better, i pretend that i understand it( but i trying to understand it), but deep inside my feeling was so bad and so shock,, she looks like a innocent one but. after that confession,, there is something that change about my feeling to her what should i do. what should i realized?, plss help me about thisss..
Word of advice to all men 10 to1 if u feel ur girl is cheating she is. Y would any self respecting man WANT to think there lover is cheating. Things happen to MAKE u believe it. I am n a relationship as we speak and almost every girl I've ever felt with in the past has made a pass at me. Girls with boyfriends girls without boyfriends girls with kids n without married and single. My point is women never forget there past they never forget what they liked about someone n the past or how they treated them or how there past sexual experience. Now some wont back tract n some will but for the ones that don't back track there's always that thought of what they've been thru n they will try to rekindle those past feelings, iithoughts again subconsciously trust me. No one on earth is perfect no matter how much u love ur girlfriend there r some things u dislike about her if it b little or big either way that fact still remains
Well my girlfriend is showing some of these signs and there is a guy named aaron that she is "bestfriends" with. Also, I found a button up shirt while I was trying to pick out something for her to wear beacause she asked meh too. Well I asked her about it and she told meh it is his and of course i was pissed i mean who wouldnt be, and then I was playing with her phone yuh know looking at her pictures and i found at least 30 pictures of her posing in that shirt and panties and under all of the the title was His shirt with a heart beside it!!!! and out of my rage i deleted all of them, took the shirt and ripped it in half. I told her if she still wanted to be with meh she would stop talking to this guy and so far she still talks too him like once a month she talks to him like every 3 weeks and i ask her about it and she says there is nothing going on but idk i guess im just asking for advice. Can anybody help meh??
My Story :
My girlfriend and I been together for 3 months now and making 4 on saturday. On New Years day i was her and her family she went to the bathroom and i decided to go through her text messages. I found out that she was flirting with some kid from her school. Now she looks so innocent and i was close to her and her family so every time i would get that gut feeling i ignored it. Till i found out that she was flirting with the kid. It broke my heart when i found. Anyways she admitted to me she flirted with him & she also admitted she sat on the kids lap in school, and she never kissed him or anything major ( from what I know ). So i gave her another chance and some time passed since it happened and i woke up this morning having that gut feeling again, though she isn't really showing non of these sings like the first time.. I'm really lost right now and i need help bad !!! please if anyone can give me a hand on what to do , i'll be very thankful.
Thank you for your time in those who read this.
i think you done a good thing by giving her a second chance but to what i think and what i feel is that she might be hiding something else.yes,she might have told you that,but there might be more to it than you think
My wife works overseas and she comes home evry 3 months. Recently there have been some changes i can notice. 1. She want me to send her quality shampoo,lotion and red hair dyer. She need some jeans since she lose some weight. She didnt call me for weeks now, but she called her mom almost evryother day. I even dreamnt of her with another man, and recently dreanmt of her coming home pregnant.I dont know what to do????
has anyone noticed that the comments from the women all say they would,nt do that?? Theres your anwsers!!!! there are not!!!-are not any women,who would,nt cheat.period!!!
so what would you do if your with a girl for 4 years and find out that she was raped from age 10 untill age 14 and she ammited because of that acts it caused her to lose her morals and became a whore, yes i know a girl so young that she went that way its very sad and it broke my heart when i found this out. i started dating her from age 14 she has confesed to me that she was raped 2 weeks before i asked her out, now here is the scarry thing..... she lied to me for the frist year, question is though because of her father and the familey she came from no one trusts any one and each of them have back stabed one another, i know this because iv seen it with my own eyes. but would you trust her at this time and moment keep reading my freinds. now are 2 year question is that was the golden year were we had a good time their was no lieing (im getting my B.S. in crimnal justice, crimanl profiling im 19 atm shes 18 now but iv always been able to tell when any one is lieing to me) their was sex every day AND I MEAN EVERY DAY! for about untill are 3ed year when we were unable to keep are child and we "both" agreeded that abortion was the way to go yes i know it hurts it hurt so much i hated her for 5 mouths i personly didnt want her too but if we were to have that child we would have dammned are selfs what hurts even more is that it was twins a boy and a girl but also if she keeped the pregncy it also would have killed her. the choices we make and alow others to make sometimes can destroy a tad bit of love for each other, but i found out about her past in are 3 year also a few mouths after the abortion. now what hurt even more this guy she didnt even know took her from class (i asked her frineds and mine because i dont take a side i get all the info before making a judgment) and she looks very afried and she had no choice. now this guy THIS SHIT THIS FUCKING SUCM OF THE FUCKING EARTH RAPED HER NOW I WAS UNABLE TO CONTROLL MY ANGER BUT SHE LEFT SCHOOL AFTER IT HAPPENS AND CAME STRAIGHT TO ME I UNABLE TO THINK SHOVED HER TO THE GROUND AND WALKED AWAY. i took a kinfe and went to that school grabed that kid and heald the blade to his balls and said to him if i EVER EVEN HEAR THAT YOUR LOOKING AT HER CONSIDER THEM GONE! she told me about the rape once i got back i begged her to go to the courts and she said she cant shes not strong enough just like all the other times she was raped. unable to do any thing becasue she was so afried... now we are on 4 year things are better... both her and i are very sexual being and sex is the biggest thing that has keeped us together good sex for both partners is very important for a reashenship because she might get her orgasm but still not be sexualy exsited while also yes us guys can cum but not feel any joy or any thing just that it was a task. the bed room love is very important I CAN NOT STRESSE HOW IMPORANT IT IS! now you guys out their sometimes when you ask your girl for the truth AND THE TRUTH ABOUT HER PAST remeber...you asked and thats something we have to deal with every one has a past sad thing is i was also raped as a child so of corse i had to tell her because we were sick of the lies of one another's past. call it poetic justic but sometimes people do find who they are to be with. now i read every singal post of you guys from start to now and guys trust me you will know if your girl is cheating their is no gut fealing its the fact of the matter if shes not ahving sex if shes no longer showing you love if she is no longer doing what you wanna do or doing what you love sexualy you have lost her. once the bed room love dies move on because she did a week before that happend. im talking from experince i might be only 19 but iv have a to many experinces of lost loves and loves that die. sometimes its hard to accpet what happens in life but you have to accpet it life changes life is crazy nothing is finite or ever lasting enjoy the moments you have with the girls even if it leads to her cheating on you remember it wasnt your falt its just she needed more and she wasnt able to get it from you...... god those words even hurt saying and bring tears to my eyes because its so true...lol but im happy i loved them and had time with them.
now this might not be a place to post what iv said...but you know iv had this in me and unable to post for ever just building and building. i hope this helps someone or reachs someone who might end up down my path and is looking for a road sign. trust me im a person with perinoa and major trust issuses such big trust issuses i am unable to trust my mother or father. but once you have that girl who dosnt want to leave when she needs to or stays up all night when she has to go to work or college the next moring and your talking and having sex and talking and sex thats when you know you have somthing special. im young but i figured out what works for me.
after reading this post and other guys stories i am about to break down........ iv been with my girlfriend for almost 9 months now and im almost 100% sure she is cheating on me........ for the past month or two she has completly changed... she hardly talks to me anymore and never seems happy when we are together...... its like she always wants to be with someone ells.... she never shows her affection the way she used to and has completly lost her sex drive..... there is this guy at her karate school that she cant stop talking about... she even said that if we ever break up she might go out with him..... i asked her to join the karate school with her but she said she didnt want me there and needs her space even though before he was there she had asked me to join but i just didnt have the time...... if she where anyone ells then i would have ended it by now but i have never felt the way i feel with her with any one before.... i really think she is the one.... or at least thats what i used to thing...... if i loes her then i dont know what i will do because she means everything to me..... i would really appreaciate it if anyone could give me any advice about this..... i really need it....
hey broken just try and see what happens. but it sounds like she has all readdy made up her mind and what ever she is getting from you it will end of not being enough and she will leave you for that guy. once a girl says "if we were to break up id be with blah" it means shes thought about it and she might be waiting for the right time i say just end it so you dont feel like you get crushed by her. but then agen give her a few mouths or a few weeks dont be a stalker or any thing but try and see maybe if their is also a problem in the reasnship the problem isnt her and the problem isnt you its something and if she wants the relasnship to work with you she will say waht the problem is. IF SHE DOSNT SAY THEIR IS A PROBLEM THEN THEIR IS AND SHES NOT WILLING TO WORK IT OUT WITH YOU THEN LEAVE HER. never wast your time with someone who wont work with you to fix a problem.
When your girlfriend is texting other guys, spending time with other guys, or talking about getting back with an ex boyfriend, end it. Whether or not she's cheating on you, those are apparant signs of you having a BAD GIRLFRIEND/WIFE. It doesn't matter if she cheats or not. If she does things that you don't really aprove her, she honestly doesn't love you. You can't stay with somebody who makes you sacrifice all of the things you believe in, if he/she isn't willing to do so. I know you "love" your girlfriend, but she doesn't care. There are more girls, and also, you have your friends. Friendship can always prevail. I was with my girlfriend for a year. We've had our ups and downs. I was suicidal and depressed in the beginning because of how badly she hurt me, whether it was trivial or not. As far as I know she never cheated on me (so she says), but she was the worst girlfriend I've ever had. After a certain point, you start to realize that you'll be happier without her. FUCK IT. If she cries who gives a fuck? If she begs for you back who gives a fuck. She didn't "give a fuck" about me crying myself to sleep every night so why give a fuck about her? It goes hand in hand. Even though I'm trying to give people advice, we're humans, and when we're in love, we refuse to believe anything about moving on, but in time, I hope this helps whomever needs it.
Ok so after 6 months of me and my gf dating she wouldn't talk to me hold my hand or even kiss me like she usually did. So we broke 2 weeks after this started happening. Then the next day I found out she did cheat on me . I had thought she was cheating when all this first started happening but I chose not to believe it . So go with your gut feeling . Also she still won't admit that she did when I asked her friends about it they said they wanted to tell me but didn't know how to. So theirs my shitty story. This whole thing could have been avoided if I would have known she was a hoe. And the guy she's with now is a total scumbag and a deutsche. Crazy shit!!!!
I've jus found out my girlfriend, partner, wife and best friend has been cheating on me the whole of our 7 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. Her friend exposed her and one night while drunk said she has had sexual relationships with 5 different men. When I confronted my girlfriend about it she denied everything and said her friend was causing trouble. Eventually after days of lies she admitted to most of it. But still maintains that two of the men were lies. One was a friend of mine that her friend said went on in our house for a few months while I was a work and the other was with a man my girlfriend mentioned on numerous occasions but said he was just an admirer that she didnt like. She is adamant that these two did not happen and even added two more Men to the list of ppl she had cheated with.
To get her 2 confess I confessed to the numerous 1 night stands I have had. She now wants 2 forget about it and start afresh. I do love her and no I am also guilty of lying and cheating however only ever had 1 night stands or very brief flings. She had long drawn out affairs with ppl the longest one going on for over 8 months. Wen I look bk at the relationship and think all those gut instincts I had and feelings of insecurity it makes me so Fukin nad
There have been countless times when things just didnt quite add up or i jus didnt believe the story she was telling me. I had plently sleepless nights over these issues and really should of just walked away but she would go all out to convice me she was telling the truth and made me believe it was allin my head and i was paranoid.
Now we both know that we hgave cheated on each other we have taken a break apart although we have still been meeting up for sex. She has been alot more eager to please since this has came out and is more willing to deep throat for example than she has ever been in the whole 7 years. She mentioned that her most recent affair was with a guy with her words "a massive dick" which made me feel absoultley fantastic as i am a little below average.However she constantly tells me that she never gave him oral sex which is very hard to believe as she has only admitted to having sex with him 4 times each time being in his car. I also noticed her pussy was more stretched so feel inadequate and feel as though i will be unable to satisfy her sexually now which has been reinforced by her obbsession of using her rampant rabbit while we as doing it. She always says im the only man who has ever made cum from jus vaginal penertration but i think she is lying to make me feel good.
I know whats done is done and we cant change the past but as she has lied so much i find it hard to believe her and believe there is alot more to her infidelity but she now refuses to talk about it and threatens to never see me again if i mention it. I hate her and want to move on but love her and miss what we had at the same time. Sex with her is amazing and no one else has compared. I want her to admit everything but she is a cold hearted lyin bitch and as even boasted that if it wasnt for her friend i would never of found out and she would of denied it forever. Just before i found out she was pestering me to ask her to marry her and move back in with her and start a family. Is this girl nuts? it hurts that i trusted and committed to this woman and i dont even know who she is. im struggling to come to terms with it all can any one help or has any1 got any advice
My partner of almost nine years recently started a job about 3 months ago where she has to go away for upto two weeks at a time, I've been getting major gut feelings after her third stint of r&r that somethings going on (something seemed different) but don't want to react on my gut instinct and confront her because this could ruin the trust in our relationship. For my birthday she sent me overseas for a month which is where I'm currently writing this message from even though I said I didn't really want to go she gave me a guilt trip saying stuff like "I would go if I could" and "hardly anyone gets this kind of opportunity" so here I am lol giving me the feeling like I was being placed out of the way so she could have freedom, since I have been gone she has been going partying and drinking with her work friends (mainly guys but a few girls) who i believe are bad influences on her she talks about them all the time. In the past she has been knowen to get crazy when drinking and sometimes very sexual to the point where this one time she basically forced me to have a threesome with her and a girlfriend of hers (I didn't want to do it due to the high possibility it would ruin our relationship but still did it because I love her and want to make her happy) she has now told me just tonight that on her next r&r she's going to the city (our house is in a smaller town about 5 hours drive from there) to watch a concert with her work friends on the 10th of feb, I just checked it Online to see how much the tickets cost and the concert she was talking about is not untill the 10th of Apr not Feb so I'm not sure if this is a lie so she can fuck around on me or a mistake. I'm also getting far less emotion from her then I'm use to even when I was leaving on the plane she didn't look sad or cry it sucks that all these signs are pointing to the negative and seems most likely shes about to cheat if she hasn't already... What y'all think? Any advice would be appreciated.
Heres something someone else wrote a while back on this post sounds pretty real.
No matter how logical she is and no matter what she says, the minute she gets into a situation with a guy where it's on, her emotions will take over, and she will try to justify it with logic later on.
So therefore, any time a girl encourages a guy to keep in touch, swap numbers or to meet up as 'friends' then you know that she is committing a voluntary act of potentially being unfaithful with you.
i have guestion. i was with my girl lastnight if noticed alot of this stuff before and she was sleeeping and her fone was blowing up so i checked her fone making sure its nothing bad and its all one person jessica so i open it and it another guy. so i looked at all the older msg and i saw some sketch stuff she said do u think im cute guy said yea very 3 days later she was like so when we going on that date... so i woke her and asked her wat it was about she said it was her old gay friends from high school...idk wat to do can someone help me plzz
I have been with my daughter's mother for the past 8 years. she has always love me and according to her, she has never tought of cheating on me even went i'm away. Four year ago, i left for a job opportunity outside of my country. I meet her every 6 month. She pretend to be a devoted christian since we met 8 years ago.I have always being her source of income, we keep constant communication up to late hours. we are like housband and wife. we have a plann in place to get marry 5 months from now. In december 2011, when i went for vacation, in our bed room, i say 3 packs of empty comdom, when i asked her, she first deny and began to cried on me. at a little date, she admited that she was having a sexual relationship with a guy.
At one pointing time, i saw some strange cell numbers and love massagies in her phone belonging to more than one guy. She has called her parents and friends to beg me for forgivness. I love my daughter so dearly, I have always pray never to have another woman other than my daughter's mother. How can i again trust such a woman who had been cheating on me while i'm away from country and at the same time pretending to be a perfect woman for me? we forgive but we don't forget. I am seriously hurt by her action. Please help me, our wedding is scheduled 5 months from now.
If you think it's about to happen do you say something or do you wait till the deed is done. I just spoke to my girl and said that if that shit happens it's over, was that the right thing to do?
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John 3 years ago
well...
good article!
we should also add that she will never ever say "yes i cheated on you" if you ask her!
and when you ask this kind of questions, she won't be able to look into your eyes... even if you tell her to look into your eyes!
John